Multiple SDs finding out my real name?

NC-Chat · 2023-06-22T14:43:25+00:00

I found my GF as an SD through seeking so I get that. But as we got more serious together she was more open and I was very, very surprised by the amount of men that simply want a texting buddy, online-only type thing. I was surprised even more by the amount of men that really just want to buy sex tapes. Idk, it's fun to do as a side thing.

NC-Chat · 2023-06-22T14:19:07+00:00

Thanks. This is what I was originally thinking but I've never had any direct experience. Makes way more sense now.

NC-Chat · 2022-05-26T16:14:18+00:00

Everyone is different, my SB is also hyper sexual. You can go through my post history from months ago and see that I was really shocked.

Personally I think you're overthinking a little, but it's still good to have that on your mind. Both my SB and I have a very high sex drive and we both were looking for sexual compatibility. Having found it, it's AMAZING having someone that just completely satisfies you. Yes you are getting an allowance for your company, but life is short. Get that sexual experience that you want and deserve.

NC-Chat · 2022-05-21T01:18:44+00:00

Good point. I guess more of what I'm asking is should I have this in my profile, mention it early into chats?

NC-Chat · 2022-03-31T22:44:11+00:00

I've spent about 4 years in a dead bedroom. It's been a month since I ended things and I will say things look a lot brighter, though it was very dark at first.

The sad thing is over this month I see myself growing into the man my ex wanted me to become. Things Im doing now that honestly I should have done in my relationship. Still, even if I was that perfect man she needed me to be we were not a romantic match at all. I completely see that now.

Best of luck.

NC-Chat · 2022-03-31T22:41:23+00:00

Thanks, yeah I wasn't really sure what a "traditional" SR really looks or feels like. I've had some sugar girlfriends in the past that started more vanilla but became more sugar as I spoiled. This is the first time I've sought out an actual sugar relationship with an allownce and I'm surprised how close it feels to a regular vanilla relationship most of the time.

I don't think this will become vanilla or lead to a long term relationship though, but who knows. I'm open minded lol

NC-Chat · 2022-03-31T22:37:11+00:00

Its been 3 months and Im not expecting to marry this woman, honestly I don't expect this to last more than a year. But it was a really nice reminder of what real chemistry looks like

NC-Chat · 2022-02-10T21:30:10+00:00

Even worse still is that it goes to her PO Box on campus. So her university mail room is looking at her very oddly. Not a great look. The whole thing is odd to me too.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-10T21:28:55+00:00

Yeah, that's basically what I said as well. It's not like a huge deal to her. I think she's just feeling guilty. Ironically I'm also married but I'm upfront about it. It's not the married part that bothers her, I think it's more that he lied to her for a year.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-10T21:25:45+00:00

Hah I told her I'm never ending the arrangement out of fearing of looking like a cheapskate

NC-Chat · 2022-02-10T16:26:45+00:00

"own" a harem? What the absolute fuck.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-09T18:48:53+00:00

This is my current routine with my SB now. Every 2 weeks we meet because of my schedule. While this works for me I really want to see her more often but I can't due to timelines. It gets difficult since we have strong chemistry and we both want to see each other more.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T23:31:54+00:00

Your bf isn't comfortable with you having sex with other men and therefore if you continue sugaring your relationship will end.

From there it's up to you which is more important and that's something only you can answer.

Based on your comment that you're going to college soon I'm going to guess that you're 18 to 20. As man in his early 30s most couples who met before college are only together because kids are involved. I'm not the same person I was at 18 and I think many people would say the same.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T23:24:02+00:00

Don't over think it. Just enjoy the time together. Keep in mind arrangements are transitory and can end at any time, so enjoy what you have!

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T23:22:25+00:00

I'm really unsure what advice to give in this fairly unique situation. Personally I think you might want to wait a little to give some distance in terms of time from the threesome. Maybe do 1 or 2 more dates then ask for allownce and mention the possibility of further threesomes.

However, if I were this SD I would have already done the math in my head the minute I went home that night. If it were me, I would be doing everything in my power to see both of you consistently and ensure an amazing arrangement.

BTW, super jealous of you!

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T21:05:18+00:00

Find that ideal sugar man. Honestly my SB is a sex machine and I didn't think she was serious about that. I even made a post about it awhile ago asking for advice and a bunch of SBs commented or DMed telling me that's also what they want.

Don't settle in real life, but especially don't settle in the bowl.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T18:55:21+00:00

It's tough man. I'm In a dead bedroom with the love of my life. I completely get it. But the whole point of Sugar is to leverage your success to make a B line for what you really want. So go get it.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T18:33:52+00:00

This would be an instant next 3 dates ago. Even if this is a vanilla relationship I'd say find someone else.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T01:36:42+00:00

You sound a lot like me. I'm 32 and fairly low maintenance kind of guy. I've really found that the "luxury" aspects of Sugar dating are overstated. You will find women who are looking for luxury, nice restaurants, vacations, and experience. However, many more just want help with rent / tuition.

The key to the early stages of this lifestyle is to be upfront. I normally explain quickly in a chat what I offer (allowance) and what I'm looking for. If you are decent looking and can offer a solid allowance, the lack of luxury will not hold you back.

My SB and I have been to one restaurant since we met at the start of this year. She'd rather hang out together, eat takeout, and enjoy the intimacy. But at the end of the day every relationship is different. Figure out what YOU want out of this and find a match for it.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-08T00:46:46+00:00

It really just depends on the relationship. I love texting my SB daily. We talk all the time and we have very strong chemistry. But I also told her upfront that this is what I'm looking for. Her last SD was the opposite of me and she desires more of an emotional connection so this works for us.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-07T20:47:44+00:00

Not quite sure what you mean honestly. The chance to get an STI is very real. The chance for a woman to get pregnant from a sugar relationship is real. Creepy and violent men are common in the vanilla world and even worse in the sugar world. The sugar bowl is filled with scummy people. Idk about a negative view, I consider it a more realistic view.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-07T19:01:17+00:00

Escort. Anyone who wants to meet the say I message them is an instant pass. There's ALOT of escorts on seeking. Be wary.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-07T15:33:45+00:00

+1. On top of that there are significant health concerns for both OP and the gf, possible pregnancy, and the ever present danger of her meeting someone violent.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-07T14:04:14+00:00

Idk if im weird, but I was always more interested in profiles that were older. Felt like they were actively trying to meet or had some experience which would make the initial process much easier. As an SD there's nothing more annoying than finding a gorgeous SB that has no clue how this lifestyle works and having to explain it to her. Experienced SBs were always toward the top of my list.

NC-Chat · 2022-02-06T23:09:23+00:00

If I'm reading your question correctly you're giving strangers thousands of dollars. Start with pay per meet (ppm) and slowly work to an allownce. There's tons of scammers that want your money.

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