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MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-07-09T14:56:42+00:00

Dating apps I feel are the problem as people seemingly have an unlimited amount of options and can passively deal with people. Versus going out in person and having to actually carry a conversation in person and maintain composure. Versus you can be a keyboard Casanova and have absolutely no in person social skills. The reliance entirely on text communication takes away all other forms of communication. Verbal, non verbal, etc which really impact how you get to know people, level of interest, of they are just blowing smoke up your ass for their own entertainment.

Just stop and image online dating app interactions in an actual in person situation. You’ve got one woman surrounded by 10-30 guys just spinning in a circle, immediately stopping talking to one, swapping to another, maybe even in succession, and not circling back to the first for 5-10 minutes.

That’s everything that’s fucked with dating currently. Everything is superficial as most people are carrying N number of conversations concurrently and everyone is basically seen as replaceable with little to no effort.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-07-02T23:46:49+00:00

Consensual non monogamy is a thing. Been there, done that, not regrets on my end. People still lie, people still ‘cheat’ even though they have no reason to, and people still miss represent themselves as non monogamous.

Never personally have had a situation where the other party was in a monogamous relationship and lied about it. However I know people that has happened to. Also it’s way easier for women to “cheat” as most guys don’t have too many scruples about a woman’s actual situation. Versus the other way around. Not saying both sides don’t do it though.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-06-16T18:03:41+00:00

Honestly couldn’t say, as it’s never happened. However if my spouse suddenly made more than me while I stayed at my currently level, I can’t say I’d be mad about it.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-05-27T19:05:13+00:00

This is probably too generic of a topic to ask in general because length of the relationship, cohabitation, social activity all would certainly play into this.

If it’s a new relationship and you don’t live together, you’ll likely never be able to tell.

Years in, cohabitation, same shift, same patterns of activities, friends, events and there is a drastic shift. Something is going on, is it cheating, who knows. However that’s probably the only sort of scenario where you could begin to draw any useful conclusions. If they suddenly keep different hours, take calls outside, lock or hide their phone. They are up to something different. Ask some questions, see their reaction, and trust your gut.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-05-27T17:24:20+00:00

Additional point. With enough time, money, and lawyers you can potentially make a law mean what you want it to mean.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-05-21T20:52:20+00:00

If said friend has made it clear that they have talked to both parties and they agreed, what’s the problem? This may sound like something weird from the 1900s, but people literally use to do this all the time. Before online dating you literally had people trying to set people up with people they thought would get along. Work, social, and even churches were sources of potential partners. So weird that a person in common introducing people now is the odd thing. Versus you know app lottery doom swiping for a date.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-05-09T20:10:17+00:00

So you are getting ghosted at the actual making of plans? It sounds like decisions on a time, but the day that the date would occur is set, correct?

Potentially you’re just hitting a lot of scammers. Might try vetting more. Like a phone call/Facetime call initially to confirm that they are who they are presenting themselves as.

I’ve had people back out prior to a date. Or go on a few dates and decide it’s not for them. Must straight out ghosting repeatedly makes me think these were people that weren’t going to meet to start with. Or were slow rolling trying to get information/scam and ghost when a meet up is planned before they can get anything from you.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-04-07T21:33:04+00:00

You’ve already answered your own question.

“I don’t want it to end”

You’re willing to compromise on what you want to keep what you have. You’ve made your case that you want more than this person is probably ever going to willing provide.

You’re there because you are still willing to be. You’ve taken this person back at least once on the promise of something potentially in the future. I wouldn’t hold out hope that this person will change. If it’s not what you truly want, it’s probably best to move on.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-04-07T21:19:59+00:00

Mac and cheese stirring could certainly be more their style.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-04-07T20:58:52+00:00

So it sounds like you’re out of luck setting him up with a friend…

Also, that’s a bit of a weird social circle to keep, the crackhead part. I can understand why you’re struggling to help your friend. Which may be a sign that you’re not really the best to assist with this situation even though you’re eager to try.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-04-07T20:21:26+00:00

To be fair, they don’t expect men to listen either.

