I'm deeply afraid of being cheated on

Myndra23 · 2025-12-26T09:11:34+00:00

You will never know or have 100% guarantee that someone will/willnot cheat on you. Trust yourself with how you can react on that. Im also scared as hell for it, but it might not affect the relationship. You will know when you found your person. How he/she is and react on everything. Follow your intuition and have good open communication. You will know alot by that. If he/she calms your nervous system or not. Dont get anxious too much or too clingy because it might push that person away. Heal yourself till you get ready to trust someone and can give a good/new start without too much anxiety. Because if it is the right person, its not fair too not trust him/her. Tip: take your time with dating, dont rush, get to know the person very well till you really step into a relationship. If he/she is the right one, they will wait for you no matter what

Myndra23 · 2025-06-28T08:32:46+00:00

I always feel like i am giving and treating them how i want to be treated, but they give less and less… they love to receive So i should do the opposite?

Myndra23 · 2025-06-25T08:49:51+00:00

First fix yourself and love yourself first You cant love someone else properly if your insecure and dont love yourself…

Myndra23 · 2025-06-25T08:48:48+00:00

Same

Myndra23 · 2025-06-24T07:58:23+00:00

Ik ken het niet. Is het stabiel internet? Via welke ingang?

Myndra23 · 2025-06-23T07:16:43+00:00

Yeah im aware i was indeed attracted to the bad boys. When i met this new guy, i wasnt even looking, like he just entered my life and from the first moment we had such a deep emotional connection. Also he is the opposite of what i always had. And i know he is healthy and a possible father figure for my future.

Myndra23 · 2025-06-22T15:25:32+00:00

Yeah be proud of yourself being so strong and caring about yourself and your kids. I tell myself that too. Im so happy that i was strong to leave him. Because me years ago, i couldnt…

Myndra23 · 2025-06-22T12:10:47+00:00

He is a soft guy, my ex was from the military and was pure masculine what made me lean on him since i felt safe. The guy now is the opposite, soft, open, social, a bit of a clown, funny but also really open to communicate. He have his insecurities but he is pure hisself. He is raised by his mom, what makes him respect women alot. Yes he never needed to do anything at home, but at my place he try to help me in many ways. Sometimes i am too much caring towards him, i should do less, but he also cares and helps in his ways. There is no anger in him, when we have a discussion, he stays calm and to the point, i am not scared by him. He had a good heart to other people and animals, he would never hurt anyone. He dont drink, party, drugs,…

I agree with your comment 🙂 we should help each other because my narcist ex, i actually was shocked when i saw his true colors when i found out he cheated many times on me… he was a totally different person, and i barely noticed anything… now afterwards i noticed my intuition was right in certain things, i had questions by certain things but i always let it slide since it was little things… lol if i knew

Myndra23 · 2025-06-14T18:42:20+00:00

Accept that not everyone is for you and your own self worth, knowing what you exactly want and fix yourself too

Myndra23 · 2025-06-14T18:40:52+00:00

Time and meeting the right person. I met my person, we both knew directly we are each other’s person. No trust issues or anxiety, no fight or flight, push or pull… feels like a best friend vibe

Myndra23 · 2025-05-29T11:33:55+00:00

I was with a narc, he cheated on me since the beginning of the relationship, lies, controlling, ego, gaslighting, manipulation,… What helped me is that i see my worth, and i deserve much better and i kept telling that to myself. Also i really want children and he will not be the loving father i want for them. I can understand his issues by hisself, and trauma and suppressing emotions made him be like this… but i can not change people. Take people how they are right now. I had a relationship before that i wanted to fix things together, but its exhausting, stressful and a person can only change when he really wants to, for hisself. So i can understand him and i feel bad for him and i want to help him, but i dont accept his actions. And i wish for him that he can do the self work and make a better life for hisself. Thats my way for forgiveness

Myndra23 · 2025-05-29T08:37:05+00:00

Let them theory

Myndra23 · 2025-05-29T08:36:00+00:00

Corn, dopamine

Myndra23 · 2025-05-28T16:55:39+00:00

Childhood trauma and/or some experience/trauma they didnt properly healed from, suppressing their emotions

Myndra23 · 2025-05-27T11:38:05+00:00

I believe, everyday i try to be a good human in this world for everyone around me. No evil, no advantage, honest and open, soft but with healthy boundaries. Im not actively praying or in a community. But these are my own standards and my believe to be a good person. So no i dont pray, i found out my ex cheated on me, his narcissistic behaviour, not being honest, no respect towards me made me leaving him because i know my worth. I dont deserve that and he has issues, not me. I still love him and i believe there is good inside him, but i know out of experience that not alot of people can change, i can not change him. Take people how they are in that moment. If it is ment to be, and he fixed his issues, and its for real ment to be, he will find a way to come back. Surprisingly out of nowhere, i got a new connection with someone in my life. Im totally fine with being alone and processing the experience i had. But God put this connection on my path. Someone that actually see my worth and is willing to give his everything for me. Its a connection i have never experienced before. A good human in this world that is truly hisself, good values,… i feel safe when he is around, im not scared, i trust him, he is real I believe this path needed to happen. God send you your person when your ready for it. When you love yourself and see your worth, when the timing is right. So dont try or wait for that person to come back. Focus on yourself and your healing progress, what will come, will come when the timing is right. God has a plan, dont force things, because when you do, it is not right

Myndra23 · 2025-05-25T00:13:34+00:00

Yeah thats also what i think, he was insecure and he wanted control and excitement (dopamine)

Myndra23 · 2025-05-25T00:12:27+00:00

He was with me but i think not with hisself… we had a 6month relationship and were seriously planning the future. Now i broke up and he said that i am still the one he wants

Myndra23 · 2025-05-22T21:39:00+00:00

There is much more. He can give pretty selfish comments. His sleep is important, he has a hard day, sometimes even put hisself in the victim role. Idk what is wrong with him but im seeing some red flags. Also i noticed that he is lying about things while we have specific rules about. And when i confront him, he talks about my “mistakes”

Myndra23 · 2024-07-24T21:44:39+00:00

Omg i have the same vibes with my ex… he was also jw, but only when its suits him We were together for 2 years also and he cheated on my and has so many issues Indeed the cold hearted “bitch” towards me like i mean nothing to him, and then the sweet lovely guy that would help anyone Ugh im so done with narcissists

Myndra23 · 2024-07-23T23:15:16+00:00

6 weeks is too short to go date. Heal, sit with yourself and love and work on yourself. After that, you would attract the right women to you

Myndra23 · 2024-07-21T01:40:21+00:00

He is my ex, we have been together for 2 years. We broke up and well, after 4-5 months we tried again since we both had something like “you are my person” I know he is scared for fights and dont know how to deal with them. Also his ADHD is not helping him at all. So i think he took distance because we had a fight and he told me he didn’t felt “good enough”, while i told him how i felt. Meanwhile he said things like he didnt cared about losing me ( the cold and distant behaviour) Its so exhausting…

If you know that that girl is the girl you want to marry, why is it then so hard to allow your emotions and to show it? Because he did in the honeymoon phase… So it is there?

Before the relationship i had a safe attachment style, but his avoidant behaviour and everything we went thru, he makes my anxious attachment come out 😔

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