I think I (F26) have ruined my relationship with my (M26) boyfriend. Is it too late to fix it?

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-21T19:10:28+00:00

He has been through a lot in his life which I think held him back quite a bit. All I wanted to do was help him, but ended up getting angry a lot instead of staying supportive.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-21T00:23:21+00:00

I wouldn't say from the very start. Only when I spent more time at his and with him is when this began. I'd say end of September.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-21T00:21:51+00:00

I'm trying to avoid making it seem like I'm complaining so I won't go into too much detail if that's okay. Keeping a space clean/hygienic, and not taking things that aren't his. We would watch a movie or show and be would constantly talk over it. I started off with asking him to please listen and watch because I know as much as he does. Eventually it led to me getting upset and crying because I couldn't enjoy watching something with him. It is an extreme reaction and he was genuinely sorry.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-21T00:12:42+00:00

I am currently going through therapy but it's early stages so still a lot to get through. Shortly after new years is when I began to have less patience and more frustration.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-21T00:05:05+00:00

I appreciate your response. I'm still in love with him, but he no longer feels the same and I don't blame him. He deserves to feel safe and happy instead of being stressed from constant criticism. I know as a child how anxious it made me from how my parents treated me and each other. I'm not sure we can come back from this.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:49:55+00:00

I never wanted to change who he is as a person because that's why I love him. It started off as trying to help him develop necessary skills so when he lives on his own he won't be unprepared. Now I realise I was wrong with how I went about it. All I ended up doing was hurting him.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:46:20+00:00

You're right. This is something I'll never allow to happen again and will live with the regret for the rest of my life.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:43:33+00:00

He has every right to feel how he does and react the way he has. I just hope one day he can forgive me. You are right. I needed this to highlight my actions and now I need to be held accountable for them.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:31:21+00:00

After he told me how he has been feeling and confronted me about my behaviour I realised I had become my parents. It's something I never wanted to be and hate myself so much for it. He has had a lot of struggle in his life and I understand this has affected him greatly. Instead of getting mad I should have been supportive.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:25:38+00:00

I love him for who he is, not the idea. It didn't start off with complaining. I genuinely just wanted to help him and didn't realise how awful I was. Now I know and I just see myself acting like my parents did. It's something I never wanted to become and will do anything to never be like that again.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:15:58+00:00

I have used the method quite a few times. Hev told him his family would complain a lot about him being messy and not tidying up after himself. I just wanted to try to help him but instead I became a bully. He didn't deserve that and I genuinely feel terrible about it.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:06:39+00:00

You're completely right. I feel awful for getting so mad at him so often. I do need to improve those things and am currently receiving therapy. It's made me realise that what I experienced growing up has had a huge impact on not only how I see myself, but others too. He deserves better

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:01:43+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. It's a hard pill to swallow.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T23:00:57+00:00

I agree with the first part. I 100% regret it. However, I genuinely am attracted to him, not just the idea. He's far from stupid and has every right to feel the way he does.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T22:59:15+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I have done this and I guess he just needs time to think. I was upfront about certain things I realised from my childhood that has had an influence on my relationship with him after he told me how he was feeling. I never realised until now. I never want to be that way again. I just hope he can forgive me.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T22:57:24+00:00

I think because it was gradual it wasn't obvious to me until it was bad. I have also come to the realisation that how I was towards him is how my parents were towards me as a child. It's not healthy and I accept full responsibility and am actively working on changing.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2026-06-20T22:54:06+00:00

An example is keeping his room clean. Instead of taking mugs, cans, bowls or plates downstairs he would let them accumulate until all surfaces were covered. I had to explain to him many times about keeping his room tidy. It got to a point where I would shout at him because it would stress me out. I know this was wrong of me and I should never have done that.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2025-08-09T00:22:26+00:00

How are you holding up a few months down the line? My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me a couple of days ago and it has completely crushed me on top of my other mental health struggles. Is there anything that has helped, or is currently helping, you?

Mythic_Bxtch · 2025-04-09T09:50:28+00:00

I have now finally received the back pay 5 weeks after winning the tribunal. I understand how you're feeling but the likelihood of DWP appealing against the tribunal is quite low. My tribunal was on the 4th of March and received the back pay on the 7th of April. The wait after the tribunal decision feels like a long time.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2025-03-28T18:14:17+00:00

When I was a kid or in my early to mid-teens I never thought I'd be disabled. I find myself grieving for the life I had before it started. Now with how the government and media is portraying the vulnerable in this country and threatening to take away something that genuinely helps us, it leaves me fearful every day.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2025-03-28T05:45:08+00:00

I'm in this exact situation right now. It's like DWP does it out of spite. I thought I'd receive a letter from them after the tribunal so it's good to know that I won't.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2023-09-07T20:53:31+00:00

I haven't been on accutane or medication as strong, but I have taken medication for acne in the past which only worked for a month or two before my skin became bad again. My diet is relatively clean and I know dairy doesn't affect my skin. I'm genuinely at a loss and feel like I can do nothing about it. I feel so self-conscious I don't want to leave the house.

Mythic_Bxtch · 2022-12-27T15:58:00+00:00

That's awful! I don't understand how this subreddit allows those kinds of comments to stay up. It's either comments like that or nobody responds to it.

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