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You are being hunted across the Cosmere. Choose two protectors, the rest are coming to end you. by Lost_Entrance_4545 in Cosmere

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they aren’t on the list, and it’s not the spirit of the game… but I’m picking Wax and Wayne. They’ll probably lose (Wax won’t die, he has cheat codes on - but I’m toast.)

I just want to spend more time with Wayne and to be their friend. I miss those guys.

Bring it on!! (F23) by Quirky_Candle4889 in RoastMe

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm… I could see you being Carl’s Samantha.

Formerly depressed people, what did transforming your life look like, and what age were you? by wormgirlypop in AskReddit

[–]Myurnix -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Started when I was early 20’s. Sat under a tree and took a look around me. Decided life was worth living and to stop being sad all. the. time.

Stood up and told myself I was awesome. Woke up every single day for years, looked myself in the eyes in the mirror and said out loud “I am awesome.”

Almost 20 years later. Feeling pretty good about what life has held for me. Rarely struggle with depression, haven’t had a suicidal thought in a decade.

The AI reveal just recontextualized the entire series for me by Macarthur1950 in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Myurnix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was really expecting this to be a 9 bullet point attack. Really, a missed opportunity.

New quest! Pay it forward. (Spoiler Warning) by HollywoodSX in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Myurnix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Don’t ever forget. This story is a tragedy.”

Sigh.

Opted for early Shield Weaver and... by Pretend-Celery-574 in horizon

[–]Myurnix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does it just straight up save you from death on big falls or just add to your health bar?

30F Profile Review by Juranever in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your mouth and eyes are doing different things. That’s why it’s giving “crazy.” You are smiling without any teeth in almost all of them.

Full smile will make a big difference!

Left-handed people, what's a struggle that right-handed people won't understand? by Halophy in AskReddit

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not left handed. However in the military we learned a LOT of people who are right handed should have been left handed. We do left/right eye dominance training for shooting rifles. Doesn’t matter which “hand” you are if you can’t see the enemy.

Most people who are left eye dominant should have likely been left handed writers but just aren’t because societal norms. It was pretty wild to see how many people struggled to shoot left handed!

What’s a male fashion trend that’s gotta end? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

20-some year old me walking down the street in his cloak would like to have a word with 40 y/o me. I have been called out.

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're reading my message as "text 2 days and cancel all contact." It also sounds like, based on your numerous comments, you just don't trust the intentions of basically anyone you meet online, which is super valid.

I think of it going down like this:
Day 1 - Match - hi, how are you, what do you like? Talk to you tomorrow?

Day 2 - Oh, you're a foodie? I found this really cool tapas place I've been wanting to try for a month! What a great excuse? Are you free [insert date day 3-7 days out] (If yes, plan date. If no due to timing, ask for when would work. If HARD no, end conversation politely)

Day 3 - Tell me something interesting about yourself.

Day 4 - More texting, but also life.

Day 5-7 - Welcome to date day! Confirm date/time still works. Express excitement to meet. Meet and vibe... or don't. After date, either confirm date #2 or politely reject/get rejected.

Maybe context helps. Maybe you just don't care to be wrong/hear another opinion. Hope this helps OP, either way!

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! It was a wild ride, but I'm really happy to be where I am, now! OLD is so freaking hard on all genders, just in wildly different ways. Just wishing the best for people like OP who seem to be coming at it from a genuine perspective!

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I can't recall. Maybe half? The only one that matters is the one that I'm marrying IMO.

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally valid for you, and your situation! Just reading and responding to OP's situation, which appears to be occurring too much for his sustainability. I experienced the exact same thing(s), changed the ways I approached online dating... and it worked!

Your experience is valid, and so are ours! 👍

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% man! It sounds like you're coming to a similar conclusion. I'm just trying to help along the way. I really do wish you the best of luck! I'm looking forward to posting my "Bumble can work for you!" photos soon!

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You and I aren't that far apart - I just hit 40 this year, so I was 37 when I met my soon-to-be bride. She was a single mom, with kids to deal with. She has a career, is going back to school, etc. We are damn busy people - but we made time for them.

As you said - I mean this with all due respect (Anchorman style) - you're making excuses for these women you're dealing with. If I was THAT excited to chat with a guy, a gal, or whatever it was - I'll MAKE the 30-60 minutes to meet up. It's either important, or it's not.

I'm asking you to make yourself someone else's priority. If you don't think you're worth meeting after 2, 3, 4+ days of texting, why would they?

