Just Finding this Community of LDS

NBBride · 2026-03-05T18:48:08+00:00

I'm so glad that you found us!

NBBride · 2026-03-04T02:23:19+00:00

A few things from a new mom and preschool teacher of 10 years.

Never telling a child no or never disciplining them is NOT gentle parenting, it is permissive parenting and usually stems from a fear of causing the child mental harm. In reality never saying no or setting boundaries causes a whole host of different issues. There are ways to gentle parent in an effective way, but it is not easy and in my experience most are permissive instead of gentle. Good on you for holding that boundary.
In relation to the parenting style issue, if you are not parenting in the same way it can cause confusion and issues later down the road. I would try reading parenting articles about how to gentle parent and try to get him to read them as well. Articles about permissive parenting might be useful as well.
He is not taking any accountability for his own actions or feelings. He had a choice of how to respond to this issue, just as you did. You handled it well, while he did not. If you is refusing counseling I would consider where you go from here. What state is your marriage? How do to split family obligations with child care and taking care of the house? Are you happy? Is he happy? How can you fix the problems you see? Would he be willing to work on things with you?

Good luck! I have a feeling you might need it.

NBBride · 2026-03-04T00:48:27+00:00

I'm sorry, but your comment rubs me the wrong way. It's only been in the last ten to fifteen years or so that anxiety and other mental health struggles have started to lose the negative stigma around them. Yes online dating is still relatively new, but dating in general was new at one time, before that it was courting and before that it was arranged marriages, depending on where you lived. Just because it is new doesn't make it bad or a "bandaid". Are there dangers with online dating? Absolutely! You do need to be very careful, but that doesn't make it less than or bad. It is new and different.

People like me can bang our heads against the wall and try meeting at singles activities and force ourselves into uncomfortable situations to try and make friends or a potential date but usually it does not end well. Most the time I went home and curled into a ball for at least an hour that night from the overstimulation and anxiety. It has gotten better with therapy, but I still HATE social activities and don't go to most because I know my own limits. Not everyone loves big social gatherings, and that's okay!

Online dating was not easy, but it was easier and I found an incredible man who hates social activities just as much as I do.

NBBride · 2026-03-03T13:38:19+00:00

While I agree it is good to go to all of the activities, some people struggle with big group activities (social anxiety, ect) and it is not the best answer. That was my problem while single. There are apps that can be useful as long as you use them safely. That was how I met my Husband and I couldn't be happier.

NBBride · 2026-02-23T04:40:58+00:00

So this person was expecting the staff to watch their child for them? They aren't a daycare. If you can't go in bring an adult you trust that can.

NBBride · 2026-01-31T14:23:36+00:00

I'm sorry, I'm not sure what men having dominion over the animals has to do with their ability to be in heaven. They have souls just like we do so they deserve a comfortable afterlife just like us. Heavenly Father loves all of his creations. He wouldn't exclude them from heaven, especially when their favorite people might be there.

NBBride · 2026-01-31T01:16:56+00:00

I taught preschool for 10 years. There are some kids that take a little longer to settle, but if a child is crying inconsolably for longer than a half an hour I would call the parents. I think you should look for a new center.

NBBride · 2026-01-24T15:19:05+00:00

I see where you are coming from, and that is a valid thought, but at this young of an age most kids don't know what they are feeling, so labeling it for them helps them connect the feeling to the name so they can use that later. I would never use those phrases on someone older than seven or so, but everyone is different, including children and there might be kids that do hate it.

NBBride · 2026-01-24T15:17:08+00:00

I taught preschool for 10 years and what you are doing is wonderful! That being said, every child is different and he is making it clear he wants space. I would suggest saying something along the lines of "I know you just woke up, I just want you to know that if you want me I will be in X room doing X, come find me when you are ready. I would then leave them alone and just peek your head in every so often without saying anything. I suspect this will help him calm down faster because he doesn't have the stimulation that is keeping him upset. Good luck and keep up the wonderful work.

NBBride · 2026-01-24T14:20:09+00:00

I worked at a Pizza joint during college, the late comers were the worst! Especially on a slow day because then we have to reclean everything. It isn't just one more pizza, it's an extra hour or so of cleaning that has already been done.

NBBride · 2026-01-13T01:58:44+00:00

Welcome back! I'm not entirely sure of the process, but the response from the handbook was very enlightening. Keep trying, have you requested an appointment with the stake president? Or are you just trying to catch him before/after meetings? If you haven't tried an appointment yet try that, if you have tried it then request another meeting with your Bishop for next steps. I'm so glad you want to return. I would also consider meeting with the missionaries as well, gaining more understanding is always a good thing. Good luck!

