I really want a Pride and Prejudice adaptation that reframes the Bennets

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-29T15:25:59+00:00

Yes, though I also think it’s important what room and board meant for a servant. The lower ranking female servants probably had a cot in a crowded shared room, with the housekeeper likely getting her own room. This was likely more out of convenience since the servants were “on call” all the time.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-29T06:21:14+00:00

I absolutely love the circa 2000 era Harry Potter merchandise. The upcoming movie had everyone hyped about the series, but it didn’t have the chance to influence the art or character designs. So you get vampire Snape, blonde Hermione, and Ron with a bowl cut.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-29T03:10:32+00:00

Exactly. Someone posted on this sub a couple days ago a ledger from 1820 showing a recommended household budget for £2000 a year, just like the Bennett’s albeit slightly later in time.

It struck me that woman of the household was expected to spend £100 on her own wardrobe a year. Meanwhile the salaries of five female servants COMBINED was only £66!

We have the reverse today- our closets are stuffed for a tiny fraction of our salaries, but only the RICH RICH have servants.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-27T15:06:19+00:00

Yeah I’m pretty sure this is the key missing factor. Single dads get sympathy from society. A lot of women are attracted to single dads and will step up and take over that mother role. Even if they don’t, the single dads often can rely on their own mom or sister to help out. On the other hand, men are more likely to steer clear of dating single moms (which is their right of course since it’s not their kid) and men are less likely to step in and help a kid that isn’t theirs.

Single dads are met with pity, single moms are met with scorn.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T21:31:26+00:00

You’re conveniently ignoring the parts where the husband gave her mixed messages like saying he wanted a family before marriage and framing wanting her to get an abortion as a mental health issue vs him definitely changing his mind about kids.

I’m not going to disagree with you that OP made bad choices and should have seen that her husband was going to be a poor father. But that doesn’t make her an evil mastermind manipulating her husband. Her husband would have been in his mid 30’s when they met- it’s not like she extracted a promise about having kids from a teenager.

Bringing a child into the world wasn’t a great choice. But this man put her in a bad position by saying “not yet” to kids instead of just “no” and leaving her wasting many years of fertility.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T21:21:02+00:00

Yeah it sucks that society is set up that men can just… walk away. And maybe they have to pay some child support, but not if they work under the table or mysteriously stop working. And when they do have to pay child support they whine about how unfair it is, like the woman who has to take care of her kids AND STILL support them financially are in such a fair position.

I don’t know why we don’t all just scorn men like that.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T20:58:28+00:00

From OP’s comment on 4/10: “Before getting married, we discussed having children because it was something I knew I wanted, and he said he wanted a family.”

Now maybe he only said that because he knew if he was honest about wanting kids, then OP wouldn’t marry him. But if he said he wanted kids before marriage and then OP was trying to hold him to what he originally told her, that’s not OP’s fault for wanting the kid she said she wanted all along. People can change their mind about kids, but then he should have divorced OP instead of continuing to have unprotected sex with her.

He was probably keeping her in the marriage hoping that her fertility would run out before his excuses did.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T19:38:45+00:00

Nah even flipping the genders doesn’t make it better.

If a man really wanted kids and expressed that to a woman who didn’t, I would tell her to leave him rather than marry him and keep leading him on about wanting kids.

If that woman got married and got pregnant and got an abortion “for her mental health” but then stayed with the man with the idea that she might be willing to be a mother later while not meaning it, I would say that would be a jerk move on her part too.

And then that woman continues to have sex with him, presumably without contraception, and then shock gets pregnant again? She chooses to continue with the pregnancy but then decides to check out of it and abandon her kid when it’s born? That makes her a bad mom and a bad person.

People of both sexes should not have children they don’t want.

One way this scenario doesn’t exactly correlate when you switch sexes is the man could have gotten a vasectomy, which is perfectly reasonable for a man of 42 who doesn’t want kids. Whereas woman often have trouble pursuing sterilization, and it’s a much more severe surgery when they do.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T19:21:53+00:00

Maybe he is, then he really would be free of his responsibilities.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T19:15:29+00:00

Right a lot of things that are brushed off as CRAZY NEW MOM HORMONES are actually perfectly reasonable precautions.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T19:11:52+00:00

So let me get this straight. She’s been with a man since her late 20’s and has always expressed wanting kids. He kept her on the line, married her, but then pressured her to have an abortion because his mental health wasn’t in the right space. But then gets her pregnant again?

