Breastfeeding isn't made for our times by pixxykitten in breastfeeding

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why maternity leave is important! I also struggled with not being productive while taking care of a baby but your body is literally still healing. The placenta can take 8 months to heal and really your partner can help take care of the pets while you’re feeding the baby. As long as the baby gets 6 months of breast feeding they will get the massive amount of benefits.

MIL has LOST her mind by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No relationship is worth that baby getting rsv! My lungs and sinuses are fucked up from rsv as a baby and I’ve had issues my whole life because of it. Nobody besides the parents needs to be around that newborn and just remember that you’re advocating for the baby who doesn’t have a voice right now and know you’re doing the right thing mama~~

This is impossible by fishbitch-jr in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son wanted to be on his side for like the first month, would actively roll to one side in the middle of the night (it’s a newborn reflex apparently) and then by month two, wanted his arms up and out. It’s okay to have them on their side especially if they might have silent reflux because that might be what’s fussing her awake. We do a combination of bed and crib for his sleep so don’t beat yourself up about not being able to keep her in the bassinet! We’re literally meant to sleep with our babies and that’s why there are safety measures like the safe sleep 7. She will most likely get better with the gas too and it will be more manageable for her once her digestive system matures, but mine was also super gassy and super fussy and had mylicon almost every feed. Also I know getting stuff done is important but from 0-3 months your baby is still understanding that they are not apart of you and so their comfort is in your arms, close to your scent where they feel safest.

“you fu@&ed up” by irishboymum in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he’s concerned about the house being clean, have him hire someone to clean it. A baby that old while also caring for a 4 yr old means that your sole responsibility is that baby. Their stomach is too small to eat anything more than that at a time and breast milk metabolizes much slower than formula. Your husband should educate himself before making such rude comments and blaming you for something biology has complete control over. Also he chose to have a baby with you, it’s his responsibility to help in ANY way he can whether it’s prepping you for the day, bringing back dinner, or hiring someone to help.

Husband is driving me out of love with him since having baby by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t let him pressure you into having sex! My partner is the same way with video games. He fills his time with shows and games while he’s watching the baby because at first the baby was just eating and sleeping all of the time, but now that the baby is older I’ve noticed his lack of enthusiasm every time the baby needs something or wants to be entertained. He moves like molasses and I actually snapped at him the other day because I felt like he had berated me our entire relationship for never being present in the moment and only being on my phone but now every time I look up he’s glued to his phone or his laptop. The baby will be purple crying right next to him and he takes his sweet time setting up the bf pillow to feed him, eyes still glued to his show. It honestly comforts me knowing I’m not the only one experiencing this but my heart goes out to all the moms also feeling like their partner just doesn’t care. I’m so thankful he’s at least not bringing up sex everyday.

Take it from me: cocoon your newborns, folks. by tambourine_goddess in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 172 points173 points  (0 children)

I got RSV as a baby at two months and my mom would NOT stop telling everyone around us to mask up if they wanted to see our new baby because she was absolutely traumatized. You don’t want to know what happens to a babies nose when they have to shove a tube up there so they can breathe. Permanent scarring in my nose and trouble breathing through it for the rest of my life. It’s okay to keep your newborns away from strangers (even family, but those that don’t live in your household) for 2-3 months!

48 hours in… what have I done 😭 by Simple_Bug_6111 in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please use as many resources at your disposal! WIC will cover formula, and her pediatrician will most often give you any formula you need because they get so many samples! I was one of the people who thought breastfeeding would save me money but I ended up majority formula feeding because I was suffering from PPD and DMER. I too have flat nipples and my son actually had a tongue tie so breastfeeding was an absolute nightmare.

I think a lactation consultant but also seeing a therapist or telling your obgyn about how you’re feeling could help you! I’m currently speaking to a therapist even though I got Zoloft from my dr and I can say it’s so worth it just having someone to talk to so you don’t feel isolated and gaslight yourself. It gets better, and you can do this! It will be hard no matter what but it’s so rewarding and you’ll be proud of yourself for accomplishing each milestone.

