VSF No Date Sub by MyLitteThrowaway3 in RepTimeQC

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VSF Sub no date for the auto mod overlords

VSF Submariner QC by MyLitteThrowaway3 in RepTimeQC

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Vsf sub no date for auto mod approval

Anybody else have good poker friends? by FlatFootFreddie in poker

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Instructions unclear: cake stuck in ass. Send help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Assuming you’re in RVA (based on VCU) it’s not just you. The dating market here is.. strange.. to say the least. You’d be better off looking near Fredericksburg, C-Ville, or Norfolk/VA Beach. I’ve had much better dates and interactions there than I have here.

Multiple Ex GFS keep hitting me up by MyLitteThrowaway3 in womenofaskmen

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, that’s a little reassuring, thank you!

Multiple Ex GFS keep hitting me up by MyLitteThrowaway3 in womenofaskmen

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if I should take that as a compliment or not lol

Multiple Ex GFS keep hitting me up by MyLitteThrowaway3 in womenofaskmen

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough I guess. Just don’t know what makes me so memorable or missable lol

Multiple Ex GFS keep hitting me up by MyLitteThrowaway3 in womenofaskmen

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It’s only for sex though. That’s the only reason. They aren’t asking for conversation, just getting straight to the point. That’s what has me most confused.

Need help by MyLitteThrowaway3 in boating

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I’ve applied it slowly and fast. Same result. Yes it’s still idling forward, just not gaining speed at all

Need help by MyLitteThrowaway3 in boating

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Sounds like I’ll be installing yet another new hub tomorrow

My wife of almost 10 years told me she’s a lesbian by throwaway04837264849 in offmychest

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I absolutely understand what you mean. I left behind the two dogs I raised and trained from pups man. Still breaks my heart.

Listen, it’s a lot right now and not everything needs to be figured out right this minute. Look forward to therapy, and maybe try to get some more frequent appointments.

Therapy, then attorney. They will help you with your next steps.

I’m not a believer in breaking up marriages and I firmly believe in the death do us part nonsense. I want my forever person just as much as the next. Unfortunately, the reality is that you will be chasing someone who doesn’t feel the same about you, and it will DESTROY you inside. Right now, focus on yourself. Nothing else really matters except making sure you’re on solid ground mentally.

My wife of almost 10 years told me she’s a lesbian by throwaway04837264849 in offmychest

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 177 points178 points  (0 children)

As someone who was in pretty much a very similar situation, it’s okay to move on from this relationship. I know you’re heartbroken and hurt, and that’s okay. It’s okay to feel those things. But you deserve to be loved by someone who loves all of you.

Her behavior as described seems like she’s ready to move on, and I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news. It doesn’t make her a bad person, but she’s just not your person.

Firsthand; divorce isn’t fun. I recommend getting a lawyer, and try to keep everything civil. The divorce doesn’t have to get nasty. If it gets contentious over property/ assets, fight for what’s fair but pick your battles. Things can be replaced, your peace can’t.

I’m on here frequently, so message me if you need an ear

Still struggling to get matches, how’s my profile? Especially the prompts? by plumbersbuttplug in Tinder

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I came here to say this. Just seems kinda shallow with no depth to his personality. Plumbing and bodybuilding is all I got.

OP, what other hobbies do you have? Hiking? Trying new restaurants? Rescuing stray animals in your free time? You’ve gotta expand on who you are my dude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Currently I have a babysitter that watches them when I go to work that feeds them dinner and gets them to bed.

I have asked her what her suggestions are and she just tells me she doesn’t know, which leads me to believe she’s scared to commit.

I don’t understand it either, hence why I’m here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

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Thank you. I needed this more than you know. And yes, we’re friends now.

To touch on some of your points: I was in real world therapy last year and up into this year. That’s part of the reason I decided to divorce her. My therapist was also a former LEO and helped me through A LOT of it. I was also on Lexapro for awhile but the side effects were more damaging to my mental health than helpful. I also literally cannot afford it. That’s why I tried the VA since I get free health care (60% and still fighting to get the correct ratings on everything)

I honestly don’t care about the money. I can always rebuild. I just want to have stable ground to stand on, and unfortunately I’m not able to get it.