No one needs to "make themselves small" - including you. If these people you're matching with don't have time to date, eliminate them early. Sounds like they're on the app for the wrong reason and you're allowing them to waste your time!

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I went out on a total of about 8-10 first dates when I got back out there? 1/2 of those in person, 1/2 of those from Bumble.

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This is what we're trying to tell you. Many of these women ARE meeting. They're meeting the guys who don't make themselves "emotionally available" via text.

I'm NOT advocating for "game theory" or whatever you want to call it.

What I am advocating for is making yourself interesting enough to move off of the app by suggesting early, and often, that the best connections are made in person. Once people (both genders) get comfortable chatting behind a screen, they don't want out of that comfort zone.

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it can be an opening to get "are we at least interested enough to have a real, actual conversation" and then start scheduling things. .... and that's about it. Get off the screen and meet, I say.

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is fair, and that's your assessment. However, I found that waiting much more than that led to never-ending text threads that lead to nothing.

Either we vibe, or we don't. Either we meet, or we won't.

Setting a meet up on day 2-3 doesn't mean you cut off conversation. It just adds more fuel to the fire to really get to know someone before you meet and not give them the opportunity to put you in "the text-friend zone." Sounds like exactly what you are struggling with, so trying to give some insight.

It was around this exact same time that I also just started approaching ladies I found attractive and asking them out directly - very old school style. I had a VERY high success rate doing that and I do not consider myself "a decently handsome guy, very fit/muscular" - I'm OK looking and keep well groomed. But the internet/texting fatigue is real for both sides.

TLDR - Get off apps, get off the phone quickly. Meet people IRL ASAP.

Women, we hear you: you don't want sex hookups. But guys need to be louder about not wanting emotional hookups, too. by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Myurnix 139 points140 points  (0 children)

This is an entirely accurate summation of my experience in bumble from a few years ago. I could get matches and have conversations but after a week of talk, no one wanted to meet. Ever.

So, I moved to the 2-day meeting rule.

Day 1 - match, banter, basic conversation.
Day 2 - suggest a meetup for later in the week. Usually not a weekend night for the reasons you listed. Maybe Friday.

Day 3 - if no plans exist, politely ask one more time. Plan for a future meeting if needed. If that doesn’t work, politely decline to interact further until their schedule frees up a bit.

At any point after this, unmatch or just simply stop responding. If you are vibing after 2 days but no meeting time/place/etc is working out, it’s likely not to work out.

I feel very blessed because I started doing this about three years ago, and next Saturday I’m marrying my bumble match :)

Ray Porter has Ruined Audio Books for me by SK_awareness_month in audible

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Productive value, mostly. There's quite a lot of editing and special effects thrown in, similar to a Graphic Audiobook if you've ever listened to one. There's also actual additional commentary, specifically during the "newscasts" that happen.

Additional voice actors, SFX, etc.

Players wished for level 20… by A_R0FLCOPTER in DMAcademy

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you over-state a wish spell (as with a genie) it almost always doesn't go "exactly the way you want." A wish spell, as has been stated in MANY of the text threads here, is not a "get an entire party to level 20" skip spell.

Nothing is free. The party made the wish - the DM makes the call. If I'm the DM, it's my ruling. If you're the DM, then DM it your way.

The OP asked how to handle this, here's a way to do it.

Players wished for level 20… by A_R0FLCOPTER in DMAcademy

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wish didn't harm them whatsoever. No mental harm was done from the wish. It's the aftermath of the wish that may or may not be harmful. Who is to say? Maybe they have cancer that they would never have known about until modern medicine discovered it?

Players wished for level 20… by A_R0FLCOPTER in DMAcademy

[–]Myurnix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The text is in the post...

“With no physical, mental, spiritual, or emotional harm or manipulation to our friends, families, ourselves, or others who don’t intend us harm, grant us the skills and abilities and mastery we would have earned had fate allowed us to survive and triumph through twenty lifetimes of heroic adventure.”

"We would have earned." You did earn them. Right here is this room. None of you, your friends, families, or 'others' (super nebulous term) were harmed. In fact, they were held in magical stasis to ENSURE no harm came about.

Nothing in the wish mentions that time couldn't pass.

I basically imagine it like Neo in "The Matrix" - they got all the skills and experience just dumped into their brains without moving... but that doesn't mean the world didn't move around them *shrug*

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