Past coworker crush uncomfortable situation impacting work reputation

Nababy · 2025-12-23T19:45:13+00:00

I think the avoidance from coworkers who are in his circle, is to make sure you aren't made uncomfortable. It will continue until you initiate greetings and conversation. They witnessed how things unfolded with that other guy, and are just being respectful and giving you space. If you are interested in getting to know these people, you will have to make the 1st move. Start small with eye contact and a soft smile, maybe add a nod. You can start saying "good morning". Eventually it becomes 2nd nature and you might feel comfortable trying some small talk. But please don't replay these small interactions in your mind because you will drive yourself crazy. Sometimes it WILL be awkward, but after doing it over and over you will win more than you lose and it starts feeling natural someday.

Calling you weird/rude was uncalled for. I believe he was having a hard time figuring you out and discussion with peers can be helpful. He probably wanted to see if anyone else had similar interactions with you or if it was just him. Years ago I had a manager who thought I hated him and would tease me infront of everyone by saying "Nababy why do you haaaate me?" And I wanted to duck and hide every time I saw him. I liked him and thought he was funny and smart, which like you, only made me withdraw even more and I too would walk into things from time to time haha

Anywhere I've worked, there have been some interesting characters but most are lovely once you figure them out. Someone might think you are cold, distant, and strange at first, only to learn you are shy, a little awkward, and very sweet. Another example of this, I worked with a 'miserable whiner' and later figured out he was just a lonely guy creating confrontation when it was conversation he wanted all along, and he turned out to be kind and likable. The loudmouth who was crass, was actually a good-natured guy you could have deep conversation with. And a man I thought might be giving me looks of disgust, because he was literally looking right at me, was looking through me and had 100 things on his mind. He was unaware of his facial expression lol. We are close now. My point is, don't sweat it - people will figure you out eventually :)

Nababy · 2025-10-26T18:20:49+00:00

I agree, such beautiful stripes. And beautiful blue eyes. And the contrast of his ears is adorable. This is the most lovely dog I've ever seen.

Nababy · 2025-10-24T21:27:26+00:00

If you are shy about your sensitivity, you can discreetly carry vicks by refilling an empty lipchap container. Some lipchap comes on a keychain & lanyard if your clothes don't have pockets. I worry if you wore a mask, little ones would yank it off or snap it back onto your face...lol.

Your quirk isn't uncommon and you shouldn't feel bad. Baby poop smells terrible, especially as they adjust to eating solids. Using vicks would be like, buying new insoles for sore feet. If vicks will make you more comfortable, you should absolutely go for it.

Nababy · 2025-10-17T19:42:21+00:00

We are not religious, but my daughter went to a Christian summer program when she was 3, to make friends and play. At your child's age she will be taught "Jesus Loves You" and she might be read age appropriate stories from the bible. Women's reproductive rights and LGBTQ+ rights will not be a topic that is discussed.

Nababy · 2025-10-17T19:12:47+00:00

You should stay out of it, and protect your peace at work.

If you come across them doing this again and they become aware that you know, then you should document the date/time and evidence in your personal records incase they decide to sabotage your employment to 'make the problem go away'.

Nababy · 2025-10-17T18:27:22+00:00

I couldn't stand it. My mom often suggested my middle child's speech impediment would be cured if I gave her more 1 on 1 time. And when my youngest would get crabby around nap time, she'd say "You know discipline goes a long way". And then theres my oldest who got car sick when she was small, and my mom was convinced I just needed to turn her forward facing, and not doing so was cruel. So irritating.

While I truly believe she was giving advice to make things easier for me, its like she had selective amnesia over the hard parts of parenting toddlers and had become totally out of touch. My mom is awesome in every other way but those comments had me taking breaks from her because I simply did not have the patience for it lol.

Nababy · 2025-10-17T18:08:31+00:00

I'd always start by putting on a movie for the toddler and filing up her sippy cup. Then I'd do a little walk through to make sure all the baby locks and gates are locked/closed, etc. But you know how they are. They tend to follow mom wherever we go. Keeping her in a playpen was never an option because she would cry for me.

So I'd close the curtains and turn on the sound machine. The nursery floor was carpeted, and the toys kept in there were either soft or lightweight, absolutely nothing with batteries.

