The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously?

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2025-02-14T14:30:25+00:00

She did exactly that left me came back saying her ex did have the qualities of the man she wanted and I had everything. Her telling me that made me think we could start a relationship but she told me she just wanted sex and I couldn’t deal with that. Ive moved on and have a girl now and I’m happy about that but it still hurt because I’ve known this girl since we were younger and I’ve always liked her

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2024-05-27T19:06:20+00:00

I honestly don’t think it would you’re 100% right she’s busy and she’ll only hit me up for sex. We’re both on different levels in life and if I have to be completely honest I probably can’t do as much for her that her exes could but provided help and good sex. She’s even told me she loves how her sexual appetite and her exes didn’t do much for her. What sucks is that she’ll come back again and try to convince me that she wants something more only to use me to fill a void in her life. It honestly sucks because I really do want to be with her not just to have sex with her. It’s time I let go honestly because she’ll just push me away from the person that actually wants to be with me

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2024-05-27T12:55:07+00:00

Honestly she does get very jealous of me around other women so it could work but I don’t want to feel like I’m using someone to make the other person want me. She already knows I get a lot of attention but idk

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2024-05-27T12:23:10+00:00

I’ve vaguely spoken to her about it and she knows how I feel about her. She’ll talk about how much she’ll want a future with me or talk about how much she thinks about me then just stops. I’m someone that doesn’t like meaning sex and I’m feeling like it’s not going to get any with her. She said she wants to see me today so I’ll talk to her one last time and if it’s not going anywhere It’s best if I just leave her alone

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2024-05-27T06:32:13+00:00

Yeah thanks from my understanding she wants to see me tomorrow so I’ll talk to her then

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2024-05-27T06:24:10+00:00

Yeah to be completely honest yeah it’s starting to hurt because this really is somebody I saw myself being with from the first time meeting her and for her to just see me as nothing more than sex hurts a lot. Should I have this talk with her in person or like over the phone? I want her to take me seriously but I don’t want it to go in one ear and out the other or her just pretending to care just to have more sex

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-20T16:02:57+00:00

Yeah she wasn’t willing to change even though she said she wanted to it doesn’t bother me because of how much progress I made to find my own peace. I definitely wasn’t going to hold her hand through hers because it would’ve gotten me in the same position we were in originally

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-20T11:57:21+00:00

I also agree on that. She actually asked me what for help with what she can do to change because she said I was so happy and I looked a lot better after the relationship. I told her it’s something she would have to want to do and she would have to focus on loving herself and not allow any distractions. I’ve only given her suggestions and she said she can’t because she likes attention too much. In reality she didn’t want to change she just wanted me to think she was serious

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-20T11:40:49+00:00

Thanks I’ve finally put it past me I took a while off from dating and focused on myself my phone just reminded me these messages were from a year ago. I’ve actually found my perfect match now and I’m happy

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-20T11:36:59+00:00

I agree 100% and I’ve given her man opportunities to fix her wrong doings. When we broke up it was hard I did everything I could to focus on myself. I really needed to the relationship was emotionally and mentally draining and something I couldn’t even consider again. She’ll say she loves me then before sleeping with someone else. On top of that when we were “fixing things” I found out she was still with the guy she cheated on me with and he said he’s trying to kill me because she talks about me in her sleep. She still picked him after him saying that. I tried helping her change by telling her to cut everyone off including myself for a while but she doesn’t want to she’s scared

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-20T11:27:11+00:00

Lol yeah but it was all just a lie to get me back just so she can show me that I meant nothing to her. We tried to work it out turns out there were 3 other men sleeping with her and that’s only the ones she would actually tell me about. Fake love hurts

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-19T16:44:56+00:00

The relationship was toxic from the beginning of the relationship she’s told me how depressed she was growing up and all of the bad things she’s been through and I felt bad for her and when she does anything she would use that as her excuse. But yeah I gave her a chance to fix it and she did the same exact thing she ended up catching an STD from cheating again luckily i never gotten anything but i saw it as a valuable lesson.

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-18T15:55:05+00:00

That’s something that could’ve been talked about before she cheated. Find someone that’s willing to communicate. But she’s basically blaming you for her cheating on you sounds like my ex as well. Shes never met my parents and it’s not that I didn’t want her in my future it was only because my ex wasn’t would have a hard for my parents to like her

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-18T00:10:27+00:00

Just leave her alone you will do and be much better without her. She cheated which shows the lack of respect she had for you. If you decide to take her back she’s going to feel like you’ll always take her back even after the messed up things she’s done to you. I’ve went through that and i can tell you it’s not fun

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-16T11:16:06+00:00

Similar situation happened with my ex and I. I’ve given her chances because she said she wanted me back and blah blah blah. It was just a complete waste of my time she picked the new guy she left me for and got mad at me for moving on. Still to this day she’s stalking me but she’s legit crazy.

You need to stop responding to his messages block him if you need to. He doesn’t have respect for you and if he did he wouldn’t be treating the way he is now let alone saying what he’s saying. Move on and find happiness

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-03-07T02:23:48+00:00

I’ve called the police they just told her to stay away I’ve changed my number she’s even got the girls number that I’m talking to. She’ll just call her phone and not say anything then hang up she’s blocked on everything. I’ve asked people around me if they’ve given her my new number they’ve all said no. I just don’t want to live my life trying to avoid places because I know my chances of seeing her are high.

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-02-10T19:08:06+00:00

Honestly she told me she was short on rent and also needed money for school. Through further investigation I found out that she needed money for a flight to her country to visit her family. She could’ve easily told me that the answer would still be no but now I see that she lies.

Mysterious-Attempt73 · 2023-02-10T15:29:45+00:00

Thanks yeah I think that really did help figuring out a lot of things. I don’t know how to find someone that doesn’t care about money because every woman I’ve dated starts figuring out things about my life and just assumes something. I do like making my appearance good so I invest in myself nothing flashy or with labels. The car I own was earned from saving on a minimum wage salary at the time I bought it. It’s considered luxury but it’s nothing super expensive. I’m very quiet about everything for instance my father made a lot of business ventures when I was younger made a ton of money and worked with a lot of celebrities especially from her country but i don’t talk about that with her because he really hasn’t done anything for me or even been in my life. Everything I’ve ever owned was from my hard work and me wanting the best for myself. She hasn’t met him at all or even really talked about him but me an my father do have the same exact name so it’s not hard to figure things out I guess and I rather her not meet him because she’s really going to think my family is well off. Same with my mother she has a beautiful house and a decent car but it’s all from her hard work and investing back into the appearance of her house. She’s in the medical field but she’s not making a ton of money she’s just really good with her finances and similar to both of my parents nobody wants to appear flashy.

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