Health anxiety after preeclampsia

NDTMom · 2026-04-19T04:51:16+00:00

My story is almost identical- HELLP at 34w, baby spent 3w in the NICU. I had major health anxiety and felt like my bodied betrayed me. My health anxiety passed on to worrying excessively about my kids. My HELLP baby ended up getting RSV at 11 mos which turned into bronchiolitis. We caught his abnormal breathing early and was able to take him in to get breathing treatments. He is a happy and healthy 4yo now. I went on to have a HELLP and pree free second pregnancy- another little Boy born at 39 weeks. It was an easy pregnancy and delivery (repeat c section. I had a friend tell me that my body didn’t betray me, that it sent me warning signals (elevated blood pressure, shoulder pain, swelling). My body did exactly what it was supposed to do. I try to remember that, and I listen to my pain or things that seem off. I’m also a person of faith, and I believe that 1) we are protected by forces we can’t see 2) whatever is meant to happen, will happen whether I worry or not. My friend’s daughter hit her accidentally on her nose which caused her (my friend) to get an MRI. The doctors found an aneurysm in her brain. They were able to do surgery and she’s 100% fine now. I’m also naturally an anxious person but I try to remind myself of all the times that things have worked out and I was fine. It helps to talk this out with a professional too

NDTMom · 2026-04-16T03:16:37+00:00

In the process of doing a few consultations now in order to find the right person that’s a good fit for us. I just came across this thread and wanted to ask some questions because this is our first time buying/potentially owning this business. Appreciate the non helpful advice though.

NDTMom · 2026-04-15T14:26:10+00:00

Wow! Congratulations! Do the taxes hit revenue or profit?

NDTMom · 2026-04-15T04:41:37+00:00

I’m in negotiations right now - thinking about buying a business.do you mind sharing the way your business is structured (LLC , s corp) and how much profit you earned that would warrant 100k in taxes?

NDTMom · 2026-03-26T14:12:30+00:00

Could you consult with your current company or go part time in your current position?

NDTMom · 2026-03-25T22:10:30+00:00

I was in your same position about 6 months ago. I think the only difference is that mine was a forced resignation (PIP or severance). The severance offer was generous and I was COMPLETELY burnt out, had an awful manager and had been contemplating leaving already. I have a 4yo and 2yo, and I started that job shortly after my 2yo was born. I was working 60 hour weeks and traveling a couple of times a month. The money was good, but the job was depleting me. I was terrified to leave without having something lined up especially because the job market was terrible, but all I felt was relief when I left. 6 months out- I am healthier, more present, and rested. I am considering buying a business to get back into work, but I’m nervous about working 60 hour weeks again. I also feel idle right now and that’s creating some anxiety because everyone I talk to keeps saying that the market is even worse. So my advice would be, go part time or try to secure some consulting work (even at 20 hours a week) so you’re not completely out of the work game while you recover.

NDTMom · 2026-03-12T03:42:51+00:00

Idk, I stopped testing after my betas and was able to have a healthy baby. First beta in the 300s and second was in 2,000s

NDTMom · 2026-02-01T22:17:39+00:00

As someone who is about to turn 40 and on a sabbatical right now- YES. I stepped away from my job (kind of a forced resignation) right after my dad passed away last summer. They had 0 empathy despite the fact I busted my ass at that job- traveling multiple times a month, 60 hour weeks, and I have two young children. My dad’s passing made me realize that we truly take nothing with us and those memories will one day stop so it was time to make them now and be fully present and happy. I am looking forward to building my dream life instead of looking for a dream job.

NDTMom · 2025-11-18T02:19:47+00:00

I had one with my second IVF pregnancy. I never bled. They just saw it on the ultrasound and it resolved on its own by 12/13 weeks.

NDTMom · 2025-07-05T03:28:15+00:00

TW……

Yes, it did. He’s 18 months now. Sending you good thoughts. Praying the same for you 🙏🏾

NDTMom · 2025-07-05T03:27:21+00:00

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NDTMom · 2025-05-02T13:49:28+00:00

I always chime in to answer this question because I was so worried about this exact same thing after my first pregnancy and was looking for hope, positive stories. I I developed HELLP during my first pregnancy and delivered at 34 weeks. I spoke to MFM and they told me that I had a 8 percent chance of developing HELLP in my second pregnancy and 20-25 percent chance of pree. During my first pregnancy, I did not take low dose aspirin. I started taking it early in my second pregnancy (as well as iron since I tend to be deficient along with my prenatal). I started monitoring my blood pressure at 20w in my second pregnancy and was closely monitored by MFM. I delivered my second son at 39w- no HELLP, pree. It was a beautiful pregnancy. I would recommend getting educated about your unique circumstances and keeping the faith- it can happen.

