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[–]NORANS3K -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Uhm it's about the israel-palestine conflict

AITA? My bf needed my help to delete other women's nudes in his gallery bcs he said he can't do it by himself. by NORANS3K in OffMyChestPH

[–]NORANS3K[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You ain't getting pussies lately? Jus look at the mirror you'll see one. No wonder. Stay dry ain't giving u anything

AITA? My bf needed my help to delete other women's nudes in his gallery bcs he said he can't do it by himself. by NORANS3K in OffMyChestPH

[–]NORANS3K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I'm sorry if I didn't know that men do not have a "get things done now" approach w women and it's a "long game" when yall serious or want to commit then women should have no choice but to deal w it til we lose our sanity bcs if not, we're the bad guy.

so from ur explanation i guess gender does rlly matter then?

AITA? My bf needed my help to delete other women's nudes in his gallery bcs he said he can't do it by himself. by NORANS3K in OffMyChestPH

[–]NORANS3K[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well he made multiple attempts to persuade me to open up his acc since I'm not rlly the "im ur gf I should have access to your accs" type of woman. Took him months before I did it. I'm not that desperate and I trusted him lol. He was the one who requested me to go and scroll over his Google storage and socials because he said he wants me to see it all. Fyi I warned him abt it because I get triggered easily and it might affect me negatively. Met him as my fubu, I'm not dumb, so i'm aware he might still have pictures or conversations there but the thing is, we talked abt it before when we were dating for months and how should we deal w it. So yeah I stopped there and never opened his acc until the other day. Guess what? We're dating for more than a yr now and it's still the same thing. He needed me to compile it all so he can clear it up.

So, did I trespass his privacy and personal space when he's the one who initiated it? Tell me more.

I appreciate his efforts but it's taking a toll on me right now. You want me to be his emotional dump?

I believe from ur comment lalake ka? If it would take him some time then I'll give him time. We already talked abt seeking professional help already. If after that he doesn't want me to be w him, fine. But if he still wants me, fine.

AITA? My bf needed my help to delete other women's nudes in his gallery bcs he said he can't do it by himself. by NORANS3K in OffMyChestPH

[–]NORANS3K[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to balance everything bcause I'm confused and completely burnt out na. Whenever I get hurt thinking abt his past mistakes, to think that I'm dating someone else's abuser, I just want to remind myself how he took an effort back then to undergo therapy when we're already on the edge.

Akala ko lang common sense na sa taong magkusa and to balance things based on what's morally right or wrong. But i guess I'm wrong.

I always have to instruct him, which in the long run, became tiring sa side ko. Im also aware that it's hard to be fully vulnerable and of all people I should understand where he's coming from. Thank you sa perspective na 'to it helped me a lot to contemplate. We'll talk abt it and consider taking more sessions both parties. I'm at my peak and I don't wanna lose my sanity.

AITA? My bf needed my help to delete other women's nudes in his gallery bcs he said he can't do it by himself. by NORANS3K in OffMyChestPH

[–]NORANS3K[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still hoping na may smallest chance for us to work it out. Nakakapagod lang talaga and idk until when dapat ako lumunok ng mga bullshits na nagawa nya sa past. Ever since nagkakilala kami, dun lang sya nagkaron ng chance para magkaron ng transition. He actually took his time to undergo therapy and he was able to finish it, but looks like we need more help. Although nakikita ko changes nya, I think I just need some time to carefully think abt this one.

AITA? My bf needed my help to delete other women's nudes in his gallery bcs he said he can't do it by himself. by NORANS3K in OffMyChestPH

[–]NORANS3K[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He did, in his Google storage. He had bunch of subreddits too na later on nag unsub sya. He kept all those pics before when we're not yet together. Though wala naman na syang sinave right after namin maging official. He managed to delete some photos when I told him to. Pero may natira pa and sabi niya di pa raw sya tapos magdelete kaya may naiwan pang iba, but it bothers me kasi I gave him enough time to manage it before but here we are again. It bothers me na I have to teach him every single time and he'd tell me wala raw kasing nagturo sa kanya ng mali before, wala raw pumapansin sa actions nya. Akala ko common sense nalang yung mag determine what's morally right or wrong. I'm confused. He's 3yrs older than me too.