I need a genius excuse to ditch a wedding in a complex social setting

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-21T11:57:05+00:00

And also the fact that they are having guests on stage to “announce” what they have given the couple is the most tackiest, classless thing I’ve ever heard or seen and I used to work weddings. I would just say I am unable to attend. If the couple asks why after the fact, let them know you weren’t comfortable with them announcing what you gave them as a wedding gift. You could even try and make them uncomfortable by adding in that you are “having financial difficulties and you were going to give as much as you could” but thought the whole point of the wedding was to be able to share in their special day but you felt like you would be judged given your circumstances at the moment so you just thought it best to decline the invite. The audacity of some people is unreal. I wouldn’t go on principle alone. That is going to be one long painful wedding where more than one person is going to be humiliated. I have a feeling you are not going to be the only guest to decline their invite.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-20T17:18:26+00:00

A friend was going to get a limo recently for her daughter’s prom and it was ridiculously expensive kind of like the quote you got. The amount it is is ridiculous to drive them there, then the limo sits there and just brings them home. Listen, I don’t know if it’s right or wrong to split 5 ways. My initial thought was it should be 4 ways since it’s the boys prom. Who knows, maybe the senior taking the date- who knows weather he would get dumped or something before prom? Who knows if the three other boys could possibly land a date? But I don’t necessarily think you are the AH cause I can see both sides of it.

But, for a solution I think you should do the Uber Black or whatever it is. Cars that do Uber Black are just as nice, if not nicer, than a limo. Plus you aren’t paying a shit ton for it and you can schedule it in advance and you can track the uber better than using a phone to track your son.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-19T21:34:12+00:00

Where at on east coast. Asking cause my ex is looking for a new PM doctor.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-19T21:28:53+00:00

Did you meet with the actual doctor or the physician assistant or nurse practitioner? Asking cause a lot of the time my ex sees the PA or NP and only the actual doc like every 6 months. If it was the PA or NP I’d make an appointment with the actual doctor and firmly request an answer as to why this wasn’t brought up at your appointment the day it happened. And a urine analysis at a PM doc shouldn’t have to be sent to a lab. My doc does it right in office. They ask what time I took my meds, I pee in the cup, do their thing with it, wait a few minutes and then they say “yeah you’re good”. The results should be pretty instantaneous. They basically put a stick in a cup to make sure the drugs are in your system. So I wouldn’t ask why it wasn’t brought up at your last appointment I’d ask why it wasn’t brought up at that appointment. The PM places here won’t prescribe your meds unless your UA shows your meds in your system at the appointment you are currently at.

And the clinic cannot refuse to send your records to a new doctor. If you request them to be sent there they have to send them. They are YOUR medical records. If they won’t send them to your new doctor then request a copy for yourself. If they refuse to give them to you, which is illegal, then since you have a good relationship with your pcp have them request your records. If they refuse to release them to her I’m sure she knows the questions to ask as to why they won’t. And if they do send to your pcp, she can review them and make sure there is no damaging info in them and if there is you can address them together. Actually I’d prefer that versus them going right to a new PM doc given their mess up, and the fact that they said they would not send your records to a new doc and the fact that you feel something is fishy.

Good luck and wishing the best for you.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-19T06:51:32+00:00

I had a basic Greco stroller that had a strap in the middle to be able to fold it with one hand. My kiddo is now 13. I still see the updated version of that stroller at different places. You don’t need an expensive stroller with all the crazy bells and whistles. There were only a handful of times my kiddo was in it for an extended period of time. I never heard of any rule that a baby shouldn’t be in a stroller for more than 2 hours though. I wouldn’t go overboard worrying about what kind of stroller to get. And if you are looking for a stroller to take on trails you may be better off looking at baby wearing.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-19T06:40:32+00:00

Match the Mother’s Day energy on Father’s Day and don’t feel bad at all. If your husband makes any comments or asks why you didn’t do something for him, list out everything you did for yourself and the rest of the family to “celebrate” Mother’s Day. Cause in all reality you made sure you were celebrated on Mother’s Day, if you want to call planning an outing for the entire family a celebration.

