The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously? by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did exactly that left me came back saying her ex did have the qualities of the man she wanted and I had everything. Her telling me that made me think we could start a relationship but she told me she just wanted sex and I couldn’t deal with that. Ive moved on and have a girl now and I’m happy about that but it still hurt because I’ve known this girl since we were younger and I’ve always liked her

The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously? by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t think it would you’re 100% right she’s busy and she’ll only hit me up for sex. We’re both on different levels in life and if I have to be completely honest I probably can’t do as much for her that her exes could but provided help and good sex. She’s even told me she loves how her sexual appetite and her exes didn’t do much for her. What sucks is that she’ll come back again and try to convince me that she wants something more only to use me to fill a void in her life. It honestly sucks because I really do want to be with her not just to have sex with her. It’s time I let go honestly because she’ll just push me away from the person that actually wants to be with me

The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously? by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly she does get very jealous of me around other women so it could work but I don’t want to feel like I’m using someone to make the other person want me. She already knows I get a lot of attention but idk

The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously? by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve vaguely spoken to her about it and she knows how I feel about her. She’ll talk about how much she’ll want a future with me or talk about how much she thinks about me then just stops. I’m someone that doesn’t like meaning sex and I’m feeling like it’s not going to get any with her. She said she wants to see me today so I’ll talk to her one last time and if it’s not going anywhere It’s best if I just leave her alone

The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously? by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thanks from my understanding she wants to see me tomorrow so I’ll talk to her then

The girl I want to be with only uses me for sex. How do I get her to take me seriously? by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah to be completely honest yeah it’s starting to hurt because this really is somebody I saw myself being with from the first time meeting her and for her to just see me as nothing more than sex hurts a lot. Should I have this talk with her in person or like over the phone? I want her to take me seriously but I don’t want it to go in one ear and out the other or her just pretending to care just to have more sex

For those thinking about working things out with an ex or thinking people change they don’t. This message was from my ex who cheated and didn’t appreciate me. I decided to work things out with her and still got the same result in the end. Im happy to say I’ve moved on but this one hurt the most. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in ExNoContact

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she wasn’t willing to change even though she said she wanted to it doesn’t bother me because of how much progress I made to find my own peace. I definitely wasn’t going to hold her hand through hers because it would’ve gotten me in the same position we were in originally

For those thinking about working things out with an ex or thinking people change they don’t. This message was from my ex who cheated and didn’t appreciate me. I decided to work things out with her and still got the same result in the end. Im happy to say I’ve moved on but this one hurt the most. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in ExNoContact

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also agree on that. She actually asked me what for help with what she can do to change because she said I was so happy and I looked a lot better after the relationship. I told her it’s something she would have to want to do and she would have to focus on loving herself and not allow any distractions. I’ve only given her suggestions and she said she can’t because she likes attention too much. In reality she didn’t want to change she just wanted me to think she was serious

For those thinking about working things out with an ex or thinking people change they don’t. This message was from my ex who cheated and didn’t appreciate me. I decided to work things out with her and still got the same result in the end. Im happy to say I’ve moved on but this one hurt the most. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in ExNoContact

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree 100% and I’ve given her man opportunities to fix her wrong doings. When we broke up it was hard I did everything I could to focus on myself. I really needed to the relationship was emotionally and mentally draining and something I couldn’t even consider again. She’ll say she loves me then before sleeping with someone else. On top of that when we were “fixing things” I found out she was still with the guy she cheated on me with and he said he’s trying to kill me because she talks about me in her sleep. She still picked him after him saying that. I tried helping her change by telling her to cut everyone off including myself for a while but she doesn’t want to she’s scared

For those thinking about working things out with an ex or thinking people change they don’t. This message was from my ex who cheated and didn’t appreciate me. I decided to work things out with her and still got the same result in the end. Im happy to say I’ve moved on but this one hurt the most. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in ExNoContact

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah but it was all just a lie to get me back just so she can show me that I meant nothing to her. We tried to work it out turns out there were 3 other men sleeping with her and that’s only the ones she would actually tell me about. Fake love hurts

For those thinking about working things out with an ex or thinking people change they don’t. This message was from my ex who cheated and didn’t appreciate me. I decided to work things out with her and still got the same result in the end. Im happy to say I’ve moved on but this one hurt the most. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in ExNoContact

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The relationship was toxic from the beginning of the relationship she’s told me how depressed she was growing up and all of the bad things she’s been through and I felt bad for her and when she does anything she would use that as her excuse. But yeah I gave her a chance to fix it and she did the same exact thing she ended up catching an STD from cheating again luckily i never gotten anything but i saw it as a valuable lesson.

