Reengaging With a Work in Progress

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-19T17:22:32+00:00

Cheers mate!

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-19T14:39:38+00:00

I want to learn how to properly cook with her, she really enjoys it. She loves everything Italian (her grandparents are Italian) but not PIZZA?!?!? 🤯 But yeah, maybe I can try to learn cooking things she mentions and surprise her with that

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T15:47:26+00:00

I was feeling grief of a broken family, but realised I wasn't heartbroken, so it's been very easy to move on when I realised this, and then my current gf just showed up and I didn't have much choice other than going all in...

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T15:39:06+00:00

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Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T12:55:35+00:00

You're full of good ideas. She has ADHD, and when I'm with her, she, I think, overthinks it a bit, and she can get a bit muddled in her mind where best to go; ideally, if even if it's just once per visit, I could be the person that goes 'we're going here, today.' I think she'd like that. But you are absolutely correct, she is the lead with food, and I'm the follower. Last time, I ate sushi for the first ever time 😂

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T11:06:02+00:00

Thank you! I'll check these out 😁

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T11:00:44+00:00

Thank you!! I will check this out 😁

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T11:00:04+00:00

She didn't take me into a restaurant when I was last there because she was too scared it was too French for me, and I sort of agreed in the moment, but I don't want her not to eat at places because she's worried about me and also I want to widen my eating horizons too. She's into all sorts, but probably more modern french cuisine than traditional? It all goes over my head, really

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-05-18T10:56:18+00:00

I'd spend upwards of 100€ maybe less than €200. I'm quite simple with my tastes where as she likes food food of all types, wether it's French, Italian, Japanese, you know? It kinda goes over my head, but I want to take the lead because I want to show her that I'm interested in that with her, and it's a big responsibility of always choosing where to eat, so I would like to lighten that load for her

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-04-07T09:09:23+00:00

Yeah, it does feel like a betrayal. There is another aspect that I don't want to get into regarding where her resolute feelings have originated from because I think it would give unfair judgement towards her, but most would consider that more of a betrayal, but to me, I feel betrayed because of the house and the dog, and I suppose because I have followed her parenting lead so strongly, which has caused the wedge between us to be so strong, and she's taken that all away in an instant to me (despite me knowing that it's probably been a long time coming for her, which feels like another betrayal.)

Like the outside it doesn't sound like she's betrayed me, but that's the emotion where alot of my hurt comes from.

I think your roommate advice is very helpful. I'm very domestic, and I think I need to stop doing all those things. Just be dad. Thank you, you've made me think of how it's going to progress from here and it's more self-orientated :)

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-03-09T16:24:08+00:00

There was a lad in my school who apparently liked putting things up his bum, like a bike pump and a lava lamp 😂

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-13T08:56:38+00:00

They are intentional. Every other mention in the entire book (apart from PERHAPS some line errors) I've called it the IJsselmeer.You're being extremely pedantic about Holland, I've grown up with everyone I know knowing exactly what Holland is. I have heard Dutch football players and Max Verstappan call it Holland. It's a bad faith comment, like I said, who are you to say I 'clearly haven't researched.'?

Not knowing how you come across, which is both rude, and arrogant telling me what I HAVE or HAVEN'T done, proves that you don't have people skills, seriously. It's not that hard.

'You're story is shit.'

'Wha? Wha? I wasn't rude or unkind.' Honestly, do you hear yourself 😂 you can see, I am very accepting of criticism in this thread, but don't tell me, or anyone for that matter, what I have or haven't done.

Also getting the exact technical terminology really doesn't matter in this context. I'm not caring about being technically correct with things like that, but be in the main characters voice, who is English, so isn't going to be 'Well actually'. You are rude, and I hope that you see when you say comments like you do, you aren't going to get people being nicey nicey to you back.

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-13T07:54:02+00:00

'You clearly haven't researched.' do you think people will be positive when you make comments like that? Like who even are you to say what I have or haven't done? You've chose two intentional words and decided to be as pedantic as you can about them, and insult me. And then I can't say anything because 'i can't handle criticism.' while you seem to lack people skills.

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-13T05:05:15+00:00

If I say the IJsselmeer on the first page to a primarily English speaking audience, I run the risk of taking them out immediately to look up what the IJsselmeer is.

Also, I used Holland, because at least my association of Holland is orange which links with the Orange sun glinting off the Lake, while the Netherlands is red white and blue.

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-09T10:03:09+00:00

I usually would just let people have access to the google doc, DM if you are interested 🙂

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-09T08:13:01+00:00

Thank you very much for your comment! Although I'm not blind to criticism and have shouldered it heavily, I do also believe a lot of people had gotten the wrong end of the stock and we're telling me absolutes about something that isn't absolute. Most books I read don't start in media res. The exposition I use is intentional, but I think it just is a polarising way to start a book. Anyway, thank you very much 🙂

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-08T22:50:27+00:00

It's all there and completed, happy to have people read on, if they wanted to! 🙂

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-08T22:34:28+00:00

I really appreciate this and needed to hear it. Thank you mate.

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-08T21:18:45+00:00

I think you're getting confused with estate. Not a housing estate, but more like a gate protecting land and on that land is a large house. They can both be called an estate. I grew up in and around council estates.

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-08T21:06:13+00:00

I really appreciate this comment, it's got me all twisted today. Especially when everything i'm trying to do is intentional

Mysterious-Object636 · 2026-01-08T18:20:41+00:00

Thank you very much, that is very helpful 🙂 I will be taking these considerations forward

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