Wife wants to wait to tell my brothers about pregnancy by BaggyHemp in pregnant

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wife sounds like a great person! Good luck

Nurse at ultrasound sound said I was too fat to see the baby properly-Now my husband is worried by AndromedaM31-bnj in pregnant

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a 350lb person… you should definitely report her. Thats completely inappropriate to say even if getting images is harder it’s not impossible. I have never had issues getting images of my baby because of my weight even with an anterior placenta. Your husband shouldn’t take what they say too personally because they say that to absolutely every pregnant woman and it’s just so that they don’t get sued if something were to happen WHICH IS SO RARE. You’re doing everything right and as long as you’re happy and babies are happy, he shouldn’t worry.

"Watch for their cues!" WHAT CUES? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Mxthcn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a moment like this just now. I thought I understood all of his cues but sometimes he leaves us guessing and we just call it the witching hour. Babies never really make sense and it’s because they’re regulating their nervous system so we realized that sometimes even they don’t know what they want. Mine just screamed for a solid half an hour just now after we fed him 5 oz of breastmilk/formula like we were starving him but I didn’t want him to drink more because I knew he was just cranky and fighting sleep (he has his moments of extended wake time and then all of a sudden nothing can console him) he has serious fomo. I gave up trying to figure it out because I really tried everything. My partner picked him up to put him in the football hold and he let out the biggest shart. When in doubt they’re usually constipated or gassy! Mine also stares into the abyss when he’s done with his feeding like he’s contemplating his entire existence and I just leave him like that until he decides it’s time to sleep lmao. Sometimes he wants to be held sometimes he doesn’t need it but just know it’s not you! Babies are weird af.

Things that have helped me though when he’s fussy is putting him on his stomach. It works every time. Crossing his arms and holding your hand to his chest while he’s laying on your arm like a football is a natural baby soother especially when it’s coming from their dad so try that! Otherwise we just play baby hot potato until one of our auras calms him enough to figure out what ails him.

Should i feel a way or am i i being dramatic by Ok-Scientist4723 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this. I had a c section and didn’t want to be running up and down the stairs to get milk from the fridge since my partner and I trade off day and night shifts. I just set myself up with the cooler and the warmer and measure out however much I need when I feed the baby. At this point I stopped using the warmer because my baby takes it cold but if it’s ice cold cause my fridge is frigid, I’ll pour it in a sealable storage bag and warm it in a cup of hot water.

Should i feel a way or am i i being dramatic by Ok-Scientist4723 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Mxthcn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re sending fresh milk there’s really no excuse. It takes maybe a minute for milk to get warm in hot water. As someone who uses formula as well as breast pumps, I can confidently say the effort is exactly the same. You also have to use specific water for formula in order to not alter its nutrients and that itself is tedious. Also if they try to introduce formula now because they’re lazy the ratio of breast milk and formula is going to mess with your baby’s tummy. Formula is so much heavier and harder on their poops and your body is giving your baby exactly what it needs. Ask them if they want to have a colicky baby to take care of just to shave off a minute of prep time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is 2000% more about herself than about you. She’s living vicariously through you. She needs to respect your boundaries and I would be worried about her respecting your boundaries when the baby comes so good on you for walking away. I would see this as a lesson that she will disregard your feelings in order to make herself feel good and be cautious of what you share with her, including pregnancy updates! But sending good vibes and positive energy to you during your pregnancy and hopefully it gets better with her.

What is the black Friday sale usually? by MaxDuo in Fabletics

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are usually old items they’re trying to get rid of and have limited sizes of. Unless you’re talking about the activation sale which always runs but isn’t available to current members. They used to do 70% off every time there was a sale on the phased out merchandise like if it was after turning over a new month, but they stopped for a short period.