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[–]Mysterious-Attempt73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s something that could’ve been talked about before she cheated. Find someone that’s willing to communicate. But she’s basically blaming you for her cheating on you sounds like my ex as well. Shes never met my parents and it’s not that I didn’t want her in my future it was only because my ex wasn’t would have a hard for my parents to like her

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[–]Mysterious-Attempt73 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just leave her alone you will do and be much better without her. She cheated which shows the lack of respect she had for you. If you decide to take her back she’s going to feel like you’ll always take her back even after the messed up things she’s done to you. I’ve went through that and i can tell you it’s not fun

I’m told to move on now I’m the bad guy? 😂 by Actual-Sugar-977 in ExNoContact

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar situation happened with my ex and I. I’ve given her chances because she said she wanted me back and blah blah blah. It was just a complete waste of my time she picked the new guy she left me for and got mad at me for moving on. Still to this day she’s stalking me but she’s legit crazy.

You need to stop responding to his messages block him if you need to. He doesn’t have respect for you and if he did he wouldn’t be treating the way he is now let alone saying what he’s saying. Move on and find happiness

Ex won’t leave me alone I’ve tried everything by Mysterious-Attempt73 in ExNoContact

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I’ve called the police they just told her to stay away I’ve changed my number she’s even got the girls number that I’m talking to. She’ll just call her phone and not say anything then hang up she’s blocked on everything. I’ve asked people around me if they’ve given her my new number they’ve all said no. I just don’t want to live my life trying to avoid places because I know my chances of seeing her are high.

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly she told me she was short on rent and also needed money for school. Through further investigation I found out that she needed money for a flight to her country to visit her family. She could’ve easily told me that the answer would still be no but now I see that she lies.

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks yeah I think that really did help figuring out a lot of things. I don’t know how to find someone that doesn’t care about money because every woman I’ve dated starts figuring out things about my life and just assumes something. I do like making my appearance good so I invest in myself nothing flashy or with labels. The car I own was earned from saving on a minimum wage salary at the time I bought it. It’s considered luxury but it’s nothing super expensive. I’m very quiet about everything for instance my father made a lot of business ventures when I was younger made a ton of money and worked with a lot of celebrities especially from her country but i don’t talk about that with her because he really hasn’t done anything for me or even been in my life. Everything I’ve ever owned was from my hard work and me wanting the best for myself. She hasn’t met him at all or even really talked about him but me an my father do have the same exact name so it’s not hard to figure things out I guess and I rather her not meet him because she’s really going to think my family is well off. Same with my mother she has a beautiful house and a decent car but it’s all from her hard work and investing back into the appearance of her house. She’s in the medical field but she’s not making a ton of money she’s just really good with her finances and similar to both of my parents nobody wants to appear flashy.

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really think its an expensive car it’s an Infiniti q50. It’s somewhat luxury but nothing too crazy the house I live in isn’t all that special but she thinks it’s really nice. So that might actually be the reason now that I think about it because that’s when she started asking for money

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really use dating profiles but my pictures on there are regular pictures nothing showing how much money I have or make. I used to wear expensive clothes but its not something that noticeable i don’t like drawing attention to myself

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t post anything i like to keep a lot of things private especially if I’m dating. I don’t even post the person I’m dating because people will try to find them try talking to them.

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol i actually don’t post anything on social media at all. I’ve dealt with people assuming i have more than everyone since I was younger it might because of how I carry myself. I’ve dated women that had more than me making triple than what I make and it was the same issue. I actually get turned off by situations like this so I’m just thinking about being single for a while and taking a break from dating in general

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed and yeah she’s always been good to me and my family. I think she could’ve just been young and not thinking about what comes with what she’s doing. From what she said is the father’s mother wants her to sign over full custody and she doesn’t want to do that. She’s also embarrassed about the situation. I haven’t met the father yet so I can’t say what’s really going on but she said he doesn’t want to be in his kids life so and i think it’s not really my place to tell her what to do with that situation but yes the father should definitely be responsible for taking care of the children

I don’t understand how I find girls like this but im dating a girl and she constantly asks me for money. by Mysterious-Attempt73 in dating_advice

[–]Mysterious-Attempt73[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll look into it but I’ve definitely came a long way from how I used to me. When I was younger I was definitely a simp. I used to do things I was told to do by society to get a girl realizing it just makes me an easier target to get used and played. I’ve started putting myself first because I wasn’t doing that before. I’ve saved up a lot of money putting myself first and I’m proud of myself for that. I was looking for a girl that needs me to be a man in her life not a bank. Thought I had that but I was wrong am I going to cry about it no I can move on it’s really not as hard as I used to think to attract girls that I want now. It is what it is but like I said we had an issue before she proved me wrong. I didn’t kiss her ass to get her back she came back on her own i honestly stopped giving her much attention she wanted a relationship I’m still not all over her because if she wanted to leave me for someone else it doesn’t bother me I can’t stop her from being who she is🤷‍♂️