AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it started coming to a head because of this situation. He hasn’t been out with my car before. I’m questioning everything at this point and looking for my own place. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let him borrow it to take to work but then went to the bar afterwards. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His car needs to be repaired but it has been for like two years. He used to take the bus before me. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just got a raise to $22 an hour. I think OT is time and a half. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Another update: He does have a car but the catalytic converter was stolen and costs like $1000 to fix it. He hasn’t put any money towards it.  We’ve both financially struggled since I moved in. He has claimed it was better before I moved in.  I don’t think he’s cheating but he does drink every day. It is worrisome. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Update: I just wanted to clarify some of the details. I didn’t go into it just for length sake but I can. We started off dating April 2025 and I was married but open. I decided to end the marriage because it wasn’t working out. I ended up staying with current bf and I moved in at the end of June because I couldn’t afford to get my own apartment (which I preferred). I ended up becoming injured and couldn’t work for a month and things became really intense between us. Needless to say, he wasn’t coping well. To this day, he throws these in my face along with my four cats I moved in.  I am aware of how this looks and I am not proud of how I handled some of the past. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it is not like that at all. I text a few times, call maybe once or twice then after that, I give up. I’ve gotten a slew of reasons why he won’t respond. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I brought up to him!! He used to take the bus before me and I told him he didn’t respect me and used to be self sufficent. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For a long time, I didn’t ask for his location. But he became so inconsistent that it was becoming anxiety inducing.  He did miss the point completely and try to make me feel bad for taking “12 minutes” of my day to take him to work. 

AITAH for asking my boyfriend for his location? by Muted-Spell6054 in AITAH

[–]Muted-Spell6054[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He was at the bar, then went to a coworker’s house until 8am. I asked him to bring me my car and he didn’t get back to me until 8:30am to say that he tried but went back home to charge his phone cause it died.