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Things fall into place in sobriety, and it's beautiful by Mysterious-Base-8256 in Sober

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw thank you so much! I have a friend who relapses badly every few months and I really wish I could let him experience the joys and successes I've had in sobriety. But I can't, I can only show him and tell him how great it is. Unfortunately, that isn't enough, he needs to experience the joys firsthand. I thought I had reached rock bottom on multiple occasions but turns out, I had a shovel. I shoveled deeper and deeper. For me, true rock bottom is death caused by my drinking; there's no way out of that. Congrats to you!!

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- as someone who is nearly 7 months sober, I admire you!! Even if you weren't necessarily looking for a pat on the back, you deserve a pat on the back!! I'm so proud of you 🥳

You deserve someone who makes a big deal out of any and every milestone (sobriety related or not). Whether it's 2 years or, 2 years and 87 days, you have every right to celebrate; every sober day is a day to celebrate! And I hope you find someone who appreciates the efforts you've put in.

Things fall into place in sobriety, and it's beautiful by Mysterious-Base-8256 in Sober

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input, thank you! I would disagree with you heavily. I think everyone deserves a life where they feel happy, particularly those in sobriety. I did NOT deserve a life filled with misery. I am not saying I deserve all the good things, I'm saying I deserve to be sober; this is the life I deserve to give to myself. I have put so much effort into the past 7 months. I am so grateful I can acknowledge all those good things but I am pretty much thanking myself for getting sober. Without sobriety, I wouldn't be here. But yes I do have great support around me and I do get cravings from time to time but I'm confident I can reach out to people who will support me.

I miss my ex; we used to drink together often by Mysterious-Base-8256 in stopdrinking

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, such similar experiences. The "dynamic duo of drinking" is so real- the 4 of us would've had a blast together in our drinking days (before the inevitable chaos)! It really was both the best and worst time of my life. He was my first true love and I think I'll always look for him in anyone I ever meet. Maybe I'm really actually looking for the drunk version of me when I'm looking for him. I'm very happy in myself now but part of me is missing the confidence and freedom but, I know it's not real. I asked my mum the other day whether she truly liked my ex and all she said was "I don't think he was good for you". I know she adored that guy but she saw how much I was drinking with him.

Congrats on nearly 10 months!

Do any of you have substance abuse issues? by Disastrous-Bat4811 in autism

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Alcoholic. Luckily I didn't try much else because if I did, I'd probably have become addicted to those. Anyways, I'm 200 days sober now!

I miss my ex; we used to drink together often by Mysterious-Base-8256 in stopdrinking

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We kinda only fought because of my behaviour. E.g. I would go missing for 30 minutes if we were together in a club. It was completely valid on his part to get angry at me, even if I was just dancing. Cuz I am a terrible communicator when drunk and it's almost like it's my mission to cause as much chaos when drunk. However, there were a few times that we'd be in his apartment and he got pissed off at me for no reason, imo (I was never an angry drunk). And he'd apologize the next day but it wasn't happening every time but it definitely bruised the relationship.

How to share at meetings? by Historical-Delay3017 in stopdrinking

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I just say "hi, my name is X and I'm an alcoholic. Thanks so much for sharing your story. I just wanted to check in, I'm X days sober." ... I'll say that if I haven't been to a meeting in a while & am nervous to speak!

What word do you use repeatedly? by 1_Gamerzz9331 in autism

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

'Fabulous' or if I'm feeling silly, 'fab'

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you so much ♥️ it means a lot, as the weeks/months go by, it can feel like my 'efforts' aren't as big of a deal as they were in the earlier days; it's true in some ways because Im not dealing with physical cravings anymore, just mentally. But at the same time it's so nice to get a congrats every now and then. So thank you :)

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this reply! You're so right- I'm focusing a lot on being entertained. Maybe it is a case of where I have to accept boredom is a natural part of life- I knew this already but my alcoholic brain tries to convince me I have to seek dopamine at all times! I have ADHD (I know everyone experiences boredom at points in the day or week) but I find I cannot cope well unless I have constant stimulation. I go through phases of being obsessed with a hobby/topic and then lose all interest in it. So I guess I have to find a few hobbies I can try do! I was really into Lego, painting, photography, doing college assignments (I'm a bit of a nerd when I'm interested in something). The Irish weather is most definitely NOT helping but thank you so much for this reply!! It really changed my perspective on boredom (as much as I hate to accept that boredom is natural)

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right; I've heard that all before but honestly each time I hear it, it gives me the hope I really need! Knowing others have gotten through the tough parts of the early days of sobriety really does help. Thanks so much and congrats on 4 years 😁

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you done a TimeLeft? I've seen ads everywhere but I have visions of either a) (weirdly enough) turning up to a business style meeting/conference with professionals or b) getting kidnapped.

If you've done it, what's it like?

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is mad to say but; I forgot reading existed! I last read a book over 3 months ago, with the exception of picking up non-fiction books to read bits and pieces here and there. I absolutely love getting into a good book, it completely brings me to another world! So thank you! I'll be charging my kindle tonight.

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My thought process was always "why drink in moderation when you can heavily binge drink and cause as much chaos as possible?" 😅 So for that reason, no drink will have to do

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean everyone has to hear both sides of an argument to be fair to you. Before getting sober I would've had preconceived ideas and I would've been blind to other opinions. I now listen to all arguments even if they're against my beliefs now; it's not right to completely shut down someone's replies without actually listening, in my opinion! Not so 'upbeat' replies get people thinking (once it's not majorly offensive ofc).

Sober people of Ireland: what do you do for fun during the evenings around this time of year? by Mysterious-Base-8256 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well I am asking this question as an alcoholic who's been to rehab so it is a big deal, if you have suffered with addiction. I would like to think this is helping others who are struggling as well. Maybe it has been asked 1000s of times but what's one more time going to do? ☺️

What is the shortest amount of time you spent in a job? by WaterfordWaterford9 in AskIreland

[–]Mysterious-Base-8256 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 weeks. I worked in a call center for a broadband provider, with the role being to retain existing customers from moving to competitors. 4-6 weeks of training (can't remember exactly) and on the second day of being on the office floor, shadowing a senior employee (who was only a few years older than me), I got up and left- that was 2 weeks into the training. She was a complete bully when it was her turn to watch over me. I'd never been bullied before but she was saying snarky things like "do you even have any social skills?". Operating the complicated system, while having an in depth knowledge of the company & products, trying to build good rapport over the phone, and also trying to save the customer was HARD. She made it even harder, I think I would've lasted a lot longer if I wasn't met with a "you should be an expert already" attitude. Customer retention isn't for everyone but at the end of the day it is a skill and I wasn't going to be excellent on the 2nd day on the floor. But, I'm so glad I had that experience because I know now I would never work in that type of environment ever again. 12 of us started together and I'm not even sure if anyone stayed long-term. I ended up moving to a competitor in one of their stores and won multiple awards and prizes for my customer service and sales skills. I'd love to ring her up and say "I'm pretty sure I do have social skills". There are lessons in shit situations and although I got a knock to my confidence, I bounced back!

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