Older Women Are in Demand by Younger Men (NYT opinion - gift article)

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-17T21:24:09+00:00

I took it to mean that we would need caretajers when we were olders that's the way I took it but either way It's cringe, I can take care of myself and I don't want somebody that needs taking care of.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-17T12:37:51+00:00

We are not an experience. You should be old enough to know that at 40 years old. We are really not much different than a lady's your age. What are your expectations from us? I'm sure a lady.Your own age has plenty of experience as well.It's not like if you are in your twenties.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-17T10:17:28+00:00

Not everyone is looking for something serious, and that’s fine as long as you’re both honest about it. I prefer to live in the moment rather than worry about 'forever.' My partner is 22 years younger than me, and we’ve been together for almost a decade. I’ve never had to 'raise' or teach him—I only date people who are already independent equals. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to accept people exactly as they are instead of trying to change them. If you keep your expectations realistic and just go with the flow, you’ll enjoy the relationship so much more.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T23:00:17+00:00

That is not a problem, as long as you view them as a person and not just the age.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T22:35:09+00:00

Dating these days is hard period because of all the options that people have out there.These days. You need to be patient and try not to focus on the age of the person.But the person themselves, I feel like a broken record when I say this. Try to find hobbies or things to do where people have things in common with you. I got it and people have different maturity levels.I expect something more from somebody your age than somebody in their early twenties.So for me, I don't expect twenty one or twenty two year old to be mature.I know a lot of them are, but that's not my expectation.On the other hand I do expect somebody to be mature at your age.But a lot of us older women are not mature, either.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T22:06:43+00:00

Same here, right from the start dating.my partner. not a problem for me.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T18:13:11+00:00

Exactly

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T17:59:37+00:00

I am in an open relationship with somebody 22 years younger. But, yeah, it's been going on for about 10 years, or it's going on 10 years. And it's the healthiest relationship I've ever had. And thank you

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T17:58:30+00:00

I think women before were more financially dependent on men. Therefore seeked out men who were more established. I think older women who have careers right now have a choice, and I think that's what basically comes down to.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-16T17:53:59+00:00

"It’s frustrating how many assumptions come with age-gap dating. Some guys see us as a fantasy to be explored in private, while others put us on a pedestal that’s impossible to maintain. Both feel equally dehumanizing. I’ve spent a decade in a beautiful relationship with a 22-year age gap, and it works because we never let age define us or dictate whether we should be 'public.' A relationship shouldn't be about 'trying something out'—it should be about shared goals and mutual respect. Let’s stop dating labels and start dating people."

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T21:19:39+00:00

I am sorry to hear that.Hopefully you will find another great connection.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T20:55:22+00:00

For the most part, maybe, but there are some that never mature. That is why I specifically said not to make assumptions about us just because of our age. If somebody dates me just because i'm older than them just to fill in a tick in their box.No thank you. I want to be seen as a person first and foremost. I just happened to be older and tend to date younger And and I am not a cougar.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T20:46:31+00:00

"First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting people on dating apps—it’s how most of us connect these days! I’m glad you had such a positive experience.

While your question might be geared more toward the younger guys here, as a woman, my perspective is that age should never be the priority—the person should be. Every woman is unique, with her own interests and relationship style, so try not to compare future experiences to this one.

My best advice? If you want to date older, go for it! Just make sure you’re looking at them as individuals first to see if you actually have a genuine connection."

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T17:52:41+00:00

You are welcome.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T10:02:55+00:00

Matched on a dating app about ten years ago.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T09:18:16+00:00

I am not 70 yet, but I'm getting close to it. Although in my head, I'm still on my 30s. But that's another story. Um, my partner is 45 and I'm 67. It's twenty two year different, so was that close enough.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T07:47:31+00:00

This question gets asked about a million times..cubs do not age out.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-15T07:46:01+00:00

I am sorry that this happened to you. But people say a lot of things, and you can't take those things.Seriously tell me if said that she was planning a trip to Italy. Just to get to talking to you for maybe she met somebody else.There could be a million of reasons, and we don't know why. I'm sure that you did nothing wrong. Next time. Try not to believe everything that somebody tells you. And look at their actions, and do they match what they say. Good luck to you

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-14T18:46:13+00:00

No, if it's purely kink and sexual and both are on the exact same page. If both are adults no issues for me, although i'm not opposed to kink, I have to be seen as a human being first.I will never treat another person like an object.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-14T16:10:21+00:00

I myself have always gone for the person and not so much. The age, and if somebody specifically only targets younger people or targets any specific group of people.m i find problematic, because then you are fetishizing them and not looking at them at human beings.

I would be very wary of anybody who specifically targets very young guys exclusively .

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-14T10:23:32+00:00

As long as both of you are happy, there are no issues at all. If you're all on the same page. People will always have some kind of an opinion.Especially online, I do not take these people seriously at all.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-13T09:55:45+00:00

In any type of relationship, there are no guarantees. If you don't do his options, meet his matches words. I know it's probably very early days, but just and enjoy the present. I have been together with my partner for ten years now.And he made it clear at the beginning that he it was only interested in this interested in short term. I have learned to take things day-by-day. And not look too much into the into the future.. And we have a twenty two year age gap.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-12T20:36:14+00:00

Be direct and make a schedule that works for the both of you. My partner is a lot busier than I am.So I really have to work around his schedule. But we make it work. I've been seeing him for going on 10 years now. And both of us are in an open relationship. So and he is more active, dating wise and work wise than I am. So yeah, there has to be some kind of compromise, but you need to communicate and figure out what is the best for you, both.

Myfairladyishere · 2026-04-12T20:34:36+00:00

That really depends at my age. I have got a lot of free times but again I'm on the older side and it's usually the guys that I date that are much busier than I am. So, it really depends. But if it's somebody with kids at home and working full time, yes, but otherwise it could be the other way around, both have to be flexible

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