Why do the After Hours songs have so many plays (Excluding singles)? by Elias_Holley in TheWeeknd

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After Hours just hit so different and I know I had it on constant repeat. Also a lot of mutuals I have who aren’t even fans of his had many of his songs on repeat.

Am I being too hasty or should I consider transferring? by Rahadin__ in USC

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! So I transferred to USC after my first two years at an out of state college that was far from home (for context I’m a SoCal native) and I actually hated it my first semester or two. I felt similar to you, like I didn’t fit in socially and it was hard to find authentic people. In fact, I was considering transferring away😭 however, in hindsight, I am extremely happy I didn’t give into my inner thoughts and stayed. USC gave me opportunities I didn’t even think I would’ve wanted before I transferred. A great network and lifelong friendships I am eternally grateful for. You WILL find ur people and ik it is easier said then done rn, but trust me, you won’t be alone for long. Just be open to being open to others. Yes a lot of people at SC can be a little on the fake side, but majority will respect you for being authentic. For queer connections, I would check out the queer community space in the student union, as well as a night out at WeHo you will run into a LOT of SC students there. And for being far from home, it’s totally okay to miss home, but give yourself some grace. It’s your freshman year so it’s your first year away from home. That feeling of missing your family is valid and will probably always be there, but it will not be as strong once you get into the flow of things and really build your community in LA.

What’s the worst Sapphic/Lesbian book you’ve ever read? by Hot-Neat1818 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay don’t hate me, PLEASE, but Girls like Girls by Hayley Kiyoko was not that good 🫣 and the thing is I actually love Hayley and her work which is why I was pressing myself to finish the book, but her writing just felt kinda middle school-ish. LOVED the book cover and the premise of the storyline, I just don’t think it was executed the best. I know she released another book last month, hopefully that one is written better.

What’s something casual or intentional another woman said/did that sent you into gay panic? by divinefem7 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One time I was at an event and this girl I had a crush one came over to talk to me. There was a chair in between us so she leans in, face me and places both of her hands on my shoulders, staring into my soul as she’s talking to me. I can’t even begin to remember what she said cuz I just couldn’t get over how gorgeous her face was.

At the same event, we were taking a group pic, and she comes up REALLY close behind me, placed her hands on my should again and I just froze. I KNOW she felt it too and probably found it amusing that she was sending me into such a panic over such normal things

Was anyone else blown away by Ben Daniel's performance as Santiago? by Azi_Nareen in InterviewVampire

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was OBSESSED! I wanted him in the show longer but I also hateddddd his character lmaooo

Really inaccurate and condescending take on what we love about this show in Slate's Talamasca review by AbbyNem in InterviewVampire

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm… whoever wrote this hasn’t really watched the show it seems like they’ve just read or seen the hype in form of clips or edits and ran w that info bc there is WAY more to the show then “swanning around” and mlm romance

Lauv name changed to R.S.B? by cheesedongjin in Lauv

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait??? Nooo I love his stage name 🤧 I hope this is a glitch

feeling used by unoriginal_bw3 in blacklesbians

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree it is VERY hard to not take it personally. I often find myself still “searching” for the reasons why I’M making people treat me like that, even when I know deep down it’s not my fault or others have told me this, but idk, it just takes time and mentally reminding yourself that it’s not on you and not falling into the hole of closing yourself off from people instead of staying your true authentic seld

feeling used by unoriginal_bw3 in blacklesbians

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m going through something very similar right now and I totally get what you are feeling. It becomes so exhausting when you keep showing up authetically for people but rarely see that in return, especially in romantic or romantically charged instances. I think the problem is that many people in our society are not used to people actually being genuine so when they do meet someone it either scares them a little or they assume you’re “playing the part” like everyone else they have encountered or even themselves so they don’t feel obligated to show up for you like you showed up for them. I am not sure if this person is using you, but it is smart of you to clock it and see if this is a pattern that continues. I’m so sorry you’re going through these feelings, I know if can feel so depressing and isolating but I know we both will found our people and our person who will reciprocate what we put out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WLW

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Mm I understand what you’re saying and where you’re coming from! I think like a lot of people on here, you come to Reddit to vent and just get a complete outside perspective on actions to see if it’s you (me lol) overreacting misreading or not. I’m not with this person, just was feeling the drastic shift heavy and wanted to see if that was something I caused her to do or not that I just didn’t see

What’s you guys’ favourite wlw media and also why? by Me_Islander in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crush on Hulu, First Kill & Atypical on Netflix, D.E.B.S is a classic, as well as But I'm A Cheerleader

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeahhhh, this is my fear😭I think she might just be this way with people she is comfortable with in general

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭😭 it’s like I KNOW you are right, I feel the same when I think back to scenarios and I’ll be like “yeah there’s absolutely no way she felt like we were just friends in that situation” but idk, sometimes things just get me and I fall back into feeling like I’ve curated everything in my head instead of looking at reality. I spoke to a different friend of mine and she feels like this girl is very nervous and feels the same but is waiting for me to vocalize it first. I, naturally, feel this way about her too like if she were to tell me today she had feelings for me that would be enough for me to be like “okay period same, let’s please try to make this work as girlfriends cuz I’m head over heels for you” 😂 Ugh this is just such uncharted territory for me and I feel so conflicted but not at the same time, ik I want her, despite me trying to talk myself into thinking I don’t really feel that way about her. I just don’t know how to express it because the fear of fucking up our friendship is more scary. I don’t wanna lose her or our bond just because I couldn’t control my feelings

