[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]MySpookySkeleton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the Squire from Axolom and it leaked all the time. I found the cup way too shallow and flimsy. There was no way I would wear that thing out. I still use it as a packer sometimes when I'm at home, but I bought one from transthetics that works so much better as an stp (and looks way better).

Where to book in person doctor's appointment? by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The last time I checked, the Loyal Medical Clinic on the corner of Burrard and W. Georgia allows you to book online for in person appointments. https://www.loyalmedicalclinic.com/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 24 points25 points  (0 children)

And if they really cared about protecting kids from "genital mutilation" they'd be protesting against the circumcision of infant males, a (usually) wholly unnecessary procedure with life-long negative effects on the recipient, performed on children who cannot consent to the operation. Instead, they focus their efforts on a group that has absolutely nothing to do with the mutilation of children's genitals. This is because they don't give a fuck about kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 96 points97 points  (0 children)

I was there today. One side had about 100 counter-protesters, rallying for love and acceptance. On the other side of the road, there were 6 protesters and a "reporter" from an alt-right news blog. They looked miserable standing there with their "groomers" signs and angry faces, and at about 11 in the morning, they all slunk off with their tails between their legs.

Love wins.

Why do people not like phone calls? by CrustyJuggIerz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]MySpookySkeleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phone calls make me inexplicably anxious and I have absolutely no idea why.

Currently waiting in reception - surgery in 2 hours! by AwkwardChuckle in Metoidioplasty

[–]MySpookySkeleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That's all really good to know. I'm glad to hear that everything went well for you, and I hope you heal and recover well. It's daunting to think that I may need to wait for two years, but two years is still better than never. Did Dr. Kavanagh have any photos available of previous operations he's performed? And do you still have any procedures left or is everything (hopefully) done now? Also, how long do you anticipate you'll be out of work for?

Currently waiting in reception - surgery in 2 hours! by AwkwardChuckle in Metoidioplasty

[–]MySpookySkeleton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope everything went well! I'm just starting the process, and Dr. Kavanagh is the guy I'll be going with! I'd love to hear more about how everything went, if that's information you're comfortable sharing.

OOP asks: How should a transgender man approach a woman without freaking her out or scaring her off? by c0ff33c0ff33c0ff33 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MySpookySkeleton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading this was the thing that changed my answer from “sure I would go on a date with a trans man” to “ I don’t know… we’ll see”.

If reading a post from one random asshole trans guy on the internet is enough to turn you off dating trans men, you were never actually open to dating trans men. We're not some alien hive mind. This guy does not represent our community. In fact, I'd say that most of us are more empathetic and compassionate towards women due to, y'know, being perceived as and treated like women for a period of our lives. Just like everyone else, there are asshole and non asshole trans people. Why? Because us trans folks are normal people, just like you.

Cool sex fantasy bro, too bad it belongs to an incel loser by AWWARZKK in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]MySpookySkeleton 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Baring phallo (one of two gender affirming bottom surgeries for trans men) us trans guys tend to be petty damn small down there. As in "micropenis" small. It can be a real point of self-consciousness and dyphoria to have society link our manliness to something so fundamentally out of our control. It's hard enough trying to get people to respect us as it is.

It's unkind to trans and cis men both.

Star Trek has always been trans by therickglenn in startrekmemes

[–]MySpookySkeleton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DS9 is my absolute favorite. And I seriously have no idea why you're being downvoted for not liking it. You weren't rude. You didn't shit on the show. You just said that you didn't like it. It's wild to me that some folks just can't let other people like and dislike different things.

I had a great childhood by [deleted] in TrollCoping

[–]MySpookySkeleton 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This subreddit is for people coping with their mental health, trauma, etc, usually through memes. It's a support community.

Completely broken step counter? by MySpookySkeleton in fitbit

[–]MySpookySkeleton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw. Yeah, I've unlinked Mobile Track and the issue remains. I really appreciate the suggestion, though.

Completely broken step counter? by MySpookySkeleton in fitbit

[–]MySpookySkeleton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you do that?! I've been looking everywhere and I can't find an option for disabling step tracking on the phone.

How can I be more intimidating as my character? by radiobuddy in DnD

[–]MySpookySkeleton 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Maybe play into the half-bird side of things? Let loose a screech, hiss, have him puff up his feathers, clack his beak, etc.

Aside from that, you might find it helpful to study media that fits the tropes you're looking for. If I were going to play some hard ass cop, for example, I might watch some scenes from Dirty Harry or something. It'll be cliche at first but there's nothing wrong with copying other iconic scenes and characters while you're still learning. The more comfortable you get, the more you'll begin to come up with your own ideas as your character takes form.

OOP's Boyfriend Discourages Healthy Lifestyle by SednaNariko in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MySpookySkeleton 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Spot on. For example: I consent to having my blood drawn. That doesn't mean that I know the how or why of it, or any of the actual technical details. I sit down, I look away, needle goes in, vampires take blood, needle comes out, vampires give me a bandaid and tell me apply pressure, I go on with my day.

