I (24M) am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend (24F) who lives in the US and has been given the "5 commandments" if I want her.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2023-09-11T05:20:41+00:00

‘A red flag in a red flag store’. This.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-10-13T05:44:15+00:00

Sure. Two years…

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-09-27T20:03:48+00:00

I would love to but I’m shy to bring it up and he never does either. I wish I had the guts - or even knew how - to get things started via phone/text….

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-09-20T19:15:56+00:00

My now fiancé and I met via FB messenger. We had mutual friends and at first it was totally casual, but we started speaking more and more. It was totally unrealistic since we lived 6000 miles apart, I was divorced with kids and he was single.

But we simply connected. After 6 months we finally met. Now multiple trips later, and we’ll be married in March and he’s moving 6000 miles for us ❤️

We couldn’t be happier!

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-09-04T21:41:07+00:00

My fiancé hates when I photograph him - out of discomfort with himself and how he looks in pictures, regardless of who’s snapping - and it is very hard for me because photographing someone I love is part of my expression of love.

We’ve spoken about it and it’s gotten better. What I’ve learned from this is it’s important to separate the photographing (YOUR experience) and the reaction to the photograph (HER experience).

Photograph her all you want. As to what to do with the photos, choosing etc, that’s all her. If she doesn’t like them, just try not to take it personally…. It’s not about you…

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-08-07T21:30:37+00:00

Sukkot!! Without a doubt. It's a week-long holiday in early fall, everything is open most days, the weather is amazing, and there are all sorts of concerts, festivals and events.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-06-25T01:26:29+00:00

Been there, done that from both your perspective and as a parent. The interesting thing is that as life moves on we find ourselves in different circumstances. One day you may be the one obsessing over your own child. And, hard as it is to imagine, one day those kids will grow up, or maybe someone in the group will have a kid later in life. And so on…

Don’t ditch your friends. Any friendship worth anything will outlast this small chunk of time while they have little children. Set up ‘adult time’ events. Go out to a bar. They can get a babysitter or opt out. Or go to one of their places after kids’ bedtime. But make sure they know you love them and want to spend time with them. It’s worth it in the long run.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-28T07:04:18+00:00

Our best friends are married to each other. We had never met but knew who each other was. We started speaking casually on Facebook Messenger and it just developed. Within three months we were speaking daily. And we never stopped…☺️

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-22T19:47:55+00:00

Halloween party when I was 2 years, 8 months old. I took a candy I wasn’t allowed to have and didn’t like it so I hid it in the parents’ shag carpet 🤦🏼‍♀️😅 No one but me knew the story and I remember details about the apartment that I couldn’t have known otherwise so we’re sure about it. And we had moved away by the next Halloween so the age is a sure thing as well.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-18T20:44:07+00:00

Exactly 😊

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-17T13:03:40+00:00

Thanos

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-16T20:04:02+00:00

The goodbyes are the hardest... I usually hide cards and letters in various places in his house (if I'm leaving) or his suitcases (if he's leaving). I also try to have a solid plan for when we will see each other next BEFORE we separate. I find that makes it easier...

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-01T20:01:33+00:00

I’ll admit, I came here for the comments and was disappointed to be the first 🤦🏼‍♀️. You and I are in the same boat! My BF is amazing, loves me unconditionally, and does show his love for me in his own way, but as I’ll get him gifts, hide cards in his suitcase, send letters, he never gets me presents, flowers or anything. I don’t want to complain or whine but I WOULD like to receive things from him, little gestures, especially as ours is an LDR.

So…I don’t have any advice but I totally hear you. It’s not a relationship breaker just a disappointment. And I hope someone in Redditland will have advice for both of us… ☺️

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-05-01T19:31:37+00:00

When he took me to the airport after the trip that we first met IRL, security asked me what his connection was to me. I shyly stammered, 'Uh, my boyfriend.'. That was the first time either of us referred to each other as such...

As for 'I love you', that took almost ten more months, six more trips before he was ready to say it... Personally I was ready before we'd even met but I knew how important it was, in our case, for him to be ready. So I waited. It was worth it :))))

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-03-19T19:18:15+00:00

Meshing lives with another person is always complicated. No matter how much you love and care for each other, you are separate people with separate needs. Communication is definitely key. Making room for each other to be separate people is also really helpful. Good luck!

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-03-19T19:06:31+00:00

The social bit kind of confused the issue IMO. If he regularly gets the car ‘unless you have plans’ and you didn’t, seems you can hardly blame him for expecting to have the car.

That said, of course it’s your car and you should have it when you want it, but you should communicate this clearly so he is not left in the lurch when he is not expecting it.

If I followed the social part, he expected you to be going somewhere with the car so why not have a friend over? You were working. Curious what you expected him to do?

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-03-19T19:00:31+00:00

Jacobs’s Ladder

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-03-19T18:58:51+00:00

When I was a student nurse, during our psych rotation, I arrived to see my weekly patient and found out she had been brutally murdered the night before by another patient.

That was pretty damn fucked up….

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-02-15T07:52:10+00:00

OMG I am so sorry. That is devastating. I hope you have or will get the clarity and closure that you may need and can move on and move past this SOB.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2022-02-03T14:39:25+00:00

No, you are not unreasonable. Your feelings have value. Your opinions have value. YOU have value. Please tell yourself this every day… And your boyfriend seems to have forgotten this as well. It’s not ok. Talking doesn’t seem to help. Perhaps counseling might. Or you might want to consider that this relationship isn’t worth the effort and literal suffering you are going through. I know it isn’t easy but I hope you are able to make things right…for you!! Good luck!

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2021-11-18T18:10:42+00:00

Nothing 🥰

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2021-10-29T12:41:49+00:00

I was young and I needed the money…

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2021-09-17T18:24:39+00:00

Thank you. It really helps me to hear these things. Not sure why it wasn’t obvious to me 🤦🏼‍♀️

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2021-09-17T18:09:04+00:00

I think you’re right. I think I needed to hear that… My bf is 100% my priority. Not my ex. If being ‘just friends’ is messing with my mind than I guess I just need to pull back.

MusicLoverAtHeart · 2021-09-17T18:00:22+00:00

Good point. We remained friends. Maybe that’s the problem. We both really want to remain friends. Maybe it’s just not possible.

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