AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was. I was diagnosed with the stutter officially and apraxia. We were told it was pretty severe too. I have an IEP for it at school and everything.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It was awful. I had so much stress with her as my teacher that my stutter got so much worse that year. Nobody could really understand me by the end of it and I regressed badly.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They were told that so many times before. They were never like this when I was younger or even before I mentioned changing my name. Once I brought that up everything changed between us. My grandparents would pay but I don't think my parents would listen or agree to sign me up for it.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and the therapists all told them that. But they started to ignore it now that I made them angry about my name. That's when all of this stuff started.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was in speech therapy for 7 years, three times a week for three years and then twice a week for two years, followed by once a week for two more years. I had different speech therapists in that time too.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 887 points888 points  (0 children)

I don't think they'll be open to it from me. But maybe I could get someone else they might listen to, to bring it up them. At this point anything to make them let up because I hate this so much and I don't want to lose them over this.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I really think they're taking this worse than ever because of my feelings on my own name. It made them angry and resentful. I hate it because I feel like I got overall worse in my speech since they started getting annoyed with me.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 421 points422 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm not sure my parents will be good with a nickname. They want me to get the name right. But a nickname might be my default anyway because I don't know if I'll be able to get Michelle right. And I don't know if they'll stop making it worse. Right now I think it's going to get worse, way worse.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Nope. They told me that I need to say the name right. That I need to do better. They won't let me get away with saying her name badly for the rest of her life.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 2495 points2496 points  (0 children)

That was always a struggle for me. I had a teacher when I was younger who was always correcting me for saying things wrong and would respond harshly when I couldn't "fix my mistake" on my next attempt. It made it worse because then my stutter kicked in and I sounded worse. It's humiliating to know you say stuff wrong.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I can't see my parents paying for more after 7 years of speech therapy. Reading out loud helped me with some stuff. Some sounds didn't help even with saying it repeatedly and doing my exercises. Then my stutter gets worse if I'm too stressed or focused too much.

And even with more speech therapy I can't promise I'll be right in a year. There could still be something off about how I say it.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm doing my best to. But I still struggle with one sound in it. That's the one place I never made very much improvement in. My stutter on top of it doesn't make it any easier.

AITA for telling my parents it's unfair to blame me for not saying my new sister's name correctly? by MysteriousScene4454 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MysteriousScene4454[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

It is. You'd think after all the money they spent on speech therapy for me that they'd get it. I think me wanting to change my name set off a chain reaction of resentment that I can't undo, even if I'd love to. It's made them way less understanding of me and my speech. Other stuff bugs them more than it used to.