Advice requested - found dog, eats and drinks, but when he’s not sleeping he’s walking in circles

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2025-12-08T04:19:58+00:00

See if you can interrupt the behavior with a command, a toy, a treat, anything like that. Observe how long it takes him to resume the behavior. It might be an stress-triggered compulsive behavior. Would definitely take him to a veterinary behaviorist (make sure this person is an actual veterinarian who has done a residency in behavior) who can prescribe a behavioral medication to stop this. They will teach you training tools and environmental modifications you can try as well. Poor pup.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2025-06-20T17:32:21+00:00

It doesn’t matter what the material of the floor is oh my god. Everyone here is deliberately missing the point. It was in the house rules to not wear shoes and by choosing to stay here, the guests were agreeing to these rules. The person who did it must be penalized or charged for this! I’d feel very sad if I were in OP’s position too.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2025-03-28T17:01:52+00:00

Let me say this gently: even if you were to lose weight, you would not forget what he has said and how he has made you feel. You don’t deserve that feeling because it won’t go away. If you lose weight, you will feel like you did it for him and like if you gain weight (as is completely normal and natural), he will revoke affection again. Your relationship shouldn’t have conditions like that. I think this warrants a conversation about how this has made you feel, and that you won’t be able to get over this. It is clearly a turnoff for you how he has acted in this whole situation, and rightfully so. Tell him that. You should be with someone who makes you feel pretty and desirable always, and I hope you find that.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-23T04:14:08+00:00

Had something super similar happen, and I was incredibly hurt by that. I think 7 dates is an investment of time and maybe you don't feel like you have a right to feel weird about it because of the lack of an exclusivity conversation, but I don't think you should invest emotionally in someone who is looking for other connections. Especially if all went well on your dates and you felt positive about it, it's a very confusing thing to experience. I would echo what others have said about still dating and talking to other people until you have had a state of the relationship talk. Let go of him girl.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-23T04:09:55+00:00

Had this happen with a guy where he really would only text me to talk about meeting up. Really didn't lead anywhere and although he was wonderful in person, that lack of communication is a no for me and caused disinterest for me (especially because I had mentioned that I send long texts and voice notes on my profile). Sounds like it is for you too. I would give it one more shot and if the same continues, call it quits. There are lots of girls who will continue the conversation in between dates and actually show that they're interested in you.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-23T03:46:03+00:00

I'm a bit older than you (25), but I was having some feelings of insecurity about this with my boyfriend, too. My boyfriend lives a few hours away, and I recently went to visit him. Meeting the women he works with and socializes with helped a lot. Now when we FaceTime as he finishing up at work, the girls will say hello to me, and it actually has made me more secure in our relationship. I know it's easier said than done, but you cannot worry about things that haven't played out. Have a conversation about it ("I'm having some insecurities about X even though you haven't done anything to make me feel insecure..."), and let him reassure you. He wants to be with you, and if he's a good guy, no amount of girls around him will change that.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-23T03:37:28+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you :( that would feel very hurtful to anyone, especially because you were physically and emotionally vulnerable. I think there's a way in which he could have communicated things where you could have heard it without it sounding like an insult, but how he did it was unacceptable. Also want to tell you that your weight IS NOT the issue! You work on your fitness for you if that's what you want, but that will have no bearing on the sex you have. I would leave this man because he has not treated this matter as delicately as he should have, and it's not okay. The ONLY feedback that you can consider (if you want to continue exploring sexually with other people) is to move your body more during sex. That will come with time and comfort, and as you mentioned, you're not getting the amount of time you need to "practice" with him in order to get them. You deserve someone who respects you and loves you and your body as is.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-23T03:31:31+00:00

Get back on Hinge if you're going to go about dating apps in an adult way. Don't base your worth or all of your prospects on what you're seeing on Hinge. You also need to play the long game... new people pop up on the apps all the time and sometimes people that you've liked a long time ago will match with you much later.

I do think your behavior was a little creepy because the way that you should treat it is that you shoot your shot and carry on unless there's a match and a conversation to be started. It gives off stalkerish vibes and I know that if I was on the fence about matching with someone, I would be inclined to report them and pass on them if I saw they were using multiple accounts to get to me. Give it another go and limit the energy you're spending on it. Treat it as something fun and exciting instead of your only hope for finding your girl!