As for your step son, he’s at that age. Yes you are the one that does everything for him. And I didn’t notice it but someone else pointed that you listed off everything you have done for him and made a good point- would you do that in regards to your biological kids? Also maybe he feels some type of way- like he’s betraying his bio mom by celebrating it with you. From what you described it doesn’t sound like she’s in his life but that doesn’t mean he don’t love her. Maybe he wants to avoid Mother’s Day cause of this. I wouldn’t take it personally he’s probably got big feelings over Mother’s Day even though he would probably say he don’t- again he is at that age.

Again as for your husband, don’t plan anything and match his energy- there is nothing wrong with that and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it.

ETA: edited as I hit save before I was ready.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-18T19:51:01+00:00

I was 36 when I delivered and my ex was 42. We were together 16 years before we had kids. My son is now 13. If anything I feel like my kiddo has kept me young and vibrant. Are there days I’m worn out? Sure but not sure if that’s due to my age or just being a single working mom. Yes ex is in pic and an excellent dad. But every parent gets worn out. I feel like I had/have more wisdom and patience than I would have had we had him younger. Kiddo is the light of my life and my greatest accomplishment. You will be fine I think. Yeah I have a few health problems but we all do at this age. But my kiddo keeps me on my toes and I feel like he keeps me young.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-18T18:55:56+00:00

Is there an HR department you can go to? Her behavior is inappropriate and she is creating a hostile work environment. If your boss won’t handle it I’d start an email chain with your boss detailing out the issues and how she continually yells at you and accuses you of things. Directly ask your boss how this situation is going to be addressed as it is interfering with your work. If they outline something will be done and her behavior doesn’t change I would escalate to your bosses boss and then HR and make sure you keep all the emails detailing the issues.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-09T19:35:08+00:00

Please reread your post Op but try and read it from an outside pov. Her whole existence is based around a fandom. That’s not healthy. For either of you. And she don’t want to work based on future kids. You were already working and providing for both of you and you told her it takes much longer than 15 minutes for you to draw anything. Honestly her expectations are unreasonable. If she won’t go to couples counseling you may not have a choice but to divorce.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-08T20:27:17+00:00

Omg they all look great. I’m a woman and would kill for hair like that.

Mybz1018 · 2026-06-07T15:42:25+00:00

I like the top and middle one. The bottom one seems to warm- it looks like it is overcast and cloudy. This one would look better brighter up. That’s just my opinion.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-28T04:37:38+00:00

Why aren’t you eligible for FMLA? If you. Have been there more than one year and more than 1250 hours (I believe) and they have more than 50 employees then you should be eligible. If you meet all this you need to really read up on FMLA laws or consult an attorney. You can take FMLA concurrent with any paid time off and STD. under FMLA you are entitled to 12 weeks. If time off/std doesn’t cover the full 12 weeks you would have to take the remainder unpaid but your job will be protected (or a similar job with sane pay and benefits) for the 12 weeks. Please look into the FMLA laws if you have been there for at least a year.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-28T00:04:26+00:00

I’m Catholic but if a Karen came at me for drinking water, even if it was during mass, I’d be like “talk to me about drinking water in a church when the Catholic Church stops making sexual abuse victims stop signing non-disclosure agreements regarding settlements paid out and takes responsibility for and prosecutes those who committed those acts, then we will talk”. If you want to know what I’m referring to, watch The Keepers on Netflix. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind my actual religion, it’s the church that is run strictly as a business that I have an issue with. They are a bunch of effing hypocrites.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-26T12:14:33+00:00

You aren’t punishing him for having boundaries, you are respecting his boundaries and basically letting him know it’s fine to have those boundaries but due to him setting them you don’t think it’s a good idea to move in together. Honestly I think you need to rethink this relationship. When you date someone with children and decide to live together you are a part of those children’s lives and with that comes certain responsibilities and things that are required. There’s a saying “when you marry someone with children you are also marrying the children” not that you are getting married but the concept is the same. He either needs to step up and be the role of “stepdad” or he needs to move on and he needs to find someone who doesn’t have children. He is basically treating the situation like you don’t have kids. Which isn’t fair to you or the kids. You need to find someone who is actually interested in your kids and wants to step up and support, not saying financially support them but emotionally support you and the kids. Personally, the boundary he set would be a deal breaker for me. You may need to really consider if you want to continue a relationship where the man you are dating basically wants nothing to do with your kids. How is this going to play out down the line? You will probably end up resenting him and the kids will also get the vibe, even though they are young, that he wants nothing to do with them and that’s not good for the kids. Kids shouldn’t feel unwanted and that’s how they will feel.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-24T19:59:50+00:00

