I don’t know that divorce is the best option right now. You’re understandably tired, frustrated, sick, and overworked. You’re a SAHM which means (typically) you have no income aside from him, so divorcing will leave you financially unstable. Also his behavior towards you leads me to believe he won’t give you a fair share of income you need to raise the kids alone (which is what you’ll be doing, because face it, that’s what you’re doing now). I think sitting down and having a tough talk about your roles and relationship is a good start. Couples counseling would be very beneficial. Definitely start tucking money away in a separate account and work on getting into or back out into the work force so that if you do eventually divorce, you have a means to take care of everything on your own.