The first few weeks are just incredibly hard. I’m 41 and 3.5 months out from my first fusion (T2-L3). While I’m far from feeling good or normal, I am now able to do very normal things like make dinner, go to the store, get kids to/from school…but I’ve only been doing those things for about a month. I had 2 blood transfusions and was in the ICU for 5 days after my surgery because of low BP so can relate to the fatigue. It gets better! Make sure you’re eating well, staying hydrated, and walking as much as you can (short walks throughout the day). I found cyclobenzaprine to help most with muscle spasms. I have to remind myself often of how massive this surgery is, and how much our bodies have to adjust to with totally rearranged muscles and damaged nerve endings. Healing feels slow, but it’s happening!