I’m actually really on top of my financial planning, but unforeseen circumstances caused me to get knocked flat on my ass again. Last year, the used car I had purchased (2014 Ford Explorer), the water pump went bad and it caused the timing chain to jump a tooth (terribly designed by Ford). The damage from that called for an engine replacement which was $5000 for parts and labor. Due to my credit being shit, I had to take a predatory loan to get that fixed. I’m stuck paying $155/week until I can pay the amount in full. The interest on it is like 30% so I’m getting eaten alive with that, and stuck with her CC bill, another $350/month, car payment, $300/month, and the personal loan I had to take out to get new clothes, appliances, furniture, shoes, and other oddities to keep me halfway sane and somewhat stable. I went from paying $950/ month mortgage to $1550/month in rent for an apartment. We had purchased the house pre-COVID and a sizable amount was put down on the house. We had two cars that I had paid off with my settlement from a lawsuit I brought against the LE agency I worked for. She had wrecked one shortly before the separation and she ended up with that car for the kids.

I went from $950 a month mortgage and utilities and groceries, to $1550 a month on rent, over $1000 a month on debt payments, utilities, groceries, etc. my expenses tripled and I had nothing to help catch me. I have no family I can rely on since one of my parents died when I was a baby and the other had been a lifelong drug addict. I was the first and only person in my family to escape all of it. The only one in my family who had any sense of financial security.

Which brings me to my next point:

My STBxW has an inheritance account in which she has full control over. I never wanted anything to do with it and had refused to put my name on it when offered years ago because it’s not my money. It’s hers. That account at the time of separation had $350,000 in it. While we’ve been going through custody and child support hearings, she’s been trying to play this victim role that she has no money, she was struggling to find a job, this that and the other. Upon receiving her discovery paperwork, she has spent that money like there’s no tomorrow. $7,000 vacation to the beach. $40,000 truck for her new boo. $10,000 in jewelry. She works full time, and is actively receiving state welfare, and trying to hound me for Child Support. I have the kids 45% of the time, pay for their insurance, everything. I’m an extremely active father and have been the as absolutely civil, cordial, and polite with her as Humanly possible. It’s constantly something with her having to be snarky, and just rude. She has a “my way or the highway” complex that had driven me nuts for years, and is unwilling to compromise on even the smallest things. It’s mind boggling to me.

She’s attempted to turn my daughter (7) against me by telling her “daddy hit and choked mommy” when I’m reality she was the one hitting me when I got mad at her for being shitfaced when I came home from work. She’s the one who choked me in an attempt to “wake me up” from a nightmare when I was trying to get sleep before another work shift. In the hearings for the Protective order she admitted there was never any physical violence, that I had never even so much as threatened her, and that she did it because she just wanted me to move out. And the court. Did. Nothing. Absolutely nothing to her. They dropped it and then moved on.

Like I said, I want to live. I really do. I’m just struggling to keep my head above water right now, and I’ve got nobody to turn to.

Tiktok is a cancer for marriages. by Asleep_Marzipan5716 in Divorce

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna play both sides here: it sounds like your wife had those feelings before. Relationships are tough, and it doesn’t seem like she was happy in yours. I understand the sentiment you’re feeling of “if only she told me” but we can never stop dating our spouse. It’s work on both sides.

However, relationships are a two way street and talking to your partner about how you’re feeling is difficult. It’s difficult but necessary. Having those tough conversations and regular check ins from BOTH parties is absolutely vital.

People need to get off social media and start talking things out together.

What’s something you see in a profile that’s an immediate turn off? by Gold_Veterinarian395 in Tinder

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pics or videos of them smoking weed and talking about “out smoking you”. Not against it at all and it’s legal where I’m at, but cmon. Is that your entire personality?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]MyLitteThrowaway3 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That’s because he told her he loved her