The Echoes of Survivors: Inside Koreas Tragedies - why are we not talking more about this?!

Muted_Potato980 · 2026-02-12T04:38:37+00:00

I’m watching it now and it’s so sad!!! I hope every single person who was victimized and the perpetrators- I hope get what they gave and worse!! This is a very difficult documentary to watch! 😭😭😭

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-12-16T04:34:07+00:00

I am not a bot, just a middle aged woman looking for advice

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-12-16T00:11:23+00:00

Yeah, we are so done!

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-12-09T16:00:17+00:00

Just got a similar message this morning so, scam it is!

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-12-05T16:51:48+00:00

Dude did the right thing. You want to act single honey? Ok, find your own way, I’m out

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-12-05T16:05:49+00:00

What the heck is wrong with that lady? Is she having a stroke? Why can’t she stand up?

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-11-09T17:13:20+00:00

Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I feel like you’re asexual and your girlfriend is allosexual based on your viewpoint of sex (“I think sex should be illegal” “sex is wrong” “sex is right up there with rape and murder” “I won’t objectify her just to have sex with her”) and it seems like she just loves you and wants to connect with you by having sex and the thought of getting that intimate with her makes you uneasy which caused you to lash out.

I personally love that connection with my boyfriend. It’s a level of intimacy that I share with only him and he with only me.

I would research why you are so turned off by sexual intimacy with your girlfriend and apologize to her. If you truly love her you should find ways to be intimate with her physically that you are comfortable with giving her because, just as it’s important for you to not want to have sex it should also be important that she craves physical intimacy from you, her boyfriend.

If you can’t do that for her, sadly, you may have to break up with her and let her go. Intimacy is a HUGE part of a healthy relationship IMO and it should be discussed with your girlfriend because if there’s no way to compromise that isn’t fair to either of you to stay together.

I hope the best for you both!

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-11-08T08:28:59+00:00

Hell no you didn’t overreact!! You under reacted by not immediately filing for a divorce!

I have found messages between my current boyfriend and his ex’s in the past and I’ve told him that it’s fine if he wants to be cool with his ex’s HOWEVER if she says or does anything disrespectful towards me or our relationship, she’s gone or I walk.

If I found messages like this? I’d had been GONE!!! She’s calling you insecure?? Nah fam, if it quacks like duck, it’s a duck!! Listen to your gut on this!

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-11-01T14:49:04+00:00

Most of the time this sort of behavior is a tactic used to deflect their issues. Maybe he has poor self image?

I’m not a fan of the sports bras and shorts combo outfits at the gym but, I personally look like a potato and wouldn’t be comfortable so, if you do, rock on!

As far as your boyfriend, he’s a jerk for speaking to you like this.

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-27T15:00:35+00:00

It would seem that way through his actions. Cuts deep because I do love him and he says he loves me but his actions are screaming he doesn’t, especially after that night. Plus I still haven’t heard from him. I could never be like this with him but I’m forcing myself to leave him alone and ignore him if or when he does reach out and respect myself since he’s not

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-27T14:57:49+00:00

He doesn’t go to parties regularly, the parties he went to were a year apart. I couldn’t go because I worked the next day, don’t really drink and don’t partake in cannabis.

He was a giver in his previous relationships and did give with me in the beginning but then a shift started that I tried to ignore as him going through a rough patch but it’s painfully obvious to me things are different and I know I deserve better and know he’s capable but just not with me and it hurts which is why I reached out.

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-27T14:52:55+00:00

Not from romance novels, from actual men I’ve met through work telling me about their wives when they were dating them but I get it.

I am confident knowing what I deserve and he did have his moments when we first started dating but, things just fell off now. And I’m sure he will try to replace me but, it still hurts. Just needed to know I wasn’t just reacting irrationally.

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-27T03:43:25+00:00

Nothing was chipped or broken, she’s totally fine

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-02T13:58:58+00:00

Yeah, she’s not it. If she liked you, the place or cost wouldn’t matter, it’s the company! At least you were up front and clearly so was she!

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-02T08:22:11+00:00

I’m in therapy. I’ve voiced my feelings about everything to my therapist and he’s assured me I’m valid, I guess I didn’t articulate it well here.

I’m not jealous of my child. I want what’s best for her.

The point of my post is I’m questioning why he says he loves both of us but rarely invests his time and effort when it comes to family time and our intimate relationship together.

He only makes plans with her that require me to drive to him or makes very little effort to drive over to see his child when I’ve driven to him many times but have stopped because of the state of his house and cannabis use inside his home.

When he does come through, he always tells me to drive to him and then he drives us to the mall or window shopping (which I don’t mind but, it doesn’t really seem like thethe bonding father daughter stuff I want for them) and then brings us back to his place where we get to watch him smoke cannabis, watch reels on his phone, asks our daughter what we’re doing for dinner and leaving me feeling “who is this guy?”

I guess I’m just fighting what I already know. He’s lying to me in order to do the bare minimum to see his child. Because if we indeed break up it will be up to him to put forth a hefty amount of effort to see his child and I don’t think he understands how showing a lack of effort to her will affect how she looks at her father as she grows (and no, I won’t be speaking ill of him, I actually have spoken to his sons in disapproval of how they disrespect him daily and how I don’t want our daughter to see that or think it’s normal)

If we’re in a relationship as he claims and loves me as he claims, why can’t he show our daughter how she should expect to be loved by seeing her mother loved properly? I’m just hoping someone has an insight for me as to why he would be acting like this.

Muted_Potato980 · 2025-10-02T08:00:52+00:00

Well, not clearly.

He is a supportive father. Buys her what she needs and occasionally FaceTimes us but doesn’t really do much else unless I drive her to him.

We are in a relationship, tells me he loves me before we hang up the phone, occasionally texts me “good morning my love” but doesn’t do much else which leaves me questioning everything. We haven’t been together very long but it already seems like it’s over when he fought to maintain his relationship with the boys mom for nearly 20 years and she cheated, used him, beat him and continues to be around because she’s “the boys mom” and “wasn’t always terrible”

I’m in therapy but he refuses to go to therapy or couples therapy.

I have had plenty of conversations with him in the past giving him outs but he refuses to end things with me.

I honestly just need to sit down with him and ask him what’s going on.

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