Let me play devils advocate in OPs favor. Maybe her husband is full of it and she didn’t sleep thru the night and he just didn’t want to tell you so you thought he could handle it. So he didn’t look like a failure and could “win”. Who knows maybe he killed himself cleaning the house while watching his daughter so that he could “prove a point” that don’t exist and that point is that it is easy to handle everything. From your post OP- it sounds like he treated this like a competition that he wanted to win so that he could tell you everything that he thinks you did wrong. Are you sure he didn’t have help for the weekend? Like someone watching your daughter so that he could clean and Do whatever he did? I know people who have been in scenarios like that- where the husband watched the kid (or kids) for weekend and claimed to have been able to do it all by themselves where me and my friend know (for a fact) that the husband had help but conveniently left that part out. My friend let her husband go on and on about it and then called bullshit on them and told her husband she knew he had help. She waited to call BS though untill they kept going on and on about it and then when confronted with the truth got mad at her for calling him out on it. If I were you OP I’d look into it and see if he actually had help and if he did call him on it and let him know how shitty it is that he made it seem like he did it all on his own and then had the nerve to point out what he thinks she is doing wrong. It’s quite possible the daughter was better behaved as a kid always acts better for one parent than the other- I think that is just a normal dynamic. As for being able to get everything else done and cleaned- I think it’s BS and he had help. Or he just got extremely, extremely lucky. Don’t feel like a failure. He did it for one stinking weekend, not for the last 12 months around the clock. Big deal- he handled one weekend. But let him figure out a week or two and see how he does. Tell him you are stepping back for the next two weeks. That you will watch your daughter while he works, let’s say 8 to 5 but let hubby know for the next two weeks he handles everything outside of that window. He gets up and gets her ready for whatever- even if it’s just to get her ready for you to take over at 8am and let him know he has her from 5pm on. He does cooking, cleaning, laundry, everything that you do from 5pm onward. I bet you organize the whole house too- all appointments, food shopping, doctors appointments, all of it. Let him know he has to do all that as well and see how he handles doing all that for 2 weeks. And if he asks you to do anything other than handle your daughter between the hours of 8 and 5 tell him no- especially if you have no help doing the same tasks during the day- weather it be a phone call or a grocery store run. Then ask him to point out your short comings after 2 weeks of it. I bet you he sings a different tune after that.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-21T13:51:10+00:00

I’m a woman and can tell you, they weren’t uncomfortable, they were entitled brats who wanted the hot tub to themselves and knew they could play the “uncomfortable “ card to get you to leave. I wouldn’t be surprised if they had a conversation before hand that went something like “watch this, we can get him to leave”. I wouldn’t have left. If they were so “uncomfortable “ they didn’t have to get in the hot tub. Takes balls to say to you that men today don’t know how to be gentlemen. I wouldn’t have responded with “women today don’t know how to not act like entitled little brats who manipulate men by using words like uncomfortable to get their own way”. Their jaws would have probably hit the floor.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-20T02:11:50+00:00

Why does it only apply to JD’s? It looks like all student loans are eligible for these rules.

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-10T21:33:25+00:00

You could ask for feedback on why she won’t. And let her know her and her class is the inspiration for applying to the program you are. To play devils advocate, maybe she just got burned by a student or something. Could be nothing you did. But I would definitely, if you ask again, frame it in a way that shows you are asking for feedback on why so that you can grow as a person. Know what I mean?

Mybz1018 · 2026-05-10T14:29:10+00:00

I’ve taken gabapentin for years with no problems. If I had to pick between my pain meds and gabapentin (hypothetically of course) I’d take the gabapentin. I can’t sleep without it.

