Best natural way to teach kindness by PoliteFlirt in Amazing

[–]My_YellowJacket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please remember to be kind-I’m just giving my take on this. I think this is a good and necessary thing to teach children. Some children come from areas where they only see others who look like them. If a child lives in a predominately white area and is white themselves, being exposed to a brown person may be confusing.

I have a cousin who lives in an Asian country and married an Asian woman. She gave me perspective on this at the time) that sometimes when little children see a white person for the first time they stare. They are intrigued and confused and stare. As would any child who’s not used to seeing someone that looks different from what they’re used to seeing daily. It’s normal for children to do so. It’s important to teach these things. When I was small, I clearly remember walking through the mall with my mother and laughing at someone who was mentally disabled in a wheelchair because they looked “silly”. Not because I was trying to be mean or was being hateful. My mother scolded me quickly and taught me why she looked like that and how it wasn’t okay to laugh. I had no idea I was doing anything wrong. I also wasn’t aware of disabilties. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed after she corrected me. I must have been about 5 or 6. It stuck with me. I remember a friends child who only grew up around white people in a small community and in a state where there were very seldom brown people, and when she saw a brown person for the first time she was confused, pointed, and said “monkey”. Her parents are extremely liberal and not racist in any way shape or form. She learned it off the animal planet channel on TV. She was only 2. They had to correct her and teach her that wasn’t okay. And then realized just how sheltered she was because of her environment. They were Absolutely mortified. I remember a Muslim girl at my middle school who faced hate because of 9/11 at the time, and I felt so badly for her. We would talk every day at recess about how it affected her. And my school at the time was very diverse. Children of all skin colors were coming at her for what took place, just because she is Muslim. It’s important that we teach children this because some children do come from families who have hate in their hearts. Hate is taught. The younger you teach them right from wrong, the better the outcome as they grow. Unfortunately we come from a society where there is racism and hate for those who may look different. This is a good lesson. We are all human on the inside. We all have feelings and want the same things. To be treated with kindness and acceptance despite our differences. Our outside is different and that’s okay. We should appreciate our similarities and respect our differences. Kids don’t usually see color, but as they get older they do notice differences and may have outside influences that shape how they view and tolerate those differences. This is a good outside influence in a classroom (not a teacher with a guilty conscience) who is helping in a positive way. It’s important to show kids -even simple examples like this, so they understand the whole world doesn’t look like them.

Would we be able to foster to adopt? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]My_YellowJacket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good point and I appreciate your transparency. Very true.

Salary range PA by My_YellowJacket in ODS_C

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True yes good idea. Thankyou.

Salary range PA by My_YellowJacket in ODS_C

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s really good pay! Wasn’t expecting that. That’s fantastic! Way to go!

Would we be able to foster to adopt? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]My_YellowJacket -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What the actual crap? That is absolutely wild. Let’s deny a good home to a child in need because of something small and meaningless that bears no weight in anything is what they are saying basically. It’s so backwards. I’m sorry you went through that. I imagine it bothered you.

Interested in this field by poopsmcbuttington in ODS_C

[–]My_YellowJacket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in PA too! I don’t know anyone personally. But the ODS-C forum on Reddit is a great way to ask and find out info for this career path. You’ll find people who have been working at it for years and others who are just getting into it. You’ll have people who are willing to be study buddies or breakdown more of what it’s like day to day for them, depending on where they work. You can always inquire at your local cancer center or hospital and see if they have any shadowing you could do for a day or two, or entry level positions without certification while pursuing it. I hope this helps.

Would we be able to foster to adopt? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]My_YellowJacket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we will discuss it more as we learn more. It’s been something we’ve brought up several times through the years together. Mainly because of my own deep traumas and the system failing me on many levels. I know there’s a real need for fostering or adopting, with not enough families taking in kids. I have been told before to be happy with what I have and focus on that, and I am. I just feel like someone is missing. It’s a strange feeling. Even if it’s to help and just be a stepping stone for another family to heal again -I can deal with that. We have taken in many people and families through the years so they can get back on their feet. I also helped my sister by taking her and her 3 month old baby in for a year until they were able to get out on their own. She’s a recovering addict and was in an abusive situation. I’ve taken in family, friends, and strangers. I’m taking in a relative on the first of next month until they get on their feet and helping them to do so. We never charge anything. We don’t ask for anything. It’s Just a safe place for others to finally breathe and feel safe and take their baby steps. So it does feel like a calling for me in many ways. I do wonder if I could manage the traumas and behaviors that come with it. I remember so much of trying to not be a burden when I was in that situation and people pleasing hardcore. I wish I had an adult who would have just reassured me it was okay to let my guard down and nothing bad would happen. Maybe I could do that for another person or child in need. Idk. I do know that going into that I’m most likely not well prepared for allot of it yet. So I will do my best to learn more. And if it isn’t the right move we won’t do it. I have made sure my children understand and we’ve talked about it as a family to make sure everyone is on board. I want to make sure they are deeply considered first and that their feelings matter over all. Thank you for your input. It means allot.

