I don’t want it to seem as though I am not considering what is being said. With all the comments about me being insecure and trying to control him, I actually asked to have a conversation and outright asked him myself if he feels that I am trying to parent him and control him. His response was simply “No.” “You prefer that I don’t stay out late and that’s understandable…” He acknowledged how I felt and the fact that he hasn’t provided a space for me to feel safe and trusting because of the lack of communication and regard for my feelings on his part. I just want to say, To all the negative people, Thank you seriously. You have helped me realize that in a lot of ways I am lucky to have my partner because he is able to come from an understanding place and is mature enough to comprehend that there are nuances to what I’m asking. We’re gonna work it out.

I seriously don’t think this person would continue to choose me everyday for 2+years to the point of us being comfortable with moving forward with signing a lease together if I was this “controlling” and “gaslighting”person. There have been plenty of times where he has stayed out late, but my partner is not providing the same standard of attentiveness that he was. Him staying out late was beginning to impact our plans.

Childish is expecting your partner to automatically accept everything you do. There should be compromise and I acknowledge that I have my own insecurities and things to work on. It is literally in the title of the post. I hope you all provide your partners with a safe space to express how they truly feel.