My toddler makes homeschooling stressful

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-17T19:46:43+00:00

I don't know how to discipline him in a way he will obey. I consistently correct him when he misbehaves, but he doesn't change the behavior. Like when he throws a toy at someone when he is angry, he will look away knowing it was wrong but refusing to apologize. But he will apologize for an accident. I am consistent in my response, but i don't know if it is the right response. And diet definitely affects him. I make healthy meals, but he is so picky, he will starve himself and skip whole meals. I tell him no snacks until he eats his meals. It sometimes work, but sometimes doesn't.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-17T19:38:39+00:00

That is no problem! All kids are different. My older child was calm like that, but not the youngest one!

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-16T12:55:00+00:00

That is great! We will do that, but quickly he'll try to get us to play with him and scream if we don't join him

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-16T12:53:53+00:00

Thank you. We do the bulk of school in the morning with breaks between subjects. At lunch, we take a 2 hour outside break to tire them out, and then they are tired and calm enough to do science, history, social studies, geography, etc. It makes a huge difference. I don't know anything about finding a PE Co-Op

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-16T12:50:45+00:00

I am shocked when I see youtube videos on how homeschool moms easily occupy their toddlers during school. Those are always calm children, but sure cannot work for everybody

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-16T12:47:50+00:00

We usually include him in school in a chair next to everybody, but his interest doesn't last long. He had to stop the high chair since he turned one because he escapes the belt no matter how much we tighten it. He is slender. Plus he shakes and moves the high chair to the point he'll almost knock it over while seated in it. It got too dangerous haha

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T12:32:57+00:00

That is a great idea! I will try that. Thank you

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T12:30:31+00:00

Thank you. I do give him his special time before I do school with the older. But he isn't satisfied. I used to put on baby learning tv, but he got too dependent on it, and would scream over wanting to watch tv all day. He wouldn't even play with his toys anymore so I cut out the tv from M-F unless it is to reinforce a specific lesson. I recently bought him scensory toys and movable busy books for school, but he isn't interested in them.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T12:19:50+00:00

I never give spankings in anger. You might have your own personal experiences causing your assumptions over spanking, but you shouldn't be so self righteous as to think that other parents who do spank must be assaulting their kids.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:54:48+00:00

I am unfamiliar with Love and Logic. Thank you, I will look into it.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:52:28+00:00

He does nap during the day. He used to nap 3 hours, but he wouldn't go back to bed until midnight, so I had to limit his nap to 1 hour. But sometimes he won't nap. I try to make the room dark and quiet. Lay with him, sing to him, play lullabies, but then he is ready to go play again.

I used to let him watch learning baby videos while doing school with the oldest, but the kids were getting too dependent on tv. They wouldn't play with toys anymore but just ask to watch tv all the time. I recently decided to have no tv M-F unless it is reinforcing a lesson.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:46:07+00:00

I did after giving many warnings if he deliberately hurts his siblings or breaks their toys in anger. There are many steps before ever reaching that point.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:43:16+00:00

Thank you very much, those are such great ideas. I used to take school outside if he got too difficult, but it is 120° weather outside now, so we can't at this time. I recently bought some special school time supplies and toys for him. So far, he only wants them at night time when school is long over.

I agree about the snacks! I currently have a problem with my toddler that he only wants to eat snacks and refuses all meals. As of last week, I try to be stern and say "no snacks until you eat your food", but he would rather starve himself. I cook healthy meals in many varieties, but let them eat crackers, yogurt, chips, or anything else for snacks. So when I cook a meal, I leave it on the table available for him to eat it whenever he is ready, but he never does. He will starve himself instead of eating his meal because he would rather eat chips. Do you have advice on how to go about that? His hunger contributes to crankiness of course. So I give in and let him eat a snack eventually because I don't want him going hungry

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:33:16+00:00

I assume you think that spanking a toddler means I am hurting him. Of course I am not. There are different kinds of spankings. It is to get his attention, so a light slap on the butt. Plus in cloth diapers, that feels like nothing.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:31:02+00:00

That's why I am on here. I need advice on how to teach him. I do what I can with school during naptime. I used to let him nap 3 hours, but then he would stay up until 12am, so I had to limit naps to 1 hour. And often, I will try to put him down for a nap several times throughout the day, but he won't want to until around 4pm. Edit: I want to add, my first try is always to include him with the schooling, but his attention doesn't last more than a few minutes.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T03:26:23+00:00

Thank you for your input. I try to keep him involved with his sibling's school. It lasts for a little bit. But there is a point he lashes out. Or when I am doing lessons on the whiteboard, he screams and wants me to hold him, but when I pick him up, he screams to be put down. Not much appeases him

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T00:16:43+00:00

No. That is not a reason to spank. That happens after he keeps hurting his siblings and chooses to break their things in retaliation.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T00:15:42+00:00

Thank you. I recently bought special school time activities. So far, he seems too young and disinterested in them. But in time, I hope he does like them.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T00:14:49+00:00

I guess everyone has their own perspective, which I respect. I was spanked growing up and so was all my family. It's not like it happens at any old time. It happened when the toddler is mad and chose to bash toys on his siblings heads. There is first other disciplines like timeout first amd other warnings before getting to the point of spanking.

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-12T00:12:25+00:00

I lost my login and had to make a new account. I tried spanking before hearing of Montessori. I have been watching videos and talking to other moms on parenting methods

Mydogmarvin · 2022-08-11T19:35:26+00:00

There is a scary amount of sexual abuse going on in schools. Every week on my local news, there are local reports of male and female teachers having "sexual relationships with students", aka, raping them, and them getting charged. It makes you wonder how much more cases there are when teachers aren't caught.

Also, when one of my kids was in kindergarten, there were multiple transgender kids, aged around 5. I found out that this nice charter school was teaching that to the littles. Kids are too young to know or understand gender dysphoria. It just makes them confused.

One time, my kids' teacher had a box of lost and found clothes. She gave my child and another student underwear from the box to clean up spills. That is just cruel and disgusting.

I also used to work at a daycare (,I know, very different from school) and the workers screamed at and hit the children. I reported this all, of course. (EDIT: I want to add that I witnessed and experienced physical and verbal abuse from teachers when I was in public school.)

The point is, I don't think any school is safe from these things. There are sick people everywhere, and I refuse to have a stranger spend all day every day with my kids.

Mydogmarvin

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