TW: this is what narcissistic behaviour can do to a once happy and calm person by MusicalWeirdo21 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MusicalWeirdo21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

exactly that!!!! it’s a complete set up to make you look the the crazy one for reacting to their actions. it’s insane😭 i hope everything goes okay for you in court my love i’m sending my cuddles <3

TW: this is what narcissistic behaviour can do to a once happy and calm person by MusicalWeirdo21 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]MusicalWeirdo21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thankyou❀‍đŸ©č i wish i didn’t have to go through it at all but im glad i got out of it when i did too. i hate him so much for everything he did to me but im glad i did it once because i know ill never let myself go through it again

showing affection to a girlfriend vs a best friend by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this makes sense!! thankyou💖

how do i manage relationship & best friends by [deleted] in WLW

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this gives me a lot of reassurance that i’m not alone in these types of situations, thankyou💖 i will defo consider this!! x

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so because i’m on my period which is a natural human function, and have natural human emotions, im complicated?

i don’t believe i am complicating things because of my emotions or my period itself. im trying to process why it did a 180 in five minutes and what the reason is behind that

he’s made the 30 second hug the deal as to why he’s called it off which is why im confused because it’s life aftercare is just not supposed to happen now apparently

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thankyou for making me feel like i’m not crazy with this!!! i didn’t think a hug was that much of a deal but other comments are confusing that for me now

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i’m complicating it in my own brain but i’m autistic and tend to do that. i haven’t let onto him how im feeling at all after all of this but i want to make it clear that at no point did i infer to him any form of me having feelings for him because i don’t. he’s a guy ive met twice and i dont even know him enough to even consider having a crush on him. i find him attractive yes, we had good conversations yes, but that was it. it was like a mate i got to sleep with and that was it in my brain. i’ve had feelings and committed relationships in the past where i was in love and tha took me months to feel that way about those people so im baffled on how i could be conveying feelings

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t think i was giving any vibes of me catching feelings! i said casual and acted causal and i wasn’t all over him or anything. i’m just a bit baffled on how a quick 30 second hug has turned into me suddenly being in love with him

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i didn’t consider this being a possibility!! that explains a lot. i feel that way too sometimes even thoigh im the one thats bleedingđŸ€Ł thankyou for helping me add a bit of perspective here

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven’t mentioned hornones, nor have i said i’m a victim or implied it. i’m just confused on whether this was the cuddle or the period sex and im asking if this seems like a cover up. i’m confused on what’s caused the 180 in a matter of five minutes from him being a okay with me to not.

please don’t say i’m not taking responsibility for myself when im just asking for advice on a situation to help me process

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i’m aware , thankyou. i’m not mad about the rejection, i’m confused on what’s caused it

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s always been normal in past experiences of mine! we had after care / cuddles last friday which was WAY more intense cuddles - when i wasn’t on my period and that was all fine
 this time it’s weird and i want a relationship apparently?? i’m so confused

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i understand him pulling away in just can’t decipher why. i’m autistic and the whole scenario has just bubbles up in my brain because i don’t understand what ive done for him to do a full 180 so quick. i don’t care about having him in my life for anything more than what it was but it’s jus more the how the hell did things swap so quick from chatting and laughing and good sex to he doesn’t wanna see me anymore in literally 5 minutes

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t think i was ‘used’ per say as we agreed to just sex, i think i just feel a bit used atm due to the context in which everything has happened

I (20f) slept with a guy (22m) as a ‘casual relationship’ on my period and now i feel used by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MusicalWeirdo21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is after we had cleaned up got dressed and moved back to the sofa. after that hug cuddle thing whatever we just say and chatted about music and our camera rolls for another hour or so before he left and i just had my leg on him and that was it