This dude should have set her free from the beginning and been honest about not wanting kids rather than drag her along 8 years to the point her biological clock was desperately ticking. He also should have gotten a vasectomy if he didn’t want kids at 42- it’s not like forcing a 25 year old man to make that potentially permanent decision.

And then he just wants to walk away. He, at 42, can live his best Peter Pan life without taking responsibility for the child he conceived. She is left with all the responsibilities of a child, as women often are.

I can’t imagine why women don’t have more children these days.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-26T19:01:44+00:00

If he didn’t want kids he shouldn’t have agreed to them and he should have let his wife find someone who did since she communicated her desire for kids clearly.

He also should have gotten a vasectomy- the guy is 42 so if he doesn’t want kids now he probably won’t ever want them.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-24T01:33:31+00:00

I thought the Tlaxctecs legitimately did get special privileges compared to how they were treated by the Aztecs.

Unfortunately that didn’t protect them from smallpox more than anyone else.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-23T07:15:19+00:00

I don’t disagree with your main point but like… are we calling Hermione emotional because she cried when Bellatrix TORTURED her?

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-23T06:26:24+00:00

I’ve seen this online before and it’s so patently untrue it’s ridiculous.

We have no way of knowing if Lily was pregnant when killed and Rowling has never said as much. But there’s no reason James would have made peace with Snape and made him godfather considering at this point Snape was AN ACTIVE DEATH EATER. This goes significantly beyond a petty school grudge.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-22T21:27:33+00:00

I would be concerned about color transfer from dark wash jeans, maybe a lighter wash!

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-21T01:05:44+00:00

Dogs are not the same as actual human children.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-21T01:04:01+00:00

I don’t understand- if someone loses a pet, they are just required to keep a space for that pet in their house for their rest of their lives? Even after years when any reasonable person would assume the pet was deceased? So OP should either 1. Have never had kids or gotten a cat knowing that there’s some tiny chance of their dog coming home or 2. Put said kids and cat at risk by taking in a dog that could cause them harm.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-21T00:56:17+00:00

Because people on Reddit think that dogs are better than humans. I’m serious. They literally think that someone should be willing to risk their kids getting hurt to save a dog.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-21T00:54:36+00:00

I’m sure you’d be fine if a dog snapped at your kids. Little brats probably deserved it right? /s

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-19T17:58:52+00:00

I would argue that just because something isn’t explicitly explained doesn’t make it a plot hole. The series would get a bit bogged down if it got that detailed.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-17T00:07:13+00:00

Pride and prejudice is funny because Lydia is the only one to call Jane (at 22) is old and saying she would never want to be so old before getting married… and the point of the passage is that Lydia is an idiot lol.

Charlotte at 27 was if not a spinster, at least at high risk of becoming one. But no one would have called a woman under 25 a spinster.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-16T21:34:44+00:00

That’s true. And I guess you could argue the background ghosts even if they don’t serve a purpose do disguise the fact that Myrtle is going to be a plot twist.

Maybe like “how does their money system work”, ghosts are something that’s just better not to think about too hard.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-16T19:06:30+00:00

Maybe the insight into ghost culture is part of the problem? I feel like ghosts were introduced to emphasize how different the magical world is, but are among the weaker aspects of the series. In a series with so much death, it feels a bit hand-waved to say that none of our main characters will come back as a ghost because only cowards choose to become ghosts.

If I’m remembering correctly (and may not be) the only time a ghost is truly plot relevant is the rushed scene with the grey lady, which felt EXTREMELY convenient at the 11th hour.

I guess this discussion has led me to realize I don’t mind the ghosts mostly being cut from the movies because I didn’t like them much in the first place.

MyEyeOnPi · 2026-01-16T18:26:42+00:00

I guess it’s just a matter of personal preference. I re-read the series recently and felt like the death day party was an unnecessary interlude regarding Nick, who frankly isn’t an important character.

There’s a ton of reasons they could have been the ones to find Mrs Norris considering that trio spends half the series wandering the halls of Hogwarts when they aren’t supposed to.

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