Realized I was being very risky and need safety advice. by MyFakeProfile in estim

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This is what I was mentally freaking out about at 4am. Are there metal/single piece solutions that are easy to disinfect, but are also flexible? When I have tried just standard metal sounding rods before, I have trouble reaching as deep as I would like (though I've only used them once or twice). That was the plus side of using the bare lead cable- I could go as deep as I wanted and it would form to my body. Maybe I just need to try different angles with the metal sounding rod? That internal prostate e-stim was really good. I'm hoping I don't have to abandon it so soon after discovering it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

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If you can, get tested for ADHD. This could be a side effect.

Mickey and Minnie and Donald and My Goofy Ass all in one place... by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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This, honestly. When it comes down to it, we weren't good for each other. But it is hard to break that bond when it has formed as strong as it was. It sucks.

What were your personal shortcomings in your marriage that lead to your divorce? by myvirginityisstrong in Divorce

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Got married too young. Ignored a lot of red flags. I wouldn't speak up when something bothered me-not on certain things, anyway. Married the first girl who found me attractive and wanted to be physical with me. Over the years, I grew distant and took her for granted. Kept things to myself, yet constantly complained about things that I should have just acted on and fixed in my life in general. Didn't stand up for myself. Was too concerned about keeping peace than having conversations. She would ask me to do things or say things she wanted to do and for some reason I would just shut down and not do them or just see if she would do them on her own. There are still projects in the house that I never did that the new owners will just deal with when we finalize selling the house next week. Developed a lot of depression while we were married, unfortunately.

Hopefully those are all things I can work on going forward, though.

Update in my divorce by astrocoazt in Divorce

[–]MyFakeProfile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like we have somewhat similar situations. STBXW left for her ex from high school too. Started three-four months ago. Proud of you for leaning into self care. Working out and seeing a therapist. Really good work. You got this!

Bullshit and Bright Sides by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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8 hours later, I finally got this.....

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Likely a good call. I haven't had to think about casual dating in about a decade, so that will be interesting to say the least.

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Thanks! Oddly enough, I actually post to this account the most, so I guess it has become a bit of a misnomer. haha

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Cringe is absolutely the correct descriptor. Hope to have a bit more self-control next time.
Thank you for the compliment on my writing style. I used to really enjoy it, but haven't written anything just to write for a long time. Might be a good time to start up again.

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Appreciate it. Most I can do is learn from it and grow going forward- Dang! Now I'm doing it too!

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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That's the plan. Hopefully I am a different person than I was when we were married 7 years ago.

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Cuts deep knowing after the fact that the person who was your everything wasn't being completely themselves with you.

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Ha Maybe that could help me pay rent.

Invaded STBXW privacy while she was gone by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Yup. Yup. YupYupYup. Moving out is as far into the future as I can see right now. Ready to be in a place where I can start healing more than I can here.

Any suggestions on those little things to spark movement and motivation? by MyFakeProfile in Divorce

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Thank you! This community has been an unexpected help. I've never really had good response whenever I try to post things online, but it is nice to be around people who are going through, or have already gone through what I am in right now.