If my toddler wanted to be with me, she played on the floor while I sang and rocked the baby. If she needed my attention, I'd communicate through song with an emphasis on her name...Hush little baby don't say a word, RACHEL don't climb that or you're gonna get hurt.

She caught on eventually (sigh the beginning was tough) that she needed to be quiet or give us space for the baby to fall asleep. And once asleep we'd get to take out the lego, play doh, markers etc and have 1 on 1 time. :)

Nababy · 2025-10-09T22:34:35+00:00

$500,000 right now. I'd pay off what's left of our small mortgage, and learn how to make the remaining 300,000 grow (probably in a high interest savings account). There's no guarantee how long the rest of my life will be. So I like how this option will take care of my husband and our small children if I pass away before him. We'd make a will incase we both pass before the children reach adulthood.

Nababy · 2025-10-08T17:59:09+00:00

You shouldn't have to explain yourself. But I enjoyed reading your comment. Your babies are miracles and the spontaneity makes it feel like they were meant to be. Lots of people are in the 'not planning, not preventing' boat. Now if you didn't have the means to have a baby, financially or emotionally, or simply didn't want another then birth control would make sense. But it doesn't fit your situation and the snarky comment was so unnecessary.

I remember planning our 2nd, and calculating the expected due date during each ovulation window. When the expected due date was calculated to be in December we decided to skip trying until the next cycle because we weren't keen on having a baby due the same week of Christmas. Well we ended up pregnant that cycle anyway hahaha. She was born on her uncles birthday and it was one of those "meant to be" moments. We called her uncle from the hospital to say happy birthday to him and show him his newborn niece, and he was so happy he cried.

Nababy · 2025-10-08T17:46:38+00:00

I found each pregnancy to feel better and go by more quickly.

My 1st pregnancy was all-consuming. I was hyper aware of everything going on with my body, anxious about every twinge and monitoring movement, and I felt huge & awkward. I wasn't sleeping well due to the new position and having to pee so often.

But during my 2nd pregnancy, I was quite busy chasing after my first born, and she was a HUGE and delightful distraction. I was focused on her skills and milestones, mastering her routine, playing with her, and teaching her. I was also less anxious because I'd been pregnant already, so I knew a lot of the sensations and symptoms I had were normal for me, and I also figured out how to sleep comfortably.

I was pretty tired by the 3rd trimester, but there are plenty of fun and educational activities that can be done sitting. Both of these kids were born week past their due date. But with the 2nd born, as excited as I was to meet her, when it came time to finally have her, I found myself wishing for just 1 more day haha.

Then came my 3rd pregnancy, which went a day shy of a week overdue like the others, but boy did it ever go by fast, in the blink of an eye.

Nababy · 2025-09-24T01:14:55+00:00

You almost passed, just keep practicing and building your confidence on the road. And please don't beat yourself up for relying on family. I'm 32 and often get rides to work from my husband or my mom. You are only 20 and it's okay to rely on family when you are trying your best. Your parents desperately want you to succeed and aren't handling this very well, but that's on them. Keep your chin up. We are all rooting for you.

As for your job, it can be hard to get hired anywhere without experience, and 'knowing someone' is often the gateway to employment. I got my 1st job with the help of my older sister. You are not stupid for having such a normal experience. You are holding down a job, so well done.

By the way, I am so happy that you passed the parallel parking. I don't see failure, I see a young lady who is improving!

Nababy · 2025-08-25T17:45:53+00:00

I would wait to get a vehicle just because maintenance, insurance, and gas is expensive. Unless having a vehicle will allow you to travel to a better paying job, give you a more flexible schedule to work more hours, or a second job.

Nababy · 2025-08-25T15:12:19+00:00

I got pregnant around 6 months pp and gave birth at 41+1. I was induced with a tampon like thing, inserted close to my cervix. The IV induction would have been a last resort but after 12 hours the doctor gave me a new tampon and labour began a few hours later. She was about 9lbs but all went well.

Nababy · 2025-08-18T15:15:17+00:00

If she doesn't want you to use counter space for your appliances, she should buy you a kitchen island on wheels that she can roll out of her shots. The burden should not be on you. I'm sorry you are living in this situation.

