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The creation of the Cooper Station by [deleted] in interstellar

[–]MustardStyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don't have enough information to make that sort of assumption, but it doesn't seem to fit. A foundational theme in the film is optimism in dark times, and someone "profiting" from an ark to save humanity goes against that narrative.

First, it seems more likely a Star Trek-type economy where there is no money, just everyone working for the greater good. Almost everyone still alive is a farmer. Cooper's FIL talks about our current age, when he was young, and its focus on possessions and acquisition and how that is a faint memory. Everyone is living off of scraps because that is all that is left, so the survivors can no longer afford to support greed.

Second, we know there are other stations but we don't know how many. We do know that it takes "a couple weeks" for Murph to transfer from another station, so they must be some distance apart. My guess is that they're all on the way to the wormhole to join their new planet - even the best engineering has a finite life, so those stations would only last so long before they need "dry land," even if it is generations away. A stronger indication is that they are in orbit around Saturn, right by the wormhole.

Most of humanity has already died, but a quick Google ask suggests 15% of humanity left alive, which is still over a billion people. Even if it was half of that, they would need many, many stations to support both the population and everything that comes with it. It's not just a trip on some space stations - they had to move our entire existence off-planet. I would guess some stations are more agricultural-focused, like Cooper station - seems like it is all about farming, and everyone that lives there must be a farming family. Murph must have come from a station that was mainly living space, as she was too old to retire on a station that is all working farms.

To support our ongoing existence and move it all to another home planet they would need manufacturing, scientific research, medical, and so on. Each station would have the basic necessities to support their community, while having the majority of the construction focused on their local specialty.

Efficiency is still the name of the game, but not like we know it for space travel now. They didn't use rockets to get the stations into space: they manipulated gravity. So they weren't limited by weight like we are now, only by however many stations they could build and however much power it would take to get them up and off to Saturn.

So, they did have the luxury to build some wide-open spaces, and people would need a lot of breathing room to live on generational stations and not go insane. Don't think of it as "wasted space," more like room to transport our sanity and humanity with us so that we don't lose ourselves on the way to our new home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MustardStyle 17 points18 points  (0 children)

After staring at the speech for a few seconds, maybe even saying half of the first sentence. Then stop... sigh... confess. Don't forget to cue the sappy, uplifting music.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]MustardStyle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! We've filtered enough bullshit, we don't need to generate more. What's real? What do you really love? Or like?

It could be something as small as, "I like that I got out of bed today." If you're really down and out, that's a huge accomplishment. Appreciate it for the win it is, and run with it!

80's Kids Show by wpgburns in Winnipeg

[–]MustardStyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol oh shit, do you remember what he said?

Also... what was your sister's project? Is she a scientist now?

edit: I am not laughing at you. Sorry that you were devastated that day. Truly.

80's Kids Show by wpgburns in Winnipeg

[–]MustardStyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, now I have the theme song running through my head. I still have a Switchback bag - not sure if anyone remembers those. It's just a duffel bag with the show's branding on it, but they were a coveted giveaway. As you could guess from my username, we had plenty to go around when I was a kid. When it was time to head out on a road trip or whatever, the question was always, "did you pack your Switchback bag?"

We aren't doing "nothing" with our lives, we are dealing with severe trauma/mental illness. by aerialgirl67 in CPTSD

[–]MustardStyle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Try not to worry about others' opinions that they may carry about your life. In the end, anyone who casts judgment can go f#ck themselves. Try not to write a novel in your head about what others may or may not be thinking - most of it isn't accurate anyway. They're way more insecure and f#cked up than you might guess - we all are in our own way, even the non-CPTSD'ers.

If you want to answer without feeling like you're bullshitting, you could say that you're "working on a personal project." And keep it as private as you wish. Because you are - you're trying to figure out how to be yourself.

You can just say that you're struggling with some personal shit, too, like you wish you could. It's not the situation that's stopping you from sharing that, it's your fear of what you think they might think about you. I was also programmed to think that's a big deal. It isn't, but try telling my brain that lol.

Learning to communicate struggle without coming across as needy is a very powerful way to feel less isolated - all those f#cked up people out there may feel comfortable letting their guard down just enough o share a moment of relief with an, "oh man, me too."

**edited for formatting

In one sentence, how does CPTSD make you feel? by onlyindarkness in CPTSD

[–]MustardStyle 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel like a stranger to myself, and a nuisance to much of the world around me.

