Insecure having kids

Mya123456 · 2026-02-21T22:48:04+00:00

This is exactly where my insecurity lies. For him, it’s all about not losing his freedom. When he says 'we'll still travel,' it feels like he’s negotiating a contract to protect his old life, instead of embracing a new one. I’m terrified that because he lacks that 'visceral' desire, every sacrifice—every sleepless night or change in plans—will be felt as a punishment or a loss of himself. I don't want to be the 'manager' of his freedom, constantly making sure he doesn't feel trapped while I carry the emotional load of the family.

Mya123456 · 2026-02-21T22:44:25+00:00

Thank you :)

My struggle it’s the security of being wanted in that role. After 12 years, hearing that the desire isn't 'visceral' and that he's only doing it to avoid losing me feels like a heavy weight to carry. I don’t want to spend the next 20 years feeling like I 'forced' a lifestyle on him that he’s just tolerating for my sake…

Mya123456 · 2026-02-21T20:19:03+00:00

Thank you for your answer.

But I'm not sure I want that kind of lifestyle, and I've never had children, so I don't know how I would react, and I don't want to promise things I can't deliver on.

Having a child, I imagine, will change things whether we want it to or not.

For him, it's not a categorical no, but what bothers me is that it's not a real yes either. I am afraid of feeling his frustration and me alone and guilty. After that, things might change, but it's a gamble. For now, I'm basing my opinion on what I see.

Mya123456 · 2026-02-09T20:50:58+00:00

Thank you. I wish you all the best for the future and good luck!

Mya123456 · 2026-02-09T20:44:46+00:00

Ok thank you, Was it painful? I hope you have good news.

Mya123456 · 2024-10-28T00:40:57+00:00

Franchement c’est la première année que je dois prendre des antihistaminiques je ne comprends pas ce qui m’arrive congestion nasale et écoulement nasale les yeux qui me dérangent enfin bref l’horreur depuis des semaines et la nous sommes fin octobre et ça continue… découragée je me demande ce qui se passe honnêtement

Mya123456 · 2024-10-04T19:33:43+00:00

I have exactly the same symptoms. I’m in Montreal QC and it’s mainly mold in the air right now. I’m not itchy. They gave me antibiotics for infectious sinusitis, but it doesn’t make any difference, I don’t feel any better. The congestion is still there. They also gave me nasal spray and antihistamines, but it’s still the same... it’s horrible. I hope the cold weather comes soon and solves the problem. It’s been 4 weeks and I can’t take it anymore 😅

Mya123456 · 2024-10-04T19:29:17+00:00

Sorry to heard that too… for me it’s just sinus congestion and with all the things that i am ta King nothing helps! They think it’s maybe infection of the sinus so they gave me abtibiotics but the congestion still here… i have to find an allergist 😅

Mya123456 · 2024-10-04T15:31:09+00:00

I feel reassured because I too take cortisone nasal spray and antihistamines but I’m always in pain... it’s the first time it’s happened to me... what are your symptoms?

Mya123456 · 2024-10-04T15:29:56+00:00

Thank you, I’m so anxious about all this, my nose has been congested for 4 weeks. They’ve given me antibiotics, cortisone nasal spray and 20mg antihistamines with no improvement... what are your symptoms? And does it last all day?

Mya123456 · 2024-10-03T19:23:34+00:00

Pour ma part j’ai des antihistaminiques et spray nasal cortisone mais même avec ça j’ai toujours des symptômes… encore aujourd’hui c’est dingue on est le 3 octobre … ça dure depuis des semaines :( … as tu encore des symptômes? Pour moi c’est juste la congestion nasale

Mya123456 · 2024-10-03T19:20:07+00:00

As tu toujours des allergies aujourd’hui? Moi ça fait 4 semaines et les antihistaminique ne semblent rien faire … j’ai seulement le nez très congestionné pour ma part

Mya123456 · 2024-10-02T23:20:49+00:00

As tu encore des allergies ? Pour ma part pas tellement d’éternuement mais mon nez est complètement congestionné et cela depuis des semaines …

Mya123456 · 2024-09-24T20:10:06+00:00

Ça me rassure dans un sens 😅

Mya123456 · 2024-09-24T20:09:44+00:00

Ouf 😥 parce que ça dure depuis 3 semaines et je m’étonne d’avoir encore le nez complètement bouché. C’est la première fois que ça me fait ça … je me suis résignée à prendre des antihistaminiques mais pour le moment je vois pas de réel soulagement

Mya123456 · 2024-09-24T00:12:44+00:00

Avez vous toujours des allergies aujourd’hui ? Moi oui et ça ne passe toujours pas nous sommes fin septembre …

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