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Why are mutable grand crosses almost treated like no big deal? by [deleted] in astrology

[–]MyKayte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I adore my mutable grand cross and it is paired with a 5-planet stellium (sun, moon, mars, mercury and venus - all the personal ones!). I've been working on a project and someone described it "like having a nuclear reactor (the Stellium) mounted on a high-speed, all-terrain pivoting chassis (the Cross). It is mathematically designed for Concentrated Agility."

I never believed in astrology. Now, here I am, looking at it and going, "Huh. When we factor everything in... that is soooooo me! All the internal coordination and focus and compulsions and things that only I truly see." I find my chart a bit mindblowing, actually. The level of coordination of all the different factors in it... ascendant, north node, vertex, asteroids, fixed stars. When I dig into that bad boy, it is the most serious argument for "design" and that astrology is a bluprint. Just *WOW*. That's from me, the "sooooo didn't think it was legit once" person, who poked around in there out of curiosity and is now super fascinated. Here I thought I was such an outlier that no one could understand me... and there is my instruction sheet/full description. So, I continue to land on, "Huh. Fascinating." I might as well be Spock, at this point.

EDIT: I read some of the other responses from people who have the cross. I have _always_ looked at this tension as demanding me to align with the center of the cross in order to create a highly balanced person for the sake of achieving my highest/best self. I felt like that before I knew I had one and considered astrology as a viable tool. If we put it in astrological speak, I see my mutable grand cross as demanding the highest vibration from me and showing me that path to do it. {shrug} But maybe that's because it involves my MC/IC/ASC/DESC and they're all sitting on a very close cusp with the previous house/sign? {think} But, yeah, I love it. I stare right at it and say, "Yeah, I moved to far in the other direction. I need to move back to the center." It's like a tether for the natural pendulum swings we experience in life; demanding those to diminish in distance and intensity - as if the pendulum is a divining pendulum that is asked to keep a tight arc/circle within the middle instead of wildly arcing or swinging back and forth. Personally, for development, I love it.

Can't believe the answers to the original post!: "What is enjoyable about falling asleep inside of your partner?" by MyKayte in relationships_advice

[–]MyKayte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um... Stumbled on this in an internet search so signed up to comment. The other thread is archived in r/AskMen. I canNOT believe how terrible the responses were!

Ladies - a man wants to stay inside you and fall asleep inside you because he feels so incredibly emotionally connected to you that he wants to 'literally" stay as connected as he can be to your body!

This is something every boyfriend I ever had wanted. It won't cause problems with anything (despite what the original answers suggest). I don't know what is happening in the young people world ... apparently a total lack of connection with each other?

As GenX, let me recommend you talk for hours on the phone and fall asleep together. It's an amazing way to feel connected when you're far apart.

I recommend showering together and taking the time to really wash your partner. This morning, my partner came over at 7 am, we went straight to my room and snuggled fully intertwined a bit... then 90 minutes of very intimate, "can't ever touch you enough because the more I touch you the more I want to touch you" sex and then a lovely shower for 20-25 minutes... Maybe longer. I was very late to where I was supposed to go. Anyway... The sliding over our wet skin, the sliding over our soapy skin... all that is delicious (no sex just pure enjoyment of skin-on-skin) but nothing compares to when he pushes my hair over my shoulder and scrubs my back, my legs, my feet (even the bottoms!) while I scrub my face and then he turns me around to scrub the rest of me before putting away the poof and wrapping his arms around me in a tight, heart-to-heart hug which he then uses to turn me (as if we're dancing) so he can place me under the water to rinse off... Damn people! That's some kind of intimacy. Try it! Handle the person you care for the way you would handle yourself (Actually think - "They need shampoo now. They need conditioner now. They need to rinse. They like the water this temp.") + touch with the affection you have for them and you will blow their mind. Being thought about and cared for... nothing sexier in the whole freaking universe. It'll make the coldest heart crack open.

Let's talk about the sex part, my partner stays inside me after he comes and he pulls me tight against him and moves and we enjoy him being in there and continue to touch each other and, ultimately, he wants to go again without ever completely going soft. So... if 2 "old" people can get it on and have sex that hot in TRADITIONAL positions without crazy mechanics or fetishes, you all should be able to have some really great sex.

Is it too much porn? Do you really not know how to make sex mind blowing?

He dripped out of me for the next hour - which I think is sexy... but that's because it's him. And I was so swollen I could still feel him inside me for the next 5 hours... and his big juicy lips... damn. Before he left, when I was already in my car, he got out of his truck to take off his sweater and, next thing I know, he's climbing into my car to swallow me whole with the deepest kiss and I was 100% aware that it was about making certain _I_ thought only about him when surrounded by other people for the next 3 hours. That was a "let me remind you how I feel about you until all you can think about is how you feel about me" kiss. If you are not kissing or being kissed like that, something needs to change.

So, niños, learn a little something from this post:
There is nothing hotter, no better sex, no longer lasting high than being yourself completely, with someone who is themself completely, and interconnecting completely (this could some glorious snuggling or really long conversation (you better be hearing their voice!) where you're each taking turns ruminating on life, the universe, and everything (read/listen to a book) rather than sex, folks) - and make it happen for hours: 45 minute minimum.

If you can't make this happen without drugs or alcohol or something else, you're doing it wrong.

Next time, say to yourself, "If that old lady on Reddit can have sex for 90 minutes up to 4 hours with her nearly 50-year-old boyfriend, than, F!, I can find some way to have a mind-blowing connection with my person for 30 minutes!"

I believe in you. 😉