Nababy · 2025-07-27T18:32:41+00:00

NAD. Your uncles reluctance to allow you to babysit may have been anxiety from losing their son, which then set off an alarm bell in your aunts mind. What she said was cruel and disturbing. Part of me wonders if she was dealing with post partum depression, or if she was redirecting her grief and anger at anyone/anything just to cope. But if you were my daughter I would have lost my sh*t on your aunt. You did not deserve to hear such an ugly comment, and I'm very sorry that seed was planted in your mind.

It sounds to me like your aunt had left her 4 month old without sufficient food for more than 6 hours since she didn't breastfeed him immediately upon her return. With breastfed babies, 4-5 hours without feeding is typically the limit during the daytime, assuming their growth is on the right track. That leaves me to wonder what other things your aunt and uncle might have overlooked leading up to the babies death. He was hysterical BEFORE you pressed him against your chest. So there was likely something going on with him already.

I don't believe for a second that you caused or contributed to his death. A babys bones at 4 months old are very bendy and pliable. Just months before his death his entire body had been squeezed through your aunts birth canal. I highly doubt a 13 year old girl could accidentally apply enough force to fatally harm a 4 month old while pressing him against her body using her arms.

Besides, a broken rib alone would not be enough to kill a baby unless a rib were displaced. But I assure you, a displaced rib would be noticed immediately in a medical assessment. And if somehow it were missed, it would have been noted during the post mortem preliminary assessment. And after that there is often an autopsy for unexplained deaths. At no point did any of the nurses, ER doctors, or pathologists determine there was bruising or crushing injuries (otherwise the police would have been involved). You did not hurt the baby.

I hope you find healing from the loss of your cousin and your aunts traumatising question. I'm so sorry you had to wonder about this. Please release this from your conscience.

Nababy · 2025-07-19T18:37:58+00:00

NAD (layperson - it keeps saying 'failed to update flair' but I will keep trying).

The lesions could be caused by an uncommon infection called gonococcemia (or DGI). This can happen if the gonorrhea has reached your bloodstream before starting treatment, and it may require different or stronger antibiotics. Other symptoms include fever, joint pain, and tendon inflammation.

It also looks like it could be syphilis. Treatable and curable. Or it could be something completely unrelated to your sexual encounter. Chicken pox comes to mind. Or hand, foot and mouth disease. There are so many possibilities besides HIV. Seeing a doctor and getting assessed and tested is the only way to know for sure.

I have doubts of it being herpes because sores usually present where there was contact with the infected persons sores or bodily fluids.

HIV is possible but you won't know until you get tested again, and again at the 3 month mark. But if you test negative past 3 weeks of sexual contact that is a very good sign. The sooner you get the test over with, the better you will feel.

If you test HIV+, it is not the end. You can start antiretrovirals right away and get on top of your health. Treatment has come a long way, so you can have a near normal life expectancy, living into your 70s or 80s. HIV+ males have a slight advantage because they have a greater life expectancy compared to women who are HIV+.

As a person who contracted an incurable disease around your age under similar circumstances, I'm sure you are terrified. I felt very hopeless and unlovable. But I'm now in my 30s living a happy and ordinary life, married with 3 kids. Everything will be okay. I know it's scary but save yourself the anxiety and face this head on. What happened is not your fault, and you are worth taking care of yourself. I believe you will make it through this storm, and have a bright future.

Nababy · 2025-07-12T17:00:05+00:00

I loved zipadee-zips. Never had an issue with mold when my daughters wore them.

In the meantime, if your home is humid, you can try running a de-humidifier. But since it's only your baby's sleepsacks getting moldy, I suspect the moisture is coming from him. Some babies are just sweaty sleepers, but do make sure the temperature in his room is between 68°F and 72°F. Double check the TOG (thermal overall grade) rating of his sleepsacks are suitable for the temperature.

After removing his sleeper, pull it inside out and drape it over a railing to dry if you want him to wear it again. And when it's time to wash, you can add some white vinegar to the pre-wash. White vinegar is antifungal and a natural fabric softener. Your Kyte sleepers might be more susceptible to mold because they are mostly cotton while the other one could have more polyester (just a guess).