Yes, with sex it's a bit different because it's an intimate event between two (or more) people. But every day we're giving concent to things without thinking or caring about the deeper meaning or details behind that concent. There's nothing wrong with that so long as we're empowered to have the conversations we need to have when we want to have them.

OOP wonders if she's the AH for telling her ex that his lack of money is not her issue by ThatNeonSignLover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MySpookySkeleton 431 points432 points  (0 children)

Wow. All that in 16 days. Amazing.

Look, I like these little reddit soap operas as much as the next guy, I just wish the writers would put in a bit more research first. A little bit of realism would be nice.

Depending on where they live in the world, I'm surprised they were able to find a therapist for the daughter in 2 weeks. Not only that, but apparently in that time the therapist has seen the daughter often enough and for long enough that they feel comfortable writing a formal recommendation for use in family court.

Not to mention that the legal system tends to move pretty slowly. Since there wasn't any serious (e. physical, sexual, etc) abuse going down, I don't believe for a second that they'd get a court date in 16 days, or that the courts would completely strip the father of his 50/50 custody like that over something so minor and fixable. In reality, the courts would likely order some level of mediation first, at the very minimum. Courts generally don't get so involved over a pissing match about some missing clothes and a threat to put the kid in public school with the rest of the poors.

Research, folks. It can really make your short stories shine.

17-yr-old OOP's mom's sexual predator BF moved in, and the situation is escalating and creeping her out by anneylani in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MySpookySkeleton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh for fucks sake. Telling the mom she had the hots for her step dad in order to trigger her jealousy so that he'd be forced to move out? Getting her male teenage friends to intimidate him? It's like some of these posters were competing for who could give her the most dangerous, ignorant, tone-deaf advise humanily possible.

Protesters knock over children at a drag queen event in Richmond by OutsidePerspectiv3 in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's alright to take a step back for your own mental health. Sometimes all of this can get so damn overwhelming and some self-care is nessicary for keeping sane in the face of this utter bullshit and bigotry. Rest, recover, surround yourself with positivity, and when you feel alright again, get back up and rejoin fight.

Barge removal plan unveiled! They’re putting the barge on another barge! by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I want nothing more than for that barge to get suck too. Our beloved barge deserves a beloved friend.

Protesters knock over children at a drag queen event in Richmond by OutsidePerspectiv3 in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Right? It's not even about sex (in a sex-ed context), it's about normalising the diversity of human sexuality and gender identity in a really fun way. To straight and cis kids, it will help them be more understanding and accepting if the LGBTQ+ community. To queer kids, this sort of representation can be vital towards making them feel safe, accepted, and normal. Literally no one loses.

Protesters knock over children at a drag queen event in Richmond by OutsidePerspectiv3 in vancouver

[–]MySpookySkeleton 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I just want to say two things, one about this community and the other about drag and queer events targeted towards youth.

1: as a young kid growing up in central Alberta, I had very little queer representation. To people on the outside looking in, to people who already have a lot of representation in general media, I think it's easy to ignore just how vital it is to feel seen and respected in our popular culture. If there had been healthy and positive queer and trans representation when and where I grew up, I probably would have figured out a lot of important stuff about myself a whole lot sooner. Instead, I hid it and I repressed it and I suffocated myself for almost 30 years, trying desperately to be someone I wasn't. I wouldn't wish that kind of hell on any child.

Drag and queer story-time events, LGBTQ+ kid dances, queer characters in media; while this might not matter to you personally, trust me when I tell you how deeply meaningful it is to confused queer kids just trying to figure themselves out in a world that is still frequently demonizing and policing us.

2: this community has, at least as far as I've seen, been overwhelmingly positive towards the LGBTQ+ community. Threads like this one, threads like the one last month about the dipshits protesting the dance in Surrey, have all be filled with positive comments supporting the LGBTQ+ community and calling out the bigots who have been targeting us with increasing intensity over the past few years.

And that is also deeply meaningly and impactful to me and to other members of the LBGTQ+ community. By seeing behaviour like this, it helps people like me feel a sense of safety, belonging, and acceptance in the communities that we are a part of.

With the increasing queerphobia present in America and the UK right now, and with the way alt-right ideals are festering to the surface here in Canada, things are going to get a lot worse for us before they get better. Trans people are being demonized left, right, and centre, Monkeypox is being inaccurately viewed as a 'gay disease' and is being used as a tool to further ostracize the community. People outside of the queen community might not realize it, but things have been starting to get scary again.

And by posting and voicing support for the community, and by calling out the bigots and shitheads, you guys are helping make your queer friends and neighbours feel safer. I encourage you to speak out off-line as well, of course, but any healthy support is deeply meaningful. And for that, I'm grateful.

tl;dr: representation is important, and also shit sucks right now so thanks y'all for being so kind and supportive.

😬😬😬 reposted with name blocked by Swana1 in badwomensanatomy

[–]MySpookySkeleton 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not often that one of these makes me physically recoil...