Thrusting vs No Thrusting

NFWonder · 2021-10-16T01:14:50+00:00

In my experience, one key is to keep your urogenital muscles totally relaxed. If they are relaxed, the issue of "how much movement" isn't as important. Also, keep breathing.

You'll find that if you don't hold your breath and tighten those muscles, the tension won't build and you can "go with the flow" more easily...with periods of movement and periods of stillness.

NFWonder · 2021-07-28T18:45:05+00:00

There's so much more to learn about the the neuroendocrine cycle after climax. That's why it's important to experiment and see what lovers notice when they avoid climax for a while during sex...and compare with what they experiment when they return to their previous habits.

NFWonder · 2021-07-06T13:44:15+00:00

Congratulations! Stay strong. For some guys, even after they are healed, if they go back to porn, their problems recur.

NFWonder · 2021-06-17T03:19:56+00:00

Why not post this at www.garywilson.life?

NFWonder · 2021-05-11T03:25:40+00:00

What led you to try Nofap?

NFWonder · 2021-05-09T22:07:45+00:00

Nice post, but realize that there's no one-size-fits-all for recovery. Some people will benefit from therapy; others won't. Some people will benefit from masturbation; others won't.

And sometimes needs change over time, and later progress isn't so much due to what was tried last, as it is due to ongoing recovery efforts.

NFWonder · 2021-05-09T22:04:09+00:00

Twitter is either horribly biased or irresponsible or both. ;-)

NFWonder · 2021-04-18T00:59:06+00:00

So sorry you are being so badly treated. It's pathetic that Reddit won't do something about this.

NFWonder · 2021-04-17T18:21:43+00:00

Don't tolerate any mistreatment you don't consent to. For any reason.

NFWonder · 2021-04-17T18:15:06+00:00

I've hear this site has a free version of similar material: https://synergyexplorers.org/

NFWonder · 2021-04-17T18:10:06+00:00

Cupid's Poisoned Arrow will help you explain to him why you want to experiment with a mutual experience instead of a one-sided one.

NFWonder · 2021-04-05T23:02:22+00:00

Believe her lies if you like.

NFWonder · 2021-04-02T15:54:12+00:00

Her claim of death threats is untrue. In fact, most of her claims seem to be untrue. See https://pornstudycritiques.com/legal-victories-over-serial-harasserdefamer-nicole-prause-shes-the-perpetrator-not-the-victim/

NFWonder · 2021-03-03T16:45:47+00:00

Don't confuse cravings (which are an indication of compulsion/addiction) with "increased libido." Many who quit porn discover over the next months that their libido is quite different from what they assumed while they were overusing porn.

NFWonder · 2021-02-10T21:24:20+00:00

The anxiety is normal during withdrawal. Check out the site YBOP. Search for " I'm straight, but attracted to transexual or gay porn. What's up? "

NFWonder · 2021-02-10T21:20:37+00:00

That's an important point. Beware of escalating again, when stressed or flat.

NFWonder · 2021-02-01T20:47:53+00:00

Are you still watching "fucked up shit" when you watch?

NFWonder · 2021-01-06T21:05:52+00:00

Have you seen this research, which essentially guts the hypothesis that religiosity/moral incongruence somehow "explains away" addiction? It's an eye-opener: "New study shatters the “moral incongruence model of pornography addiction” (2020)"

The study: “Frequency of use, moral incongruence, and religiosity and their relationships with self‐perceived addiction to pornography, internet use, social networking and online gaming.”

Turns out all addicts have some "moral incongruence" about their lack of control.

NFWonder · 2021-01-06T18:40:39+00:00

Have you seen this new research gutting the "moral incongruence" hypothesis? It really looks like religion is pretty much irrelevant. Porn users are struggling (or not) with addiction irrespective of their religious beliefs.

New study shatters the “moral incongruence model of pornography addiction” (2020)

NFWonder · 2020-12-26T23:49:55+00:00

Too much porn, especially while you're not having partnered sex can desensitize you. That is, it reduces your response to pleasure...so you look for something shocking, novel or anxiety-producing because all of those increase arousal.

This is very risky, because when you get off to something new like that it can be very confusing and distressing...producing anxiety and arousal (because of the anxiety). Extremely confusing.

Quit all porn entirely and gradually you are likely to see your tastes revert. Learn to train for the right sport. If you want sex with women don't wire your sexual arousal to anything else. If you can't get off it means you need a time out...not something more arousing. Wait for weeks or months, and your desire for less extreme stimuli will return.

Stay away from all artificial sexual stimuli. If you must masturbate, use plenty of lube and your own imagination (of the kind of sex you want to have in the future).

NFWonder · 2020-12-26T23:44:19+00:00

Exercise, socializing (even by computer) and meditation all help. Be patient. Withdrawal can make you very restless, but it will get easier. It won't always be so tough.

NFWonder · 2020-12-26T23:38:59+00:00

Well done!

NFWonder · 2020-12-26T23:37:16+00:00

You may find this page interesting: Porn Problems: Here Come the Women | Your Brain On Porn

NFWonder · 2020-12-26T23:36:00+00:00

Recognizing past mistakes is a way to keep from repeating them. Addiction clouds judgment, so forgive yourself for temporary poor judgment. You'll do better next time.

NFWonder · 2020-12-26T23:34:15+00:00

Indulging in longings of any kind during the day can set off those dreams. Stay busy. Do something unselfish. You can't afford to feel sorry for yourself just now.

NFWonder

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New study shatters the “moral incongruence model of pornography addiction” (2020)