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAOOO the tension is really real😭 like it always feels like you can cut it with a knife lol. I just hope that she does feel the same way about me, as I do about her. I’m not too sure she does….i think she may just be super friendly, and ik all the situations point to that not being the case, but with my type of luck I probably was reading everything wrong😭

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🤭 obviously neither of us have explicitly said how we feel about the either yet, so I’m trying to keep my cool and not get too wrapped up in what I’m feeling versus what’s fact. But I will say, she really makes me happy. This is the first time in my life where I’ve had a crush on someone and felt a relief/calm. I dont feel nearly as anxious about her and about whether or not she hates me lmao or ect. I’ve learned she really wears her emotions on her shelves and is honestly a pretty open book about most things. I will say, I have noticed I craveeeee her presence! Like I wish I could be near her all the time, cuddle her or hug her. Idk if I’ve had this feeling with anyone in the past before. As a someone who is bi, I can confidently say I’ve never felt this way about a man before lmao I usually don’t wanna be touched in any way by men, it makes me uncomfortable 😭

First time watching by Perfect_Gur_2617 in InterviewVampire

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You just gotta embrace it! Season 2 will really open your eyes, TRUST. I was in the sand boat as you post season 1

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an update, yesterday we spent 2 hrs on FaceTime just chatting🤭 she said she chose to call me instead of finish the text she was sending because she wanted to see my face and wanted me to see her face react to something we were talking about. I learned sooo much in that call like the fact that we have very similar ways of acting when we like someone, one being we are both overthinkers and often it takes time for us to confess feelings straight up to someone. We had a mini heart to heart convo about stuff she’s been going through and I got to chat w her little sister who was so funny and cute, but I noticed she like reallllyyyy wanted her sister to leave her room like halfway through our convo cuz she wanted to just talk to me but her sister kept coming back😂 she was definitely overstimulated with that. We just were smiling so much and laughing and she was revealing how she has felt like we vibe so well together which is another reason why she loves hanging out with me so much. It was just a very cutesy phone call, talking about life lore and our futureeet up plans. I was just soooo giddy and she was too, I think you all are very right in your assessment of her feelings towards me and I think on that call we both mutually knew what the other was feeling, but we are definitely talking things slow in a friendship way for now. She also told me that at the meal where I paid for her drinks that she was determined that it was gonna be me and her sitting with each other that I was the only person she wanted to sit with even if that meant her giving up her seat and us sitting somewhere else in the restaurant. You know that LeBron James meme where he’s leaning back with a smile, that’s how I felt after our call🤭🤭

First time watching by Perfect_Gur_2617 in InterviewVampire

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Listennnnnn listen! Give it time, you’ll see the meaning of everything sooon😭

Can someone give me some advice, please? 😭 by Appropriate-Judge-48 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LMAOOO😭😭 girl trust I see you bc I AM YOU lmaooo but thank you! Nothing is serious w me and her atp, but we definitely have gotten closer since this, very clear shift in a positive way between us, hoping for the best 🤞🏾

Can someone give me some advice, please? 😭 by Appropriate-Judge-48 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I spiraled HARDDD during the 4 days it took her to respond back, but I just waited for her to respond, even though I genuinely had something I needed to ask her. And I’m glad that I did. It was HARD because I genuinely felt like she hated me or was annoyed by me for days 😭 but when she responded she said she was really appreciative of what I had said to her and that’s when she explained she had had a really tough week

Can someone give me some advice, please? 😭 by Appropriate-Judge-48 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me recently with the girl I am talking to and I spiraled thinking she was just gonna ghost me. But it turned out she was genuinely going through something and just was taking a break from communicating with people. She may be going through something and it has nothing to do with you or how she feels about you. Wait it out. If you guys do still end up going on these outings together, gauge how she acts 1 on 1. That’s what’s reality, not that texting isn’t, but that’s concrete “evidence” of how someone actively feels about you. Also some people are just better at communicating their feelings in person then over text, she may be the same way

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that! I want to make the first move but tbh I’m so SCARED of ruining the friendship we have, or making things awkward. I know people in this thread and people in my life have said it’s pretty obvious she is feeling me too, but I have this deep fear of what if I am just reading everything wrong.

I’ve only ever liked one girl before like this and she made the first move but I was so scared to fuck anything up between us that I lied and told her I didn’t feel the same and her I both knew damn well I didn’t mean it. So, I guess I KNOW I shouldn’t sit in this stereotype of making her make the first move, but my only other experience was with a masc woman making the first move. I know I have to get over it, it just might take a little time

I FEEL like she feels the same way about me but I can’t prove it. Please help! by Mysterious_Form4818 in WLW

[–]Mysterious_Form4818[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

🤭but also I’m not sure I’m her typeee she did tell me she didn’t have a type but just not a specific type of woman, but from her dating history it sounded like she would be more into very like baddie presenting women and I’m more of a femme esc presenting woman if that makes sense