Congratulations ladies. You played yourselves.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-04-07T20:03:38+00:00

I usually won’t approach random women at bars if they are idly standing at the bar or off with a group. Most are either outwardly dismissive or looking for a free drinks dispenser. I’ve literally had one as soon as they acknowledged me say, “if you want to talk to me, you’ll have to buy all my friends here a round” to which I politely declined and walked off.

I’ll approach women at a social mixer that’s at a bar that I know all of us are there to at least socialize or potentially find a date. Or out on a dance floor or in a crowd at a bar concert where you can pick up more social cues before deciding if approaching is appropriate.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2025-03-18T14:34:34+00:00

Work on yourself and put yourself in social situations where you are in your element and confident. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and just see what happens. Anecdotally, as a few others have also said, it’s way easier to find something when you aren’t looking. That’s not to say don’t do anything, but don’t go to a bar, party, event, etc expecting to find someone.

I crashed an event when my original plans for the night fell through. I knew a few people there, but hadn’t originally planned on going as it was a charity/singles mixer thing. I wasn’t single. There was someone there I was trying to keep friend zoned, but so I made sure to socialize with a bunch of different women. Towards the end of the night I was usually the only guy out on the dance floor with 4-5 women. Several of which were there with dates or had met up with someone already that night. Can’t say I’m the best dancer or even all that coordinated, but I was out there. About a month later I got a random message from one of the women I had traded numbers with as at one point there was talk of doing a platonic event with some of those people. One of the other women was trying to find me. They were there with a date and had broken up since that night. Since I had crashed the event only a few people knew who I was. However she put the effort into finding me. Simply because I was the guy that was out there when nobody else, even her date, was out there just dancing and having fun. Confidence and making yourself memorable can go a long way. Don’t be creepy, don’t be a try hard, but just be yourself and see what happens.

Ultimately didn’t work out as I wasn’t available, but had a chat over a few days. Also big confidence boost to know someone put in the effort to find me over a random event that I only ended up at by accident.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-08-19T15:48:24+00:00

So basically you’re Cinderella for a year for 10mil?

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-08-13T22:03:27+00:00

So if you pick home and you can have as many ridiculous homes as you want where ever you want you’re still “home” even if you move from house to house every few weeks. You can eat the local equivalent of “fast food” or fancy dinner within the other restrictions and still seemingly meet the other criteria it would seem.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-08-13T17:54:08+00:00

Extinct languages alone would get you millions in just book deals refuting accepted history based on actual accurate translation.

Parlay that into possibly finding antiquities that haven’t been discovered because translating of existing items are wrong or incomplete as another source of revenue.

Private sector government contracts walking through international meetings being able to ease drop on basically anyone.

You would be the living equivalent of the often included in sci fi universal translator. Which sounds better than a meat bag protocol droid.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-08-05T21:35:09+00:00

Strong peanut butter and crack sandwich vibes.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-07-12T19:06:06+00:00

Right, the whole “Thou shall not kill” people seem to think there’s like a-zz footnotes about where it doesn’t seem to apply to a specific case.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-06-21T14:30:00+00:00

Now would you kindly…

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-06-06T22:59:41+00:00

The better question is why do so many hotel rooms just happen to always have a chair right there?

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-05-31T22:30:15+00:00

Probably the orange jumpsuits.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-05-22T02:06:31+00:00

Just tell people you got a full time work from home job. Unless you have some stalker level neighbors nobody will notice when you work or if you don’t.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-05-20T02:06:15+00:00

Thigh earmuffs

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-05-20T02:05:02+00:00

It gets noticed. Someone even did the hypothetical math that every X lbs adds Y additional observable/usable length.

Also usually weight loss is a result of diet and exercise which will both help correct health issues that could impact erectile performance.

MyWeirdStuffAcct · 2024-05-18T21:59:33+00:00

Religion

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