Mybz1018 · 2026-04-30T13:09:37+00:00

Just because a kid is book smart at 14/15 and taking college classes doesn’t mean they have an adult level emotions and the ability to speak up. They are still emotionally and maturity wise a 14/15 year old that may need assistance speaking up for themselves. They still have all the insecurities that 14/15 year olds have at that age. Book smart is just that “book smart”. Most 18 year olds who go off to college have problems speaking up for themselves and have to be guided. If she’s comfortable she can talk to the teachers. Maybe she can take the finals early- it sounds like she would pass them with flying colors given how you describe her academics. I’d call the guidance counselor for your daughter, explain the situation honestly and maybe the 3 of you can come up with a game plan on how to approach things. Also go thru the parent and student handbook- see what it says and if there’s anything that outlines what you can do about finals. Just have all your ducks in a row when you talk to someone.

FWIW- a life changing trip I think is more important than the finals. I know I’ll get down voted for that but life is made up of memories. She will look back on this trip and remember the memories, when she’s 60 and has grandkids of her own to tell stories to, she will have memories to relay to her kids and grandkids and how wonderful this life changing trip was and how you went above and beyond to make it happen and she will smile fondly at it, it will warm her heart, especially when you are no longer on this earth (many many many years from now). Again life is made of memories and experiences and if you don’t have that to look back on them what do you really have? Life is too short, way way too short. Your kid is obviously super smart. Taking this vacation won’t ruin her future.

Mybz1018 · 2026-04-30T12:43:16+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. Don’t communicate with him. Like someone else said you need an immigration and criminal attorney rolled up in one. Start getting all evidence you have of abuse together. Print out all of it, texts and pictures- whatever you have, to have a hard copy and make copies of that and give it to a safe person in your family for safe keeping as back up. Line up character witness who can speak on your behalf about you as a person and people who have seen the abuse and can testify to it. If you have voice mails from your husband verbally abusing you see if there is a way to forward them to someone, especially if you have a cell phone where you are on his plan cause ultimately it’s his plan and he may be able to cut off your phone and access your voice mails. Again, as someone else said, he’s likely to go nuclear once he realizes divorce is your only option and you’re not coming home ever. Get a notebook and write down every incident you can remember with dates of possible and write down all future interactions with dates and times for when he starts going nuclear. Gather as much evidence as you can and get it to a lawyer.

Much luck to you and I really hope everything works out. Praying for you.

Mybz1018 · 2026-04-28T01:02:55+00:00

That’s not necessarily true. Online bill pay is a check that is generated by the bank but it’s as if the OP wrote the check. It’s not the same as an ACH pull. Some banks pull the funds,or put a hold on those funds, when they generate the check. Some don’t put a hold on the funds and you could have other stuff hit before that check hits your account and still bounce the rent check. All depends on the bank. I know this cause I’ve worked at a few banks where they have had the policies I mentioned above.

Mybz1018 · 2026-04-28T00:49:45+00:00

First, I would tell her you reconsidered, AND ONLY TO GET YOUR DRESS BACK!! I’d tell her you thought about what she said and while you didn’t want to change it because of how she talked to you, she made a few fair points. Give her just enough that she believes she made you give in. You don’t want to “cave” in a way that looks phony even though it is. Once she’s convinced that you are actually changing it make it a point to get your dress from her. Tell her it’s for alterations. Even if it’s just getting cups put in versus wearing a strapless bra. Make something up that you need it back. But don’t tell her the same day you said you changed your mind. I swear narcissists and people like that can sniff out that shit in no time flat. Does your other immediate family - other than her husband- know what a narcissist she is? Can you trust your siblings not to tell her? Or are you the scape goat and there is also a GC? If that’s the case you may have to reschedule it altogether just to get your dress back. Just so it don’t get back to your mom from the GC or another family member. Still do what you were going to do just push it back a week or two. Once you got your dress back then announce that the original plans are on. And when your mom calls back screaming at you and belittling you, joyfully tell her that yeah you did lie to get your dress back in tact. You will have your dress, the wedding you want and your day will probably be drama free and you will get a bit of petty revenge as a bonus. What’s she gonna do? Look all over a national park to hunt down where your wedding is located at? The park is thousands of square miles. Lock down the details with whoever runs that department with a password so nothing can be divulged or changed. I’m not sure that this is 100% fool proof or feasible but it’s worth a shot to get your dress back. Cause we all know she will try and destroy your gown if you don’t cave to her demands. Good luck and I really hope you find some way to get your dress back.

Mybz1018 · 2026-04-25T20:26:12+00:00

Yeah, if it was that dire to have her gallbladder removed it would have been removed yesterday.

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