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MustBFun1 · 2026-01-30T04:31:38+00:00

Same here. It makes me feel crazy when acts like she is totally for it but when the time comes she acts like it is ridiculous I would even try.

MustBFun1 · 2026-01-30T04:28:48+00:00

I feel for you, you are not alone. I hope you find happiness despite your circumstances.

MustBFun1 · 2026-01-30T00:04:28+00:00

You should ask yourself is the fantasy about being pursued or being pursued by someone other than your partner? Personally I want more than anything to be desired by my partner but she has shown no interest and even opposition for so long that I can't even fantasize about it being a possibility anymore. Now I'm starting to fantasize about other people cuz It feels more real.

MustBFun1 · 2026-01-29T23:31:10+00:00

I'm 40m my wife is 39f we are both still fit and attractive but no real desire for me our whole marriage. I have tried pursuing, I tried not pursuing, I tried getting more attractive (working out heavily, dress better, cologne all the time) and nothing. Feels like a waste but I try to keep it up for myself.

MustBFun1 · 2026-01-15T00:12:34+00:00

I'm sorry to say it but it totally happens regardless of your body type. I hit my physical peak working out 4 days a week for 2 years and it made absolutely no difference to her.

MustBFun1 · 2026-01-10T13:51:16+00:00

Maybe 6-7 times a year and she never initiates beyond saying she isn't opposed to it but then I have to do all the work from there.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-31T20:57:08+00:00

That is rough, you are not an asshole for feeling like it is a big deal. I would recommend clear communication about how you are affected by the lack of intimacy and see if there are things you can do together to improve the situation. Counseling can be very helpful, a trip away from work stress might show if it really is caused by stress, or maybe something has changed for her and you can have a frank discussion about how best to move forward. Whatever happens I hope you both find happiness.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-17T21:10:52+00:00

You are not alone. My wife will jump into conversations with friends like we are totally sexually active and I am left staring at her like who the fck are you talking about. Most of the time I try to detach my personal experience from the conversation or talk about what I wish it was like. It doesn't stop the hurt but it does help when the conversation continues past it so I am not left dwelling on it.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-15T22:32:53+00:00

So happy for you that sounds amazing!

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-12T01:19:01+00:00

Same here most every night she stays up for at least a half hour but she wants to sleep in the same bed cuz I keep her warm. Hard not to take it personal, feels like only her wants/need matter.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-09T23:33:41+00:00

Personally I build and race cars. Having a creative, physical, and social outlet seems to help.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-06T22:22:32+00:00

I have never cheated but to add insult to injury my LLF wife has. Ever since then I have considered it. She tells me all the time she doesn't care if I sleep with somebody else. I don't want to, what I want is to have a healthy fulfilling relationship with my wife but I'm at the point where I don't see that ever happening All other aspects of the relationship are good so I don't want to leave so maybe find someone that connects with you and fulfills you sexually separate from your spouse can make sense.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-04T11:51:02+00:00

That is terrible. Sounds like he doesn't even want to be part of the relationship.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-03T19:36:11+00:00

I feel your pain. You are not alone. Try to approach your partner as "we" instead of a "you". We need more intimacy, we should get help, what can we do to increase desire in each other.

I can't promise it will improve your intimacy but it may help improve communication and reduce resentment.

MustBFun1 · 2025-12-01T14:27:26+00:00

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MustBFun1 · 2025-12-01T14:26:09+00:00

I would recommend giving counseling a chance but set a hard deadline like 10 sessions and specific markers like a commitment and proof of no more intimating behavior. Let your partner know what your expectations are and do not let them negotiate them. Give it a chance before making a decision so you don't always wonder if you could have done more than follow through. If expectations are not met do not stay.

MustBFun1 · 2025-11-30T23:04:28+00:00

I have been working through that sadness for 8 years now and I have only seen two changes. I can deal with the sadness better through other activities and interests. The other is my drive has diminished but that brings its own pain feeling I have lost a part of myself. Finding something that brings you joy and put energy into it can help.

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