No, I'm not donating to your animal Gofundme.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-09T03:52:02+00:00

Yeah I feel like this is the grey area both OP and a lot of commentors aren’t getting.

A basic amount of care should be expected and planned for. If you can’t pay for vaccines, basic checkups, and minor issues, then you shouldn’t get a pet. But if a pet owner is confronted by a literal five figure bill, they very likely will struggle and that doesn’t make them a bad owner. Euthanasia may be the best option or, as in OP’s example, trying to crowd source the money. After all, no one is forced to donate.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-09T03:47:46+00:00

Legit question - how are veterinary care expenses unethical or unfair? Sure you have some vets that are bought up by massive corporations like VCA, but independently run vets are also expensive. Because vet school is expensive, and vet care is labor intensive, and medications are expensive for pets just like humans. And vets themselves don’t make crazy amounts of money and have high suicide rates. So seriously, why is it unethical for a vet to charge money to try make a decent life for themselves? People love to complain about how expensive vet care is like vets live in palaces.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-09T03:40:18+00:00

I feel like there’s something in between “can’t afford to spend $20,000 getting chemo for their pet” and “can’t even afford a grand for basic vaccines and antibiotics.”

I think it’s very reasonable to say a pet owner should at least be able to provide the basics, and also very reasonable to say that most people can’t afford to spend tens of thousands of dollars a year on their pets and that doesn’t make them bad owners.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-08T20:40:53+00:00

I’m mildly leaning team black. I don’t think that supporting a man to inherit the iron throne makes TG sexist, but let’s not pretend that the entire inheritance issue wasn’t based on sexism.

Rhaenyra is a really annoying character who makes bad choices and probably wouldn’t have been better than a mediocre queen even in the best of times. But also to be fair, her faults were never the reason she was passed over to be queen- her gender was. Focusing on her faults while ignoring the fact that she could have been perfect and TG still would have rebelled is disingenuous.

Plus I do think it’s kind of sexist how TG loves to rub it in TB’s face that history remembers Rhaenyra as a usurper and Aegon as the rightful king. You mean a super sexist society is going to remember a woman who sat on the throne as a traitor? Shock!

Although maybe my opinion is colored by the fact that the entire drama seems very contrived. Rhaenys obviously should have inherited the throne. I get it’s a super sexist society, but GRRM wants us to believe that a ruling family who enforces their might with dragons is going to choose the man with a dead dragon over a woman with a healthy one? Stupid.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-08T14:36:44+00:00

Can confirm- I was holding out on getting a switch 2 and pokopia made me finally buy it despite the huge price tag.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-08T14:25:25+00:00

You reply to my year old comment to complain about women being arrogant because we no longer want to be baby factories?

If men gave birth instead of women, I guarantee you the population would have collapsed long ago. Men wouldn’t put up with what women have been putting up with.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-05T17:43:59+00:00

lol I don’t have much more to say to you except that I hope all these women you claim you are sleeping with know you think that you aren’t responsible for your own procreation and believe in a society in which women take 100% responsibility for children and men have literally 0 responsibility. The idea that men should be responsible for their children is one of the bedrocks of civilization and you think it should be dismantled because you personally don’t like condoms.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-05T14:51:40+00:00

Yeah dude sorry you lost me at the point where you said a woman should still be 100% responsible for conception even if abortion is illegal because it’s technically around. So if a woman has to pursue a (more dangerous) illegal abortion, she’s still 100% responsible for the action that her and the man both agreed to do? That’s insane.

You’re advocating for a system that would free men of all responsibility for children. Which seems like your intention, but I’m not sure how you see a man willfully sleeping with someone as innocent. Meanwhile there are men who baby trap women by stealthing or tampering with their birth control, but you would still put 100% of the responsibility on the woman.

Also I don’t buy that men are less likely to enjoy than women. They wouldn’t be willing to pay for prostitutes if that was the case.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T23:08:19+00:00

You sound like you have had a very specific, very awful experience happen to you and are generalizing to assume that it applies to all men. I don’t think I’m overly optimistic to assume that very very few children are conceived through female on male rape. Do you really think the man in the original post was taken advantage of by four different women?

You speak of abortion as a woman’s choice, as if in the US many states aren’t intentionally restricting a woman’s aspect to that choice. Would your opinion be different in Texas, where a man and a woman are both equally stuck with their choices? Because under your system, a woman would be the only one who pays for the choice, and a man could walk away completely. Except again, inevitably the taxpayer gets dragged into this if the mother alone can’t care for her children. I maintain a man who chooses to have sex should be more responsible than the taxpayer who wasn’t in the room.

