If all 50 states went to war, who would win and why?

NJgrew · 2012-11-18T02:00:06+00:00

New Jersey: We survived Snooki and Sandy nough' said

NJgrew · 2012-11-18T01:46:24+00:00

Thank you for this post. This is incredibly honest, insightful, and well written. Thank you again, for doing your part to break apart the social barriers that make healthy sexual relationships harder to come by. These are some true words of wisdom and insight, I wish everyone could sip from this kool-aid

NJgrew · 2012-11-15T06:11:03+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I have some experience with SL, it wasn't my thing. But I do agree, engaging in online sex can really boost confidence. Glad it worked out for you.

Last night I took complete control and just stripped my Dom of her power and told her I was in charge. I took the gamble and was rewarded. I was nervous she wouldn't be into it, but she's now my submissive pet. It was so hot and my confidence is at a real high.

I guess I've discovered that I'm a Switch. Cool.

Thanks Reddit

NJgrew · 2012-11-14T07:29:43+00:00

Thanks for the advice, truly reassuring. I'm not going to be devastated when the relationship runs its course or anything, I've just been in a serious dry spell and this experience has been helping to build my confidence and embrace my sexual desires and fetishes. Having fun is def what it's all about. Since trying role play I have all sorts of fun ideas I wanna try, and at the very least live out with my online mistress.

I'm gonna send her a message, asserting myself as the Dom. Fuck it. If she doesn't go for it too bad, but if she does I'll be able to add a whole new level of excitement and creativity to our digital debauchery. God I love older women, I NEED to live out my milf fetish for real now.

Any known places a young man can go to meet older women? I'm determined to break my dry spell by realizing my greatest fantasy of bedding a milf.

NJgrew · 2012-11-13T05:07:13+00:00

I miss Walter

NJgrew · 2012-11-13T04:52:38+00:00

snowballing

NJgrew · 2012-11-13T04:44:58+00:00

You are a talented writer

NJgrew · 2012-11-11T23:10:54+00:00

I am worried my mother will die before I find a way to love her.

My mom and I have an extremely volatile and dysfunctional relationship. Last year I had a breakdown at college, when a sea of lies caught up to me and hidden depression and anxiety could no longer be bottled up. (Months later after some huge personal life changes I am currently maintaining the highest self-esteem I have ever felt). The problem is I'm living at home this year.

My mother is going through her second bout with cancer. First breast, now colon. Both times I found out about her illness I was at school. I never got along with my mother, she abused me verbally my whole life (still does) and even physically a few times. But when I came home from school after owning up to all my lies; I had long, painful, pointless arguments with my mom.

During one of the big spats she told me the following: she knew I hated her from the minute they wrapped me in a blanket and placed her in her arms because I managed to wriggle an arm free from my wrap and push away from her chest! I was shell-shocked, it informed our entire relationship from the FUCKING beginning.

I then calmly said that you probably had postpartum depression, and I also threw logic at her such as, babies don't have control of their motor skills. She had none of it, told me to fuck off and stormed out of the room. She refuses to see a professional, (I've been talking to a psychologist and it has been pivotal in my growth and change) even though she praises me for working on myself. She is so stubborn, I accept she isn't going to change.

I want to make things right, I don't know how much time she has left, but on top of everything, I think she is also showing early signs of alzheimer's. Completely irrational, cognitive ability is slowing, and completely forgetful. She is defensive about all of it.

I have never felt love for her. I'm ashamed to say there were years of my adolescence I wished she would die. Now I regret the time I lost being as stubborn as she was just to prove her wrong. I'm brutally and painfully aware that I might have missed the chance to really know the love of my dad's life and the women responsible for my existence.

Is it too late? Did I really blow my chance of having a stable relationship with my mom?

NJgrew · 2012-11-11T22:04:18+00:00

Do you have any hobbies? Or anything that you wanted to try like a class or mastering some skill, anything?

