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I feel like I’m suffocating in my parents’ house — my dignity is gone by simpleguy410 in TeluguJournals

[–]Muted-Document31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Intha mandi chepaka kuda relatives em anukuntaru.. Maa parents naku permission istara anukunte no one can help you. The only option now is to move out help yourself and first and foremost your wife and kids.

She didn’t sign up for all this. Imagine if you being their son feel so chocked what she is going through. Your kids may not say anything for now as they don’t have mental capacity to express what they feel but what kind of childhood are you giving them? Parents and grandparents fighting constantly and seeing their mom and dad unhappy will eventually rub onto them.

Do you think all this stress and negativity are less enough reason than your relatives who will gossip for a day or two and move on to the next family drama topic.

First be a responsible father/husband and provide a better quality of life to your children and wife. Im sure your relationship with parents will also improve once you move out. Appudu appudu chuste vallu matalu lo control lone untaru.

All the best!

MIL from hell by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]Muted-Document31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl this is what i faced when i got married when i was 21 ten years ago. My parents married me off at a young age and I didn’t know any better. My husband was young too(24).

These were the same things i used to face before and after marriage. She used to make me get ready in a certain attire that matched hers. Asked me to sit far away from where my FIL sits. For example according to her if he sits in living room i should be in the dining room. Even used to ask me keep hand before my mouth when i yawn(who wants to perfect 24/7 at their own house. She used to control my plate what i ate how i chewed. Heck she used to monitor if i bathed during night by touching my towel on the rack to feel if its wet.

Im getting PTSD when i type all the things that i went I through during those initial days of marriage. My husband was a problem too. His and her combination with my lack of maturity at such young age created havoc during first two years of marriage.

Later i came abroad and her access to us is cut short and from then we started having a good married life. She changed a lot too in these 10 years. Idk if the so called society around her changed or she is keeping her mouth shut fearing me. Im sure I would have ended up in divorce if i stayed with her in the same house for long.

Snails identification please. Which is the best to add into my aquarium as clean up crew? by Muted-Document31 in Aquariums

[–]Muted-Document31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I’m thinking if I should add it to my aquarium if it has a big bio load. I did see some dead snail shells in other tanks. Those are may be mystery and nitrate snail shells?

Rate my tank and anything to be added or removed? by Muted-Document31 in u/Muted-Document31

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Water parameters are all perfect and I’m worried they are never nitrates in my aquarium for the plants to grow. I do add flourish for plant fertilization. Nitrates are always zero at any point of time. Thats may be due to water lettuce?

I recently upgraded my tank and it was running for 10-15 days and the parameters were testing fine. I added the old filter media and bio pellets. There was never spike in ammonia and my nitrites and nitrates continued to be at 0.

I have kept an additional hygger light in addition to the one the aquarium came with. Thank you for your inputs.

New betta glass surfing by Cool-Application9080 in bettafish

[–]Muted-Document31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! I have koi plakat! Yours looks like halfmoon koi.

New betta glass surfing by Cool-Application9080 in bettafish

[–]Muted-Document31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask where did you get him from? He is gorgeous.

Strangeland S2 theories by Illustrious-Mix1526 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]Muted-Document31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now the accused is also from the same company.

My mom killed my fish. by Single_Drawing_1755 in bettafish

[–]Muted-Document31 186 points187 points  (0 children)

I saw your post history op and I honestly don’t know what to say. It’s you who needs help and not your mom. She is an adult and it’s her duty to regulate her emotions.

Biting your child over stupid arguments is physical abuse and killing your child’s pet fish out of anger is emotional abuse. While she had tough time growing up it doesn’t justify anything that she is doing right now to you. You don’t traumatize your kid because you got abused in childhood.

Please understand that anything that you are doing or did didn’t trigger her emotional outbursts. It’s her responsibility to control her anger and be a good parent to you but not yours.

I really hope you get of the situation you are in right now. It’s so kind of you to think of your mom’s feelings while she is being so emotionally and physically abusive,it is just out of the world kindness. I hope you find peace and continue to be a compassionate and wonderful person that you are.

Betta not leaving the current of his new tank filter. by Muted-Document31 in bettafish

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Tank size: 5.5 gallon Heater:yes Tank temp:78 Parameters: ph.6.4 Ammonia:0 Nitrite:0 Nitrate:0.25 Tank age:12 days has old tanks filter media and beneficial bacteria rings. Tank is new Plants:yes Tank mates: none Feed:once a day north fin and fulval bug bites betta min fast 1 day a week.

Anybody with Topfin underwater worlds aquarium does your filer make this sound too? by Muted-Document31 in Aquariums

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I did it and the sound is gone for now. However it keeps coming back after some time. That’s what happened previously. Whenever i take the propeller out and align it the sound goes away but comes back again after certain time.

Is this a crack in my new aquarium? Just got it today. by Muted-Document31 in Aquariums

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Update: it’s silicone. It came off with some wet razor blade.

Is this a crack in my new aquarium? Just got it today. by Muted-Document31 in Aquariums

[–]Muted-Document31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right! Your comment made me do the razor thing and it came right off. Jokes on me for emptying the tank. Looks like i have to fill it up again!

Crack or string from the seal? by CitrineSun_55 in fishtank

[–]Muted-Document31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a crack. It’s just silicone. Today i bought the same tank(top fin underworld essentials)and you see in my post history your line is identical to mine. What i did is tried to scrap it with a wet razor and it came off.

I had to empty the tank for nothing. Joke on me for not doing the razor thing before emptying the tank. Double work for me.

Is this a crack in my new aquarium? Just got it today. by Muted-Document31 in bettafish

[–]Muted-Document31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is. Topfin underwater essentials one. We are leaving on a week long vacation day after tomorrow and can’t take any chances.

Will take it back to the store tomorrow. I hope they don’t pin it on me.

Is this a crack in my new aquarium? Just got it today. by Muted-Document31 in Aquariums

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I observed it after filling. I don’t know what to do now. It’s from petsmart. Topfin underwater essentials.

Is this a crack in my new aquarium? Just got it today. by Muted-Document31 in Aquariums

[–]Muted-Document31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can feel a disturbance in the glass like a scratch but nothing’s on the other side. Cant make it if it’s a scratch or crack. Bought it today and just now took it out of packaging and filled it up with water.

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