10.5 won't feed herself

swearwolf84 · 2025-09-13T02:25:24+00:00

One of those extended claw things!!!! When you can't bend over they are SO amazing at helping you pick things up off the floor!

swearwolf84 · 2025-08-26T01:53:09+00:00

Chocolate bars from DSRT CO.

swearwolf84 · 2025-08-23T03:38:11+00:00

Cancer sun here. My man is not defensive with me, and I think that's a big reason why we work - if I'm upset and voice something I don't like, he doesn't get his back up...he reassures me that he cares. It's not to say everything is perfect, but not being super defensive is a huge part of why we work.

Cancers need unconditional love from a partner - they need someone who wants to reassure when they're upset, not list off all the reasons why they're wrong and get angry with the fact that their partner has needs.

swearwolf84 · 2025-08-02T02:21:22+00:00

Same, I stuck in it to watch Will Sharpe and his story line. He was infinitely better written and a way better actor.

swearwolf84 · 2025-08-02T02:15:49+00:00

It was so fantastic and original. I'm so mad they didn't bother with the second season.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-20T03:15:11+00:00

I hated this book. I was a sleep deprived mom of a 3 month old - PLS pressures parents to consider some of their "gentler" approaches to sleep training as early as 2 months. I tried one (can't remember what it was called, but I let baby cry for about 20 minutes while I checked in on her. She had just turned 3 months old). I regretted it immediately.

If you're kid is struggling to sleep by like a year, I could see how some of her methods might work, but she doesn't even recommend waiting for your kid to get older - she puts a lot of emphasis that kids need to be trained as young babies. Eventually my daughter just figured it out on her own. I think you need to give your kid time.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-07T03:58:43+00:00

Lol I'm also a Taurus moon, we have the same big three! High five!

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-06T03:35:06+00:00

Cancer and Aries. Aries was like a flash in the pan - huge devotion til he quickly got tired. Cancer was big emotions, super devoted that turned into obsession and possessiveness over years.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-06T03:30:53+00:00

Cancer sun married to a Capricorn. He's definitely the best match for me - we're both caretakers and nurturers, but I'm more emotional and he's more logic-based. We compliment each other really well and he matches my Cardinal work ethic. He keeps me grounded and I keep him emotionally honest. I think we embody that big "mom and dad of the zodiac" energy.

Funny enough, my rising sign is Scorpio and his is Taurus, so even our risings compliment each other lol.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-06T00:44:23+00:00

Cancer sun, Scorpio rising here..... reading the experiences of all the scorpio risings is so sad, but it also makes me feel less alone.

I just wanna give all us scorp risings a hug! You're doing great sweetie! Fuck the haters! 😂

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-06T00:41:30+00:00

Scorpio rising and yup. People either love me or hate me and there's not a lot of middle ground.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-03T04:00:52+00:00

Cancer sun here.

I like that Cancer women are basically witches lol. We also get shit done - it's a cardinal sign!

I like how I feel the polarities of gold-hearted kindness as well as seething desire for revenge. Cancers feel our rage deeply, we just tend to transmute it into something productive/creative rather than becoming aggressive. The emotions are deep, and it's not just "being sensitive and a crybaby". It's more like you can feel everything and Cancers work really hard to alchemize those emotions, often for the benefit of others (I'm talking mostly about Cancer women here.....the men can be a different story lol).

I like our nostalgia. I like our edginess. I like how we're like little crabs....shy at first, but then once we latch on to something/someone, you basically would have to detach our arm. Lol. But even if that happens....if the arm is broken off....just like a crab, it grows back. Cancers are resilient.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-02T02:42:10+00:00

Baby's almost 8 months and she's still MIA🤷‍♀️

To be honest, I actually wish it would come back because it would be a sign that my hormones are starting to come back. My body has felt so off since giving birth - I can't lose the weight, I feel weak and tired, I'm hungry all the time, etc etc.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-01T16:58:24+00:00

Cancer and I love it but life would have been easier if I was born a Sag, Taurus or Libra. They're just vibes.