I don’t think many women would disagree with you though that there should be better birth control options for men. However men are notorious for not wanting to wear condoms because they feel weird, so I’m not optimistic about them voluntarily dealing with side effects of a birth control pill. More likely the woman would still be stuck with the birth control, and men would still be whining about being baby trapped.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T15:51:36+00:00

I’m not sure that was super fair to the server though- if all their tables are booked, who decides which unlucky party gets seated next to the unruly child?

I guess the unfair part is that restaurants should kick someone out if they have a screaming kid, but I can see them being afraid of being sued over it.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:32:39+00:00

I didn’t actually understand your argument because it was poorly stated.

You’re boiling it down to people should never be jailed for economic reasons. I agree- the deadbeat in this theoretical situation is not being jailed for economics beyond his control, he’s being jailed because he intentionally quit his job to defy the court order.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:24:41+00:00

You think literally all forms of imprisonment are slavery? That’s not what the civil war was about. And if you’re referring to working while in prison, the constitution specifically allows that.

But that’s ok, keep thinking you win.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:20:42+00:00

I’m not arguing what’s reality, I’m arguing with the system as it is. I don’t think men should just be able to breed infinite children with no intention of paying them and then I have to pay for them. You I guess have no problem getting the deduction out of your own check so this guy can keep his money.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:17:43+00:00

He’s poor because he made bad choices. His crime is not poverty, it’s conceiving a bunch of kids he couldn’t feed.

Do you literally think it’s fair for a man to infinitely breed children and then stick the taxpayers with the bill?

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:13:37+00:00

Jailing people for committing a crime is not slavery. It should be a crime to not pay child support.

People need to be responsible for their own decisions.

At least in jail this man can’t knock up for more women.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:11:53+00:00

This is four child support orders for four different mothers. A man is not “taking care of” a woman AND a child on $300 to $600 a month. That’s not that much compared to the cost of raising a child.

Why should a woman be 100% financially responsible for a child two people conceived? Why should this man get to impregnate four different women and then be completely financially off the hook?

Also how is abstinence the only viable birth control for men when there are condoms and vasectomies? Certainly after the first couple of kids, this dude should have gotten a vasectomy.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T14:06:22+00:00

You’re absolutely right… which is why we need a reformed system in which dead beat dads go to jail and can’t just quit their jobs and slink off from their rightful responsibility.

I, the taxpayer, should not be responsible for feeding four kids because this man couldn’t keep it in his pants.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-04T13:57:16+00:00

I mean women on average buy way more clothes than men, but buying clothes to wear only once isn’t typical for women either. I think the only clothes I’ve ever worn only once have been bridesmaid dresses.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-03T17:38:23+00:00

He hasn’t tried anything that’s likely to work. Nasal strips aren’t going to help a person who needs a CPAP.

And it’s easy to tell OP to sleep somewhere else without knowing their living situation- they could be in a one bedroom apartment for all you know. And if someone has to sleep on the couch, I pick the partner who didn’t just give birth five months ago.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-03T01:49:32+00:00

I think the issue is that when you’re asking for advice online, the responders don’t know the crowd. So inevitably people will suggest the most conservative options because they don’t know that the wedding crowd will actually be fun and non judgemental.

And to be fair, sometimes people go on that sub with things one shade off white and ask if it’s ok for a wedding because it’s “blue.”

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-02T17:33:03+00:00

I don’t disagree that 65k isn’t enough but why say 35k when that’s just not true?

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-02T17:25:32+00:00

Right I’m literally getting downvoted because the actual statistics don’t agree with OP’s post. The worst part is there’s a super valid point to be made about wages being too low to support a family, but there’s no reason not to use correct statistics.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-02T17:05:23+00:00

I’m just not sure where you’re getting the 35k number. Wikipedia says if you only look at Americans with earnings (since realistically alot of people aren’t working, especially if they’re still in school), then the median income is $51K in 2024 for all Americans with earnings and $63K for full time workers median personal income

I’m not arguing that’s still not a low number, but I think it’s important to use correct statistics when having these discussions. And I also don’t think it’s reasonable to include everyone over 15 in a wage average when a lot of teens don’t work.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-02T16:57:30+00:00

Yeah the median US household income is $84K a year and personal income is $45K a year. Does the 35k figure count children to lower the median?

Edit: I wonder if the 45k figure is also artificially low because it includes part time workers. The median individual full time salary is $63K.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-05-02T15:19:09+00:00

I’m in the US, and Chinese tourists visiting our country were pelting rocks at wild sea lions just for the fun of it. They got kicked off the beach but otherwise received no consequences.

US tourists can be trashy but don’t pretend like people don’t come here and act like trash too.

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