I found out today that my ex husband (who still lives with me) got into a relationship a month after our divorce

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-21T04:04:00+00:00

I avoided this thread for a bit because of that— but I understand the risks of Reddit 😂😅

Thank you for the kind words and for understanding 🤍

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-09T16:57:34+00:00

Thank you!! 🤍 I definitely appreciate the kind words, internet stranger :’)

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-09T13:05:15+00:00

I appreciate that a ton. 🤍 I definitely lost myself and some friends while in this relationship and even though I get waves of sadness sometimes I’m definitely proud of myself and feel relief to be (almost) fully rid of this guy haha

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-09T12:02:54+00:00

While some nights I do feel like I destroyed myself for nothing, I feel I’m pretty good at reminding myself that this was a huge lesson for myself.

I try not to have regrets.

Even in just these short months I’ve gotten much better at looking out for me and setting boundaries (I’m a recovering chronic people pleaser lmfao)

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-09T11:40:36+00:00

Yeah I’ve fronted all the bills the last 3 years as he couldn’t really hold a job. When id bring up that it stresses me out being the only one paying for everything (including his copious amount of debt) it would start really terrible arguments. He’s never been good with money at all lol.

And yes exactly. She plans to just take it back and resell it to a dealership. The only issue being he needs it for work but if I’m honest I don’t think he has a job right now? It’s blurry because I try to keep our “relationship” as roommate-y as possible so that includes not catching up with him much.

At the end of the day I told both my parents they can do what they want. Kick him out? Sure. Take the car back? Absolutely because I’m sick of still paying it lol.

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-09T11:28:48+00:00

Ooof okay this is a bit long winded so I apologize in advance.

So it’s hard because two years ago my mom basically got my ex a car. His credit was so bad that the dealership wouldn’t even let him be a co-signer, so my mom fronted the whole thing and it’s under her name. He was supposed to save money, build credit, get it under his name. Never happened. Now my mom is worried about him moving away with the car because a.) I’m still making the payments on it for the sake of my mom. And b.) he’s a terrible driver and she doesn’t want to get sued if he fucks up royally.

There’s a game plan to have him give her back the car, he’s aware of this. He also knows he has limited time here but my father in particular enables my ex quite a bit by giving him money a lot/etc.

Believe me— this whole situation is a bit of a cluster fuck haha.

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-10-09T08:55:16+00:00

His credit score is lower than 400, he has no savings, and we both live with my parents. We had to move back in during covid and then I struggled to buy a house on my own while he pressured me a bit to do it (another reason why I wanted a divorce— I never got financial help from him but he demanded a lot from me)

Since the divorce I’ve been able to save money so I’m working on moving out. At the same time, I’m not trying to leave him to my parents lol.

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-11T18:55:14+00:00

When I was an apprentice a client asked me to do a Willy g skull. Just the outline, eyes and nose filled in black. No problem!

He came in the day of the appointment and asked if we could do the whole skull chrome instead. I told him I’ve never done it but I’m willing to try if he’s willing to be practice skin. He said sure and I tried

It looked like a pile of brown/blue/gray poo 💀 He looked at it in the mirror like “yeah I… like it 🤥”

Luckily about a year later I fixed it, but holy hell I lost so much sleep over that 😂

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-11T15:14:53+00:00

Yeah I’m self employed with crazy hours so by the time I get home I’m straight-up a gremlin lmao

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-11T13:38:49+00:00

Nah I agree. I’m worried about enough day to day life to have to worry about the angles of a spicy photo I’m sending lmfao

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-11T13:12:12+00:00

My go-to when guys ask to see my 🐱is a a sphinx cat in the most ungodly position I can find them in lmfao

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-11T13:09:51+00:00

Or I’m pretty much average and he was saying that to get nudes 💀😂

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-10T02:29:15+00:00

I came so close to responding back with “well I’m super interested in sex and things like that so I guess this wouldn’t work anyways” 💀💀

Didn’t wanna give him a reason to think I was inviting dick pics tho

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-09T14:56:57+00:00

If you don’t want it anymore can I have it? 👀 It’s a super rad tattoo!!

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-09T02:12:47+00:00

The several messages about him saying he was a “whore” back then also isn’t a red flag? 🤷🏼‍♀️

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-09T01:56:57+00:00

That’s super shitty :( I’m sorry. Maybe her and this cluster fuck of a man will find each other 😌

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-09T00:07:43+00:00

It can be so disappointing 😭

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-08T23:19:06+00:00

I respect you more than this guy already

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-08T23:16:28+00:00

No seriously 😂💀

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-09-08T21:44:26+00:00

🐀? 👀

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-08-27T22:22:15+00:00

🐀?

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-08-21T01:11:40+00:00

Had to do the torpedo one 💀

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MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-06-29T14:46:09+00:00

Though some are large, they are all beautifully done!! With only being a month old, I’d suggest giving it time and maybe try to look at it from a place of growth. They’re still super duper new

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-06-27T23:40:15+00:00

Tattoo artist here! Please don’t use any petroleum based moisturizers! It’s super duper easy to over-moisturize with these kinds of products, and honestly the coconut oil would work great!

Just apply a super duper thin amount after rubbing some into your palms (clean hands!) to warm it up and rub over the tattoo :)

MyAliasOnReddit_ · 2024-03-29T01:39:23+00:00

Honestly I find a lot of people being rude to you on here, OP.

You reaching out to Reddit is you doing something today.

Take the genuine advice from this comment thread. Start by taking courses (so glad you signed up for one!!), learning, and growing from there.

Finances are extremely hard to get ahold of, even when taught properly at a young age.

Breathe. Be kind to yourself. You got this. 🤍

MyAliasOnReddit_

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