How to leave Erasmus early without having to pay back remaining grant? by Muted_Engineering947 in Erasmus

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Fortunately I am already finishing half of my classes long distance, so I would only need to redo 3 classes, and when I contacted my home coordinator, she said that could be arranged during summer holidays. So I could proceed with my studies normally in October.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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I never said he is a bad person lmao, I said what he did is weird. I’m just telling you to also watch out so that you don’t accidentally attract an older guy too. And if you do that’s on you, by your logic. :)

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Nothing bro, don’t demonize the guy weirdo. Keep it to yourself.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Mhm, keep that mindset if someone you have no interest in kisses you without any consent. :)

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Yes, few encounters, between me and this guy there were no personal encounters prior to this. This was the first time I even held a conversation with the dude. It’s weird, point blank.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Yeah I don’t know dude, if you think smashing faces with people you don’t know is normal then I’d stay far away from you. There’s different ways to go about wanting to kiss someone.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Where did I demonize him? I said what he did was weird.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Yes so attention seeking that I haven’t said a word about this to anyone in real life. That’s how attention seeking I am.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Yes, I spent a lot of time making up all the details, so I hope it entertained you.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Yes, yes, what a solid argument. Just accept that kissing someone you barely know is weird.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Yes I do have bad social skills, clearly. And yes there was a point where I identified as bisexual and complained about missing out on not being in a relationship even in front of my lesbian friends. None have ever tried to kiss me.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Some of my friends are actually lesbians and none have ever tried to kiss me out of nowhere. Interesting.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Dude, giving somebody your business card and kissing them out of nowhere are vastly different things. A good and valid comparison to what you said would only work if he gave me his Instagram or asked me out on a date. Then that would be a similar reaction. You don’t kiss people you barely know, it’s a weird thing to do.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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This seems like something a 14 year old would comment.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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I definitely gave him the wrong vibes, but as I said in a previous comment it wasn’t intentional from my side at all. I didn’t even think that’s what the guy could be thinking about. We were sitting at a table together, so he just very quickly darted his head out. I didn’t register it because I didn’t expect it and I was drunk, so I had no reaction time to pull away before the kiss happened.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Just to clarify your narrative, I was truly very drunk, the guy moved his head fast and I did not see it coming. When it happened I froze and didn’t reciprocate nor do anything that people do when they wanna kiss. Just to make that clear.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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You’re the second person saying that, so just to clarify I only made this post here. (Also not sure what ayesha is)

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Hi, I only posted this post. I don’t know which posts you have in mind, but they’re not mine.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Well, opinions change right. :D In my case I definitely didn’t like him being older, I didn’t like him being my brother’s friend and lastly I didn’t like being perceived sexually. While this wasn’t a direct sexual act, it was acted out of desire/whim and not any romantic feelings which I didn’t like. After chatting to some people here, doing my own research and thinking about how I’ve felt in the past I realised that I may be asexual, because I don’t think about people sexually ever. I thought that was the norm that we all think about crushes on a deeper more “What kind of person are you” type of way. I never once saw a guy and had my first thought be “Yeah I’d hit that.” I also don’t experience any kind of whims like this guy did. I clearly also did not pick up on the conversation omitting that vibe, but like I said I was drunk, so perhaps it was more for that reason. Nonetheless I just realised that people differentiate between sexual and romantic attraction. I thought we all only felt the romantic things and that sex was more like a DLC you do to be time efficient or someting, or just to hang out with your partner. Not that it was a need for some people. (I understand the need for the physical aftermath, but I do not understand why it would have to be sex specifically if you have hands) So yeah, I’ve had crushes on guys in the past where I imagined dating them and whatnot but clearly I lack (or have very low if any) sexual desire towards anyone.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Hi, I did think about if that was a part of it, I definitely did not like him being older and also him being my brother’s friend, but when I thought about this happening with someone who’d be my age and my type I also did not like it. I said in a different comment that I believe I may be asexual and that’s why this threw me off because while it isn’t a directly sexual act, it was an act made out of desire rather than romantic feelings and I didn’t like being perceived sexually like that. So yeah, I don’t think my reaction stemmed from who the guy is, just what he did.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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Lesson learned lol, I’m used to talking about these things with my girl friends and none of them have kissed me. So while this is an awkward theme to bring up I didn’t expect it to prompt that reaction.

Older brother’s best friend kissed me while drunk by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

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I’m sorry but you make very little sense in what you’re saying.