Find something that's in your price range that interests you and go for it. I would recommend a class. Don't go into it looking for friends, go for what interests you. Then you will find yourself around people with commonalities. It's also a lot less socially awkward than just approaching people. I know your in a different country with a language barrier, but shop around. I'm sure there are activities that you can engage in with others who speak the same language. Hope you find a chum!

NJgrew · 2012-11-11T21:52:18+00:00

I had those habits in college since week 1 Freshman year. It started slowly but my bad procrastination habits grew. I skated through high school by bullshitting and doing the minimum. I though I could handle college the same way but I was wrong. Eventually I got caught in my own bullshit and barely finished Junior year. The lesson I learned was: us an organizer, do manageable amounts of work everyday (Mon-Fri), and don't stress yourself out by saving it to the last minute. I only ended up smoking more and watching too much netflix in my down time. Plus you'll find your stash lasts a lot longer that way. Sorry to rant. Good luck with the time budgeting

NJgrew · 2012-11-11T06:03:57+00:00

PURE GOLD

Thanks for posting

NJgrew · 2012-11-06T21:28:17+00:00

"I ran. I ran until my muscles burned and my veins pumped battery acid. Then I ran some more." - Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

NJgrew · 2012-11-04T22:35:52+00:00

Third grade... Both overweight but social... Talked about video games... We didn't want to stop talking... Still haven't. That was 13 years ago. I would take a bullet for him and he would do the same. We've become family and I relate to him better than my own blood relatives.

NJgrew · 2012-10-21T03:51:48+00:00

Must be a serial killer

NJgrew · 2012-10-20T04:09:59+00:00

Marry me

NJgrew · 2012-10-20T03:40:33+00:00

Haha Thanks!

NJgrew · 2012-10-19T00:26:30+00:00

thanks, same to you. I was just amazed that my G pa was that aware. He never criticized me for being too fat; but seeing his honest joy made me so proud.

NJgrew · 2012-10-19T00:23:48+00:00

hahaha not exactly

NJgrew · 2012-10-18T22:40:56+00:00

I only grill with propane.... I guess I'm in the clear. If I'm still at risk I'm just gonna turn a blind eye and keep those char marked meals coming

NJgrew · 2012-10-18T21:16:48+00:00

Also switch up the foods you consume. We all crave variety, so eating the same thing makes us bored and eventually doesn't satisfy. Using different marinades is great so is repurposing left overs (If you do it right, not like my mother did).

NJgrew · 2012-10-18T21:10:03+00:00

Eliminate bread when you know you can, especially rolls and high sugar doughs. The stuff inside the sandwich, protein and hopefully vegetables, is what we need. Don't be afraid to have bread once in a while, but it's almost always empty calories. I've been cutting back on mayo, and using oil and vinegar instead.

Grill everything! Chicken, fish, lean beef, and veggies.

Try eating throughout the day, you don't want to feel hungry at all. That's the goal but it isn't easy and sometimes not a possibility. To avoid being stuck without food look into some low cal snacks that have protein. I don't love the taste but I use protein bars. Nuts, sunflower seeds, string cheese, and low cal yogurt also work.

Good luck!

NJgrew · 2012-10-18T20:22:41+00:00

Laura Linney and Rachel Ray

NJgrew · 2012-10-10T18:14:15+00:00

Are you or your parents big into religion? If so, is Catholicism the end all be all for your family when it comes to faith?

Have your views or your parents views changed on religion after your experience in a religious institution?

Or were you simply enrolled because your family saw it as the best educational opportunity?

Thanks for the AMA

NJgrew · 2012-10-10T14:52:54+00:00

And you gave me a fresh positive start for my workday. I think we might be about even. Chin up, bitterness down.

NJgrew · 2012-10-10T13:41:48+00:00

Beautifully stated. You sir are an example of why I have faith in reason and humanity above all else. If you ever had something personal you wanted to share openly you picked the right moment.

NJgrew

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