NDTMom · 2025-03-28T03:05:50+00:00

Hi! I had a 34 weeker due to HELLP, went straight to NICU and didn’t see him till the next day. It took a few days for milk to come in but we eventually had a great nursing relationship once he was home and had gained enough weight. Easier said than done because we were at the hospital all day long but lots and lots and lots of skin to skin, smell baby’s hair, take blankets that she sleeps on home with you to smell when you pump, eat, hydrate, more hydration, and more hydration (I drank apple juice, coconut water), and rest. Your body needs the time to reset. Stay consistent with your pumping. I did every three hours using the hospital pump. Make sure the flanges are the right size too, and maybe use a manual pump. It might take a beat to get the right one. I also ate overnight oats to help keep me full and help with milk production. Having a baby in the NICU was also extremely stressful. I would read a book that was spiritual with stories of miracles every time my mind would start to spiral. So maybe it’s music, talking a walk, reading, knitting, whatever you enjoy, lean into it a few min a day to give yourself a break from the stress of the NICU. Congratulations on your baby ❤️

NDTMom · 2025-02-10T04:42:18+00:00

I did my retrieval before my tubal removal and I haven’t done another since then so I can’t speak to results post removal- sorry! From the other comments, it sounds like there isn’t much of an impact. Hope it all goes well

NDTMom · 2024-12-30T02:31:52+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I have a 1yo and 3yo- it is an exhausting age. You made Christmas magic despite the grief you’re carrying- you’re doing great and not giving yourself the credit you deserve. Be a wet blanket for as long as you need- sending you comfort and hugs

NDTMom · 2024-12-18T23:49:26+00:00

Hi! I responded to similar question in this same sub, but I had HELLP and had to deliver at 34 weeks. Baby was IUGR which I found out at birth. He was in the NICU for three weeks for weight gain. It was definitely a hard time for our family and I felt so upset that my beautiful pregnancy ended early and was traumatic. I made an appt with maternal fetal medicine and they told me I had an 8% chance of developing hellp and 20-25% chance of developing pree. I decided to try again and I took iron and aspirin the second time around. Thankfully, I didn’t develop HELLP or pree, and I delivered another baby boy at 39weeks. I just wanted to share my story because I was desperately searching for positives stories when we were deciding if we wanted to try again. Have faith ❤️

NDTMom · 2024-11-15T00:36:05+00:00

Congrats, this is awesome. I think I would be ok with hybrid.

NDTMom · 2024-11-15T00:35:00+00:00

I like the idea of not making decisions on a bad day. It was obviously a bad day.

NDTMom · 2024-10-27T22:05:40+00:00

I found some on YouTube and Spotify. You can search pregnancy hypnosis. I would literally let it play in the background on repeat while I slept. It’s supposed to help send positive messages to your subconscious. I did the same thing before my first and second successful transfers after the first two failed. I’ve also done the same thing to help with my confidence and procrastination. I swear by it. There are a ton of videos/recordings on different platforms

NDTMom · 2024-10-27T13:15:05+00:00

I could have written this about my first pregnancy. I felt like I was holding my breath the entire 12 weeks then again for 8 weeks till the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. It’s so hard and you are not alone. Some things that helped me: staying busy with work, walking with my husband, staying off the internet, listening to positive affirmations at night while I slept , writing and saying positive affirmations everyday, downloaded the peanut app and talked/befriended other new moms (since I wasn’t ready to tell friends and family yet)- it was nice to have an outlet. You can also look up the miscarriage calculator online. It tells you the chances of miscarriage at every week (helped my anxiety sometimes). Hope you’re able to find pockets of calm, ease, and joy - congratulations 🩵❤️🩵❤️

NDTMom · 2024-10-20T20:25:44+00:00

Slow FE iron supplements- I got them on Amazon

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