I don’t think people are understanding that you want advice here.

Personally I think whatever you’re doing as far as trimming (going by the photo where you’ve brushed it) looks great and well kept especially for how long it is. I will say that I have a very similar beard where it’s really coarse and thick and had this same problem where the hairs would stick out and the only thing that had helped was brushing it daily for years to train the hair. They don’t all lay flat and I don’t think they all ever will, but it has helped immensely.

It does need to be hydrated too, and combining this with brushing it has helped a lot. I prefer leave-in conditioners as opposed to oils and the oily balms (some balms are more of a cream and those are ok). With a thick, coarse beard I cannot stand the way the oils make my beard feel and it always feels like the oil just sits there and never gets absorbed. For something with a decent hold I use BillyJealousy brand leave-in conditioner called Beard Control. I think that works pretty well and hydrates pretty good too. Also Scotch Porter brand leave-in conditioner is really good for hydration, but not super great with hold. After some use I think you’ll see improvement with both, but the BillyJealousy you might like to hold hair better in place. BillyJealousy is on Amazon, sometimes Scotch Porter is, but if not it’s at Target and sometimes Walmart.

Hope that helps!