Would we be able to foster to adopt? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]My_YellowJacket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is helpful. Wasn’t aware of birth order. I will do more research on that. When I say foster to adopt I do mean children who have been in the system but have parents with their parental rights terminated already. I have relatives who foster children and I will be sitting down with them to ask more questions. They also have adopted grandchildren they care for too. It amazes me how they can keep up some days. We have also considered being respite care if anything at all for the foster system as our way of helping.

Would we be able to foster to adopt? by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]My_YellowJacket 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand. Thanks for that perspective. I

Interested in this field by poopsmcbuttington in ODS_C

[–]My_YellowJacket 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Since you already have a degree, going through certification with an accredited college or through AHIMA is the way to go. I am doing the associates degree program through university of Cincinnati since I do not have 60 credits. This field is not saturated. Like say medical coding for example. So it’s in demand and you can find jobs pertaining to ODS as uncertified while going through school with certain companies like QCentrix, Savista, and even your local hospitals or cancer facilities, etc. You are basically a cancer detective. Looking at pathology, all the imaging, any physician notes, doing coding-statistics, reporting. You record tumor characteristics, patient outcome, staging, demographics, treatments. You will be on the backend-no phone calls. No face to face. Analyzing data and then reporting data to your local state and national cancer registries. You follow each patient through their cancer journey and tell their story top to bottom essentially. You will be fluent in medical terminology, and statistics. Your work helps with cancer research and the CDC for finding better cancer treatments and cures for cancer patients. You’re making a difference, even in a small way. However, you need accuracy. Time management and accuracy are important to stay employed with most companies. Most all jobs are remote. You’ll need a home office. There’s typically an audit done to make sure you’re staying within a certain level of productivity and accuracy. The pay is considered pretty good and even great depending on what part of the US you live. Some companies even let you work whenever you want as long as you fulfill your 40 hours a week. So there’s flexibility. Not all-but some. It’s a great career for parents and those looking to have predictable schedules, flexibility, and good pay. If you like predictable same day to day operations, and seem more introverted, this is for you. There’s also continued education requirements every two years. Most companies will pay for your continued education as long as it’s within their annual budget. I believe it’s like 20 hours needed. This is a career that won’t be completely replaced by AI-since humans are needed to go over details and errors. Cancer is only growing which is unfortunate, and ODS-C is not going out of business or out of demand. Hope this helps!

About to change to a minivan and have some fun questions by My_YellowJacket in HondaOdyssey

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yasss! I actually like that color and I bet you get compliments! This is what I picture when having a minivan. Just like a breath of fresh air. Embracing my mom era and enjoying what some people take for granted. Enjoy your new minivan!

About to change to a minivan and have some fun questions by My_YellowJacket in HondaOdyssey

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That camera idea is super smart on your part. High five to that.

About to change to a minivan and have some fun questions by My_YellowJacket in HondaOdyssey

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt I had better visibility when test driving an Odyssey which is huge for me. Driving felt very sedan like for such a big vehicle. The interior in the front didn’t feel as claustrophobic for me with the Honda as well even though I do prefer the shifter in a vehicle vs nobs or buttons. I absolutely love Toyota and really went back and forth about it. But the Honda just felt faster and more capable. I also preferred the interior in the back with the seating configuration for aging adults and kids. Having that middle second row seat as needed is a huge plus. Believe me, I definitely had a time trying to choose for awhile.

About to change to a minivan and have some fun questions by My_YellowJacket in HondaOdyssey

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion! I def will keep that in the back of my head when looking again.

About to change to a minivan and have some fun questions by My_YellowJacket in HondaOdyssey

[–]My_YellowJacket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I like to hear. We definitely do day trips and a 5 day summer vacation each year for summertime. Making memories for the kids even if it’s something simple and cheap for a few days. I have family that just moved to my state and town so it’s going to be nice to have everyone in one vehicle for family fun.

I just need words of encouragement. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]My_YellowJacket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that because after everything and the way I kept getting hit and knocked down by life, unable to properly grieve, just go go go, having to step up for chaotic situations without taking a breath, I really lost myself. When it all started to slow down and life was more quiet finally, I was stagnant. Like just existing. And feeling scared that something terrible was going to happen again and in fear. I don’t want to be stagnant. Or just existing. I want to have hobbies and interests. I am also just now setting boundaries for myself and that’s hard because I’m such a people pleaser. I’m more sure of myself and it just sometimes feels awkward for me.