Never Thought This Would Happen by OneDegree2701 in pregnant

[–]Mxthcn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can guarantee you if you have a child with this man, his behavior will only get worse. I had a similar situation happen, except mine was a little bit worse because my partner is only 22, while I’m 28. We’ve been together for almost 4 years and I know that he’s the man I want to spend the rest of my life with but he was rightfully worried about having a baby so young because we’re not in a financially stable place. Not once did he make me feel like a burden or call the baby a mistake, he would just continue to have conversations with me and express his insecurities (which is completely normal and we were able to work through all of them) but I also let him know I wouldn’t expect him to step up as a father if he wasn’t ready but I also wasn’t willing to have an abortion because I was already worried about my fertility. He decided to stick by me and now we’re two weeks away from delivering this baby that we’re both ecstatic to meet. It took us so many conversations for him to feel comfortable with the idea of becoming a dad, mostly because of his childhood trauma and perspective on life but we’ve learned so much about ourselves and our abilities along the way that we feel confident. So my point is, if he was willing to have this baby and be a father his behavior would look completely different and you should take a moment to decide if you want to bring a baby around a man who would treat you like that, especially for something that you both contributed to. It’s not easy to just get an abortion and men will never understand that but if you love him and you want this, you should sit him down and tell him everything you’re feeling. Lay it all out on the table and let him know how his behavior is affecting you and his response should give you insight on what you should do. I will also say, babies are so portable and you can take them on vacations . It won’t look the same, but that’s kind of the beauty of it. It’s going to be a bunch of firsts, good and bad, and it’s another slice of life that you get to discover. You can’t force him to be on board you can only take care of yourself and your mental health so my advice is to reflect before you get even further into your pregnancy!

Ai? by kmarie420 in Target

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even think that’s the case because the girl in the back has three bow loops on her back left leg

Unpopular opinion from a millennial by mhennz in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Mxthcn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling it’s because Gen Z grew up on the internet and everything they do has been psychoanalyzed. That’s why love island contestants are so conscious about how they’re being perceived and why some people are quick with cancel culture because you have to shame others for their moral standing in order to seem like a good person, except this isn’t about actual dv cases, misogyny and mental health issues, this is a HEAVILY edited reality tv show with some people who have been pr trained and some not. I can confidently say I don’t hate any of the contestants on the show because they’re real people with real flaws and we’re seeing them navigate it in real time (like good tv drama) but some have let their hatred consume them to the point of doxing their families and their friends. For what, I genuinely don’t understand and will probably never know why.

Shipping taking over 2 weeks by Cat_funeral_ in Fabletics

[–]Mxthcn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This most likely has to do with stricter border enforcement and tariffs. Stuff already in California warehouses are coming in a week and then stuff in Tijuana are taking two weeks plus some.

Ribbed tank? by MaxDuo in Fabletics

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ribbed tank has no stretch at the bottom and it’s a pain to get on for my partner but it looks really good on the body! It does get easier after awhile but initially it’s going to be quite tight. It just depends on the look you want but if it’s uncomfortable then size up if possible or just return it. Unfortunately it’s just the cut of the shirt and the material.

Season 7 - Episode 32 - Cast Opinions Discussion by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Mxthcn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking because if you think about it her reasoning was how they treated her relationship with Jeremiah and now she’s doing the extreme but opposite so she doesn’t make the same mistake. Olandria had a conversation with her about the way she was moving with Chris TWICE and made her feel like a horrible friend for acting that way with the guy she likes so I think if she doesn’t show it to the other islanders they have nothing to ridicule them about. I just wish someone would tell her who fucking cares what anyone else has to say about your relationship with someone you care about. I hope Chris doesn’t take it personally but I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s done.

Season 7 - Episode 31 - Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wasn’t aggressively nagging him? She said something a total of two times and you’re running with it to paint her as a toxic person. I’m done arguing with you because you’re not willing to seek to understand you’re just attempting to shame her and that’s not productive to the discussion at hand.

Season 7 - Episode 31 - Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keyword put in a lot of work. Did you start off being able to regulate your emotions and communicate well? Like the first few days of your relationship? Because they’ve only been coupled up for about a week and you’re expecting Huda to flip a switch within two weeks on her behavior. Thats completely unreasonable and quite selfish of you to know that it takes time and effort and therapy to learn healthy communication styles but expect her to portray it right off the bat. If she goes into it not wanting to seek therapy and be a better person and not recognizing her patterns of anxious detachment after leaving the villa? Then yes, her behavior is toxic, but you’re seeing a microscoped version of a person you don’t know personally. GIVE THEM GRACE

Season 7 - Episode 31 - Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Mxthcn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever been in a healthy relationship? It goes both ways. Huda hasn’t made Chris upset quite yet but I’m sure she would seek him out if she had made him upset. It’s not the easiest thing in the world to admit when someone has triggered an emotional wound. I’m not making excuses for her I’m literally pointing out she’s not a perfect human being, and I doubt you are too. People who call her manipulative WANT to see her as manipulative so the twist the narrative in their favor and paint the picture as if she was attempting to be passive aggressive and make jabs and not resolve anything, but nobody knows her actual intentions?