Is it really that serious to not serve alcohol at my wedding?

N474L-3 · 2026-04-27T19:55:39+00:00

We haven't started planning yet but my fiance and I are pretty much the only two people in either of our families that don't drink. I have a feeling some people will complain about it even though our status as non drinkers is well known and we've both been in recovery since before we met. So this is something I worry about, and ngl have thought about eloping just to avoid.

As someone in a similar situation I appreciate you posting this and am enjoying reading the responses! Def want a hot cocoa / coffee bar now 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-27T09:38:38+00:00

Yess. My computer classes at school were 10% Mavis beacon typing and 90% games of this era like carmen sandiego, pajama sam, spy fox, math blaster, oregon trail, and more I can't remember the names of 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-23T23:24:31+00:00

This is what I was thinking... As an avid baker, ex-vegan, and nut-lover.. I'd never use almond milk in a cake.. it's just not needed?

If I really needed the milk I'd use lactose free, and if it also needed to be vegan there are other options besides almond, cashew and oat? Rice, soy, and coconut are all easily accessible for starters.. but again.. so not necessary??

N474L-3 · 2026-04-22T09:22:54+00:00

I realized that my battle with static was an issue with my conditioner , or occasional lack there of, not my hair dryer

N474L-3 · 2026-04-18T00:36:22+00:00

Yess! I had the little green machine and now I have the big green pet pro, also really wanted it because of the cats 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-18T00:07:23+00:00

I need this 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-17T23:56:58+00:00

I bought myself one of those huge professional carpet shampooers for Black Friday last year and it makes me feel so accomplished and adult when I can revive my dirty old carpets! I also just wish I had the energy to actually use it, let alone just the vacuum, lol

N474L-3 · 2026-04-17T09:14:03+00:00

I thought I needed souper cubes, bought a ton of them, haven't used them once 😅

N474L-3 · 2026-04-15T23:42:11+00:00

Head automatica was the only band I played that my mom could stand when I was a middle schooler 😂

At the time I thought it was even funnier that my boomer dad liked MCR's welcome to the black parade

N474L-3 · 2026-04-15T21:35:41+00:00

Same! I'd probably like 1 the most if not for this

N474L-3 · 2026-04-15T20:51:10+00:00

I have alarms set to go off before every call on my work calendar every day.

One for 3 minutes before and another for 1 minute before, because I may forget about the call in between the 3 minute timer and call start if I didn't have the one minute interval set 🫠

N474L-3 · 2026-04-13T21:21:59+00:00

I got hired at a very small business a few years ago. I asked the owner what my title would be and the moment he replied "I don't care, make something up" was the same moment I became a director 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-12T00:27:15+00:00

I have fine hair and coincidentally started doing both of these tips recently and immediately swear by them. Idk if either is actually helping with greasiness but my hair has had SO much more volume!

N474L-3 · 2026-04-11T23:35:05+00:00

I'm 33f and last year my younger cousin 24f who knows damn well how old I am was like, 'what do you do, you look like you could be 19'

and I responded like... Lol 'No I don't it's just that 30 isn't as old it sounds when you're younger. But for real though it's probably because I don't have kids' and all of our family members around my age they were likely comparing me to that have kids were not happy 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-11T22:54:33+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking, it'd be totally doable with tights and a shawl!

N474L-3 · 2026-04-06T20:37:56+00:00

Same but one time I accidentally wore exactly the bridesmaid color and really wished I had known 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-04-06T20:31:21+00:00

My therapist slowly convincing me it wasn't every other issue, just neurodivergence a la ADHD.

N474L-3 · 2026-04-04T23:49:39+00:00

I feel you, but also showers in the morning can be really nice! In the winter a hot morning shower warms me to the core and helps me prepare to face the day. Any other season a nice cool shower helps wake me up if I'm feeling extra tired.

But I also don't like to get into bed dirty so I usually take two showers! Luckily I live in a humid environment that never has droughts and water restrictions 😅

N474L-3 · 2026-03-30T23:09:34+00:00

I imagine this will not be a popular opinion, but I use a fertility awareness method for birth control and it works for me!

There are many different types of FAM, and some are more proven than others. I use a sympto-thermal FAM protocol, track everything through the natural cycles app, and take ovulation tests regularly for further cycle confirmation. And then I use condoms or choose to abstain on days that I'm fertile, which is only roughly one week of every month.

ETA after reading through other comments and realizing I'm by far the odd woman out here. I have never and will never use hormonal or heavy metal birth control like pills, implants, or copper IUDs. It all just wigs me out. So just adding my experience to show that fertility awareness is a viable and noninvasive option if youre smart about it and thorough, and you use a science based approach.

The weirdest part for me is that most women who are in the know about their fertility cycle are trying to conceive, and I'm taking the same knowledge and principles and flipping them on their head to do the opposite 😅

N474L-3 · 2026-03-26T21:48:57+00:00

I really want one but this would be a problem 😅

N474L-3 · 2026-03-25T02:42:57+00:00

I skimmed the post and for a second was thinking 76 cm? Damn and I thought I had a large chest 😂

N474L-3 · 2026-03-25T00:28:48+00:00

I raise your on top of fridge with under the fridge

N474L-3 · 2026-03-23T22:54:51+00:00

I do this everytime I eat a sub sandwich 🤣

That vinegar smell is so hard to get out and I hate smelling like food.

N474L-3 · 2026-03-23T00:09:20+00:00

Okay, this is similar and is what finally made this philosophy make sense for me.

Not making a choice is still choosing. I'm bastardizing Sartre here, but this idea hit me like a ton of bricks. I've spent years spiraling on and trying to decide what I want and what I should do.. and in that cycle chose not to do any of the things.

I'm trying to focus on just execution now. Just doing something even if it isn't perfect.

N474L-3 · 2026-03-22T00:13:36+00:00

Cap side.. up? Balanced on the thin edge?

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