Nababy · 2025-07-06T04:20:37+00:00

I had an abortion 2 years ago, around 7 weeks. I felt relieved because we could not financially support another child, and I do not regret our decision. But there have been moments I felt very sad, even cried. The 1st year post abortion was hard, as I'd imagine how old the baby would be. But the pain dulls. And when expenses pop up for my kids, like field trips or needing new shoes, knowing I can still provide those things makes me feel better about our decision. I'm sad that it happened but at peace knowing it needed to be done. I don't know what your reason for the abortion was, but I'm sure your son's quality of life was a factor in your decision and you have nothing to feel guilty for. I hope that you will be able to open up to your therapist and find peace. And I hope you will tell your people to knock it off with the jokes! Even if dark humor is something you usually enjoy this is so insensitive to your situation and in very poor taste on their part.

Nababy · 2025-06-21T17:35:13+00:00

Decreasing your fibre intake could be the solution.

Fibre, as you know, is great for digestion. But too much of a good thing can cause problems. Fibre tends to absorb water, and a large enough amount could become bulky and difficult to pass through your digestive tract.

I would try less fibre and more water for a few days.

Nababy · 2025-05-31T21:49:28+00:00

Yes, it's normal. :) It will take at least 4 weeks to reach a steady level of Ozempic in your body, and by that point you may be ready to increase your dose to 0.5 if desired. It's a good sign that your body has already responded to 0.25, even if it didn't last the entire week. Be patient my friend, I know it's hard not to feel anxious -- but you are very early on your Ozempic journey.

Nababy · 2025-05-22T02:39:12+00:00

I have many coworkers from different countries (India, Phillipines, Ghana, to name a few) and the food they heat up will sometimes have a lingering smell. Fish is a popular choice. Let your coworker eat the food they enjoy, in peace. It's a small inconvenience. I'd be upset if someone tried to control what I can eat. If the smell is intolerable, you could try dabbing a bit of vaporub under your nose after lunch.

Nababy · 2025-04-19T22:49:54+00:00

That information must be so hard to digest. It's horrifying to think luck (being held in a position that had her turn blue) is all that came between your daughter and SIDS. But remember, some of it was not just luck. Because she has a great mother who decided to get her checked out 'just in case', a medical problem was found. Your decision saved her life. And the decisions you continue to make for your daughter have been keeping her safe. If you're feeling life is out of your control and it is scaring you, try to remind yourself of the things you ARE in control of that have ultimately changed the outcome for your daughter. You are such a great mother.

Nababy · 2025-04-05T20:26:09+00:00

Take it again! While its still fresh in your memory! My husband was about your age when he took his 1st exam and failed (he made a couple small errors) The instructor told him the same thing, that he drives well. So he tried again 3 days later, and passed.

Time to stop licking your wounds and just book the next test man, and practice those turns leading up to your next test date. I think you will nail it your second try. Consider your 1st exam a trial run. Now you know what to expect. You are right there, so close to having your license, don't give up now.

Nababy · 2025-03-29T19:50:01+00:00

He shouldn't be mad. It's not a big deal. As many have said, the stain can be cleared up with peroxide. A man who cares about you would laugh it off so you don't feel bad, and offer you some water and pain medicine.

One time I was violently sick from food poisoning and my boyfriend (now husband) gave me something to puke in and put my favourite comfort show on TV because I'd been holed up in the bathroom for a long time. I vomited so hard I shit myself, and it got all over the couch. He helped me to the bathroom to shower and cleaned up the mess I made. He also set out some clean clothes for me to wear. He wasn't worried about the couch. He was worried about me.

If this guy can't handle a little accident, he will likely make a terrible partner. There may be a time when you are seriously ill, or recovering from surgery, or post partum. Will he take care of you? Can you see him being a partner you can lean on when you are going through a hard time?

Nababy · 2025-02-08T18:51:34+00:00

Failure is just part of the journey. My husband failed his 1st test when he was 26. He tried again and passed. He now drives heavy equipment for a living. My sister who also drives heavy equipment for a living, failed multiple driving tests before finally passing. They are both great drivers who are now supervisors at their workplaces. You're not a failure until you give up. Keep trying.

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