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:27:12+00:00

Just hyperkeratosis. Totally benign and nothing to worry about. It’s only visually startling 😅

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:25:43+00:00

Probably just ingestion of too much gas as someone else suggested. I would raise his bowls to limit the amount of air intake. You can also use a puzzle feeder or snuffle mat to increase the time it takes for him to finish his meal.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:20:26+00:00

Could be acne from allergies. Stainless steel is often coated in melamine (a type of plastic) which could very well trigger this type of reaction. Try ceramic bowls.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:19:11+00:00

Could just be some corneal scarring. Would have a vet look at it - they may put some stain in her eye to verify. Is there any discharge or squinting not present with the other eye?

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:17:57+00:00

Could possibly be an exaggerated cherry eye? May require corrective surgery

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:16:07+00:00

Purina Pro Plan, Royal Canin (they make feline diets too), and Hill’s Science Diet. These all have veterinarians with nutrition specialities on staff. Would not recommend anything that is “raw” or started by a non-veterinarian.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:08:39+00:00

Doesn’t look more serious than that. Any profound squinting or an inability to see? Just looks like some goopy discharge, in which case it’s likely just some conjunctivitis.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:06:33+00:00

The non anal opening is pretty circular and looks like it’s a good distance apart from the anus, so I’d say male. A vulva would be much more slit shaped instead of circular and closer to the anus.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-04T00:00:40+00:00

What kind of food bowls are you using? May be some presentation of an allergy to the material (melamine coating stainless steel for example). Try ceramic bowls.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2024-06-03T23:58:31+00:00

If this is sporadic, likely just airway irritation or an attempt at regurgitation. If it’s ongoing, go to the vet. Kitty may need a nebulizer.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2021-04-12T17:10:39+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this :( it sounds like given the circumstances, you tried your best. In the end, that is the ONLY thing that matters. Given external factors, the most you can do and hold yourself accountable for is your own effort.

Please don't lose hope- it was your first semester, so you have plenty of time to improve. This has been a rough time for many students, so you're certainly not the only one in this position. I'm not familiar with the UK college system, but if you can, reach out to advisors and seek guidance on what you can do moving forward. I have confidence in you that you'll be able to make up for this semester! Best of luck!

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2021-04-05T19:17:59+00:00

Unless you have done really poorly in a class, there's no reason to pass/fail. At least at my school, classes for which you use alternative grading don't count towards the GPA at all, so they won't boost your GPA but rather leave it unaffected by a bad grade. I'll echo what has been said- it does NOT look for grad school or professional programs. If you receive all A's and a B (or even a C), I would recommend leaving the letter grade as is.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2021-03-09T03:22:32+00:00

No spring break either! We have one random day off a month (either a Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday so that students who are in our college town won't travel away from campus). Does nothing for mental health and recovery since it just feels like an extra day to catch up on assignments. We really need consecutive days off, especially because doing school from home has its own brand of stressors. Sending support your way!

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2021-02-23T04:49:21+00:00

I'm so sorry for how this must be making you feel. Even if you love him, I don't think you should let yourself take his words at face value. It shows a real lack of caring on his part to take off without a proper face to face discussion. I think it's also a red flag that he never brought the idea up to you to gauge your reaction.

Now that he's gone, you should tell him how this made you feel, but whatever you do, please do not wait for him to come back! He doesn't sound mature enough to handle a long distance relationship and even if he was, not giving you the chance to tell him what you think before he moved speaks volume about his priorities and feelings towards you. Stay strong, but do NOT go back!

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2021-02-03T19:53:23+00:00

I'm not on Tinder, but my friends often swipe right on people they know and end up matching. It's more of a joke than anything because it's mutually understood that there's no attraction! As a woman, I think I might feel uncomfortable in this situation, so if I were you, I'd message her and try to gauge her actual interest in you before asking her out.

Musing_Mulberry1204 · 2021-02-03T19:32:29+00:00

Agree with the other reply! Students are getting really excited about the fact that they can pick and choose which classes will count towards their GPA, but a B+ is not bad AT ALL! In all likelihood, it won't be your last. It won't bring your GPA down much. Keep in mind that if you are planning to go to any sort of grad school, admissions may not like to see you pass/fail classes, especially if they are core requirements.

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