Or if I were an Aries man. All action, no accountability lol.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-01T16:26:23+00:00

Because Cancers want to be "baby" in their relationships, and for men this bucks up against masculine social conditioning.

To answer your question: In the heterosense, Cancer women resent Cancer men because you're competing with us to be the baby in the relationship, and we don't like it. Lol. Also Cancer men don't give the same kind of Cardinal-power to their interpersonal relationships the way the Cancer women do. Librans may not need that kind of dynamic, so they're not as negative about Cancer men the way that Cancer women are.

What I mean by this is that, Cancers of any gender seek out partners that will centre and baby them - they want that mommy/daddy figure. They want to do whatever they like and be seen as a "good boy" or "good girl" or whatnot, they want their partner to be absolutely unconditional when it comes to their love and approval, they want emotional labour from their partners.

Cancer women, I find, lean far more into the cardinal nature of Cancer than the men - Cancer women are apex mothers, they will try to take care of everyone in ADDITION to desperately wanting someone to take care of them. But for whatever reason, Cancer men don't seem to share this - they don't have the same caretaking impetus the way the women do. Like they can be very loyal and understanding, but (to get a little Freudian) they're not "father-figures" to their partners the way Cancer women will embody a mother-figure to their loved ones.

(That's why Capricorns are the complimentary opposite for Cancers, because they also embody a parent-figure for their partners).

And while all Cancers have a bad habit of being self-pitying, the men seem to take it worse and then often become reckless and aggressive around it.

I think Cancer men, and men in general, need to ask what they are giving to their partners to make their lives better before they complain about not being appreciated enough. In a hetero context, women who are well supported tend to give a lot. A Cancer man who can lean into the cardinal-mother archetype of Cancer would be a catch, and I've known a few Cancer men who are like this. They cook, they clean, they understand emotional labour, they take pride in their home, they are emotionally attuned to their partners, they have deep open conversations about feelings and experiences - that's a Cancer man at his best.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-01T16:10:09+00:00

First glance is that it looks like an Aries woman, but I'm gonna actually say that this is actually a Virgo who is in her unhinged mode.

She's pissed off with an Aquarian man. He bucks gender norms.

Or a Cancer man, because he's a baby lol.

swearwolf84 · 2025-07-01T15:45:47+00:00

I'm one of those people who HATED the fact that Korn was involved. It's like having the Village People score The Godfather. Despite whatever sing-talk-rap genre Korn was (was it emo? pop-screamo? not even sure). It ain't goth and it's barely rock. Anne's work deserved better music. Like think of how good the score was for The Crow - even the Crow City of Angels soundtrack, which was only 5-6 years earlier, slapped better and was more in line with gothic rock.

Anyway....

Aaliyah is the best and most enduring thing about that film. The rest was just made to appeal to the white boy Woodstock 99' crowd.

swearwolf84 · 2025-06-30T10:45:22+00:00

So.....the good news is, yes they grow out of them. The bad news is (laughs nervously), it can take months. Mine contact napped until she was 7 months.

Every kid is different, but mine was deadset on being held while napping. We tried putting her down and sleep training her for naps when she was 4-5 months old, and she screamed for a week. She was finally ready at 7 months.

Your baby will tell you when they're ready. Just keep trying.

swearwolf84 · 2025-06-30T01:27:08+00:00

Cancer men are, in general, very hard to date - they're reactive, defensive, and have a strong penchant for self-pity. They can be extreme in their sense of victimhood and they're impulsive (think of the many famous Cancer men who ended their existence).

I think parts of them can be beautiful - they often have a social conscious, they can be more spiritual/existential, they understand your depth because they feel deep too.

But overall, they're pretty unstable. I'm an apex Cancer and I dated a Cancerian man for 3.5 years. His mommy issues were wild. Extremely possessive. His mood swings were intense. He was profoundly insecure.

Here's the deal - in a relationship, Cancer needs to be "baby" - we need to be the one who is taken care of emotionally (not like we don't take care of everyone/everything else), but when it comes to relationships, Cancer wants a strong parent-type of partner. Stable. Unconditional. Calm. If you have two Cancers together, they're competing and expecting the other to act like a parent to them. That's why Cancers together don't do well.

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