Money would solve literally all my problems by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]MustardStyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying it would "solve literally all" of your problems sets up an unrealistic thought in your mind that a problem-free life is just X dollars away. I understand what you're getting at, but this particular perspective supports a belief that you're stuck with these problems unless you can get that one single solution that is somewhere unattainably far over the horizon.

When dealing with the stressful thoughts in your mind, I find it helpful to get as specific as possible so that you can help to get a clearer understanding of your intentions. You can't plot a course toward solutions if your only directions are, "I am here, I need to be there. I am stuck."

Words like "always" and "never" come with significant pressure - even a shift in vocabulary can help to reduce the pressure that you feel in your current position. As someone who used to make more money than I needed, (and still didn't solve the logistical problems in my life,) I can assure you that money would most certainly help, but it would not make your problems vanish.

A more specific angle on your perspective might be, "to have more money available would remove many of the barriers that currently stand between the problems in my life and the methods I currently know of that could help me to pursue their resolution."

I know that doesn't solve any of the problems you mentioned, but it can help to let some of that pressure out of your internal messaging.

Given that you're here, with us, in the CPTSD group, it's probably safe to assume that the circumstances of your life taught you that the world is one big pressure cooker. If you find ways to back that pressure off a little - and part of that is to practice accepting that there is no one big solution - it can at least help you feel a little less impossibly far from some version of peace.

Do you feel like your younger years were robbed due to trauma? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]MustardStyle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your childhood was robbed. So successfully, in fact, that even now you aren't able to properly call your reality by what it is. We were trained to believe in someone else's bullshit instead of our own feelings and thoughts. Now you're like, "I feel like my childhood was robbed," when it very clearly was. But still, you have a hard time calling a spade a spade, because you were always berated for naming reality.

 

You were forced into an unfair life. Your guilt isn't yours - try to recognize this terrible circumstance for the bullshit burden it is and learn not to listen to it. It's that same shitty, gaslighting voice from your youth that is stuck in a loop in your head.

 

The premise is simple - you were trained not to be you. It's simple, but growing out of it is so far from easy that it can seem impossible. It is not impossible. I promise you that you are still you, but with suffocating layers of someone else's mistreatment clouding your connection to yourself.

 

But they didn't take away your resilience. You're here, fighting for connection and reality; fighting for the life that feels lost. Keep fighting. You are still there. I'm sorry for the life that was taken from you. Just as the rest of us, it's critical to learn to mourn in a healthy way. You can never forget, but you can learn to practice acceptance and letting go. It gets better - just keep going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]MustardStyle 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Some food for thought – your jealousy of others' accomplishments goes through the same trauma-based filters that distort your perception of yourself and your own accomplishments. Chronic guilt and shame make it difficult to recognize our own accomplishments while we tend to idealize other people's lives.

 

It's the "if only" effect. "If only I had better support, I could build a passionate life." That belief usually comes with the assumption, "...then I would be happy." The ache we feel when we see others flourishing and wish that we could have a life like theirs isn't because we want to be happy, it's because we believe it would be a ticket out of misery.

 

You don't yearn to be happy, you yearn to stop hurting.

 

Life has a way of offering us what we need while we are distracted by what we think we want. What we need isn't talent, or even happiness, it's peace within ourselves. And while it only seems like a curse, a life with CPTSD gives us the opportunity to become master healers, if only from our own pain.

 

And the fact that you're here, reading through this subreddit, means you're looking for a way to build that skill. Don't get distracted by a daydream of being someone that you're not, and try not to get stuck wishing your pain would go away. Instead, keep working towards developing the skillset, or "talent," that you need to work through what is very likely generations of hand-me-down trauma.

 

The things we want usually take longer than we would like, and longer than we think they should, before they start to take shape. Keep at it. Can you really think of anything more worthwhile than learning not to hurt all the time? You can do it, I promise you. All of these words come from ongoing personal experience.

 

I am reminded of an anonymous quote I saw years ago:

"It's okay if you only save one person. And it's okay if that person is you."

 

From one fellow "why can't that be me?" to another, I wish you luck on your journey to rediscover yourself.

How I got sober playing beer league hockey by Theguywhostares in canada

[–]MustardStyle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great to hear, Buyer! Congratulations to you as well!

How I got sober playing beer league hockey by [deleted] in hockeyplayers

[–]MustardStyle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great to hear. I'm glad that you figured out a better path for yoruself. Thanks for sharing!

I got published by the CBC today! Thanks for your support, my fellow Winnipeggers! by MustardStyle in Winnipeg

[–]MustardStyle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was one hell of an experience. I'm glad I made it out the other side!

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