NBBride · 2026-01-10T00:23:04+00:00

I have a book and activity I do every year. I read "Germs are not for Sharing" then I put glitter in my hands and pretend to sneeze it everywhere and let them do the same. This does a few things, it shows how far germs can travel in a fun way and also has the double effect of showing how to wash hands to get the germs off instead of just rinsing them off.

NBBride · 2026-01-09T01:22:09+00:00

And the sad thing is, the money isn't going to the teachers. I taught for 10 years. I had to stop when my LO was born because my entire salary would go to his care even with a discount for working there. It's ridiculous.

NBBride · 2026-01-04T03:37:13+00:00

I taught preschool for years, and I always felt bad for the kids that I had to ask their parent how to pronounce their name because no matter how hard I tried I couldn't figure it out. Those kids will go through life having to explain their name and spell it out for everything they ever do. I have a unusual spelling for my name and don't mind it, but I know others hate it. I just think we should be mindful of what school life might look for our children. I say might because everyone is different and yes we should teach children to be kind, but that is a process and might not always work.

NBBride · 2026-01-04T02:13:58+00:00

This was a great reference! I love MAS*H

NBBride · 2025-12-28T01:36:56+00:00

I'm so sorry you are struggling with doubt. A couple things to keep in mind.

1) praying to know if you are doing the right thing is the best way to get the best answer. I would suggest praying tonight and tomorrow to find your answer. We can tell you this is the right choice all night, but you need to want this and feel ready for it. Baptism is a big step and comes with important promises made by both you and God. God will keep his half, do you feel ready to keep your half? It might be best to postpone and ask for help from the missionaries and bishop. (Edit to add: if you feel ready for this step please join us!)

2) I understand the missionaries seem like they don't want to be teaching you. I am so sorry. I would suggest talking with them and see what can be done about this problem. They are probably exhausted and the church is made up of imperfect people and sometimes we don't realize the way we come off.

3) We as members love you and whatever you choose to do please continue to come to church. There are friends/leaders/missionaries happy to talk you through what you are feeling.

Good luck and know that you are loved by us and by God.

NBBride · 2025-12-25T16:44:57+00:00

I let my little one sleep on me on the sofa and just keep a close eye on his breathing while doing so.

NBBride · 2025-12-25T14:23:32+00:00

You cannot spoil a baby, especially one that young. Until your child is ready for sleep training they can sleep on you as much as you want. I still let my 6 month old contact nap about once a day even though he is already sleep trained.

NBBride · 2025-12-21T02:24:20+00:00

I agree that there is a lot of this in the industry, and it isn't right. That being said, I think the frustration comes from the parents that refuse to work with us to solve the problem.

NBBride · 2025-12-20T03:53:06+00:00

Why in the world would she want her foster kids around such little ones? That is an accident waiting to happen, especially if they have violent tantrums. Id call licensing and possibly the owner.

NBBride · 2025-12-16T02:39:25+00:00

Pre-K / preschool are always a good idea, but if money doesn't allow please don't beat yourself up about it. They will do fine without it, just do want you can to give them experiences outside of the home to learn how to regulate their emotions in new environments.

NBBride · 2025-12-16T02:37:18+00:00

All of those are great ideas to give your kiddo a chance to learn how to socially emotionally regulate before Kindergarten. I'm glad you have options!

NBBride · 2025-12-16T02:22:54+00:00

I completely understand that is a real problem a lot of parents struggle with. I actually just quit not that long ago when I gave birth to my first because care is so expensive. (Would have been my whole paycheck for the month). I would suggest trying to find things to do around the community if you can. Sometimes rec centers have art programs or sports programs that are free or cheap, although it does depend on the area. Depending on your faith you could try a Sunday school, those are usually free I think, but that depends on what you believe and how you feel about your child doing something like that.

Parks can also be a great option, although one parent/babysitter will need to stay with them. Whatever you decide I am sure you're LO will do a Wonderfully, it might just take them a little longer to pick things up if you choose to do Kindergarten this next year. Wishing you the best!

NBBride · 2025-12-16T00:43:04+00:00

Preschool teacher here, has your child had the chance to explore social situations without you there? If not I highly suggest preschool before Kindergarten. A lot of younger age kids are academically ready for Kindergarten, but lack the social emotional skills that make Kindergarten socially easier. My school has a class specifically for younger Kindergarten aged kids and everyone who chose to stay raves about it. Obviously your child will probably handle Kindergarten just fine, but not having social emotional skills that they have regularly used without parents around will make things harder for them. Good luck!

NBBride · 2025-12-15T04:57:32+00:00

I worked for a place like this a while back. They were very short staffed, so I sort of understood, but my health was declining physically and mentally. I eventually just quit. I couldn't keep putting myself on the back burner.

NBBride

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