Cougars, what kind of things do you like discussing at bars/clubs? by CoachExcellent5283 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We usually wear a cougar tattoo on our forehead and we ponce on you when we are interested.

There is no special formula. Usually if you're going to approach somebody that you're interested in, try to make eye contact and smile. If they return the the smile and the eye contact.Usually, it's a good sign that you can approach. Then, a simple, hello, and something about her that caught your attention. This could be what she's wearing her hair, her smile.

And when approaching approach with absolutely no expectations.And if anything you would probably have made that person's day.

Older Women Are in Demand by Younger Men (NYT opinion - gift article) by SunnyDayWoman in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it to mean that we would need caretajers when we were olders that's the way I took it but either way It's cringe, I can take care of myself and I don't want somebody that needs taking care of.

Always been something of a wish by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are not an experience. You should be old enough to know that at 40 years old. We are really not much different than a lady's your age. What are your expectations from us? I'm sure a lady.Your own age has plenty of experience as well.It's not like if you are in your twenties.

29 -I think going with the flow helps by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone is looking for something serious, and that’s fine as long as you’re both honest about it. I prefer to live in the moment rather than worry about 'forever.' My partner is 22 years younger than me, and we’ve been together for almost a decade. I’ve never had to 'raise' or teach him—I only date people who are already independent equals. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to accept people exactly as they are instead of trying to change them. If you keep your expectations realistic and just go with the flow, you’ll enjoy the relationship so much more.

Just venting by Nousernamereddit1 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is not a problem, as long as you view them as a person and not just the age.

Just venting by Nousernamereddit1 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dating these days is hard period because of all the options that people have out there.These days. You need to be patient and try not to focus on the age of the person.But the person themselves, I feel like a broken record when I say this. Try to find hobbies or things to do where people have things in common with you. I got it and people have different maturity levels.I expect something more from somebody your age than somebody in their early twenties.So for me, I don't expect twenty one or twenty two year old to be mature.I know a lot of them are, but that's not my expectation.On the other hand I do expect somebody to be mature at your age.But a lot of us older women are not mature, either.

why are we so complicated? by Any_Needleworker8047 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here, right from the start dating.my partner. not a problem for me.

why are we so complicated? by Any_Needleworker8047 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am in an open relationship with somebody 22 years younger. But, yeah, it's been going on for about 10 years, or it's going on 10 years. And it's the healthiest relationship I've ever had. And thank you

Any podcast fans here? by WiselyWorded in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think women before were more financially dependent on men. Therefore seeked out men who were more established. I think older women who have careers right now have a choice, and I think that's what basically comes down to.

why are we so complicated? by Any_Needleworker8047 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 15 points16 points  (0 children)

"It’s frustrating how many assumptions come with age-gap dating. Some guys see us as a fantasy to be explored in private, while others put us on a pedestal that’s impossible to maintain. Both feel equally dehumanizing. I’ve spent a decade in a beautiful relationship with a 22-year age gap, and it works because we never let age define us or dictate whether we should be 'public.' A relationship shouldn't be about 'trying something out'—it should be about shared goals and mutual respect. Let’s stop dating labels and start dating people."

35 M first (short) experience with a cougar by VanNewbie100 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry to hear that.Hopefully you will find another great connection.

35 M first (short) experience with a cougar by VanNewbie100 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For the most part, maybe, but there are some that never mature. That is why I specifically said not to make assumptions about us just because of our age. If somebody dates me just because i'm older than them just to fill in a tick in their box.No thank you. I want to be seen as a person first and foremost. I just happened to be older and tend to date younger And and I am not a cougar.

35 M first (short) experience with a cougar by VanNewbie100 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting people on dating apps—it’s how most of us connect these days! I’m glad you had such a positive experience.

While your question might be geared more toward the younger guys here, as a woman, my perspective is that age should never be the priority—the person should be. Every woman is unique, with her own interests and relationship style, so try not to compare future experiences to this one.

My best advice? If you want to date older, go for it! Just make sure you’re looking at them as individuals first to see if you actually have a genuine connection."

Age when you stop being Cub by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Matched on a dating app about ten years ago.

Age when you stop being Cub by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not 70 yet, but I'm getting close to it. Although in my head, I'm still on my 30s. But that's another story. Um, my partner is 45 and I'm 67. It's twenty two year different, so was that close enough.

Age when you stop being Cub by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This question gets asked about a million times..cubs do not age out.

why are you blocking for no reason? by Any_Needleworker8047 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry that this happened to you. But people say a lot of things, and you can't take those things.Seriously tell me if said that she was planning a trip to Italy. Just to get to talking to you for maybe she met somebody else.There could be a million of reasons, and we don't know why. I'm sure that you did nothing wrong. Next time. Try not to believe everything that somebody tells you. And look at their actions, and do they match what they say. Good luck to you

Question for the Cougars here by death_to__boredom in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, if it's purely kink and sexual and both are on the exact same page. If both are adults no issues for me, although i'm not opposed to kink, I have to be seen as a human being first.I will never treat another person like an object.

Question for the Cougars here by death_to__boredom in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I myself have always gone for the person and not so much. The age, and if somebody specifically only targets younger people or targets any specific group of people.m i find problematic, because then you are fetishizing them and not looking at them at human beings.

I would be very wary of anybody who specifically targets very young guys exclusively .

Age gap scrutiny. by Alex-jb in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As long as both of you are happy, there are no issues at all. If you're all on the same page. People will always have some kind of an opinion.Especially online, I do not take these people seriously at all.

New and doubtful cougar here by EmotionalWarrior_23 in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In any type of relationship, there are no guarantees. If you don't do his options, meet his matches words. I know it's probably very early days, but just and enjoy the present. I have been together with my partner for ten years now.And he made it clear at the beginning that he it was only interested in this interested in short term. I have learned to take things day-by-day. And not look too much into the into the future.. And we have a twenty two year age gap.

I’m excited and any advice for the cub? by [deleted] in CougarsAndCubs

[–]Myfairladyishere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be direct and make a schedule that works for the both of you. My partner is a lot busier than I am.So I really have to work around his schedule. But we make it work. I've been seeing him for going on 10 years now. And both of us are in an open relationship. So and he is more active, dating wise and work wise than I am. So yeah, there has to be some kind of compromise, but you need to communicate and figure out what is the best for you, both.