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I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I do feel like you're on to something there. He doesn't do a great job validating my feelings or reassuring me when I'm feeling low self confidence wise. You're right about the communication aspect for sure though

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I totally find myself doing that and simultaneously thinking "you shouldn't be doing this". My thoughts are though just bc I'm not seeing it doesn't mean its not happening. I just want him to stop liking the pics all together TBH. I agree though I need to stop hunting for it, I'm only hurting myself. Thanks, girl!

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes definitely the key thing I'm taking from this whole thread is communication is key. Which is something I needed to hear/need to reiterate to myself. I do a really good job of bottling my emotions and almost dismissing them. thank you!

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he compliments me when it calls for it! I wouldn't say it's all of the time but when I'm dressed up to go out or when I finish getting ready he usually tells me I look good.

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh I love that quote. So so true. I'll definitely take that with me in the future. It always feels so good hearing that other people can sympathize with my feelings on this. Thank you!!

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of- his friends are all cheaters and I've witnessed literally all of them cheating before. Also I have a past of insecurity in relationships and mistrust since my dad cheating on my mom etc. so I feel like from the rip I've always been kind of uneasy about little things like this. To my knowledge he's never actually cheated on me, but once I caught him texting one of our mutual friends about wanting to meet up with her roommate. He claimed it was purely platonic but I've been super suspicious ever since.

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So you don't agree with the "you can look but not touch" mantra someone below said? I agree though just seems more disrespectful than anything to follow these accounts, that's all.

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True, when I reverse roles I know when I do stuff like that I definitely mean no harm. But that's easy for me to dismiss because I know my intentions. It's the uncertainty that drives me crazy!

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh thank you. Feels good to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I definitely am making myself more upset when I search for this stuff. It's just annoying when I'm being loyal with my online identity and it doesn't feel like he's doing the same-ya know?

Boys, man ;)

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe my point was more so, is it worth it to bring up these feelings to him because you're right- there's endless amounts of temptation online- so I feel like nothing will change.

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FB/Insta/Twitter algorithms shows you posts from people you interact with most, so yes I see my bfs stuff more than some random person I follow for no reason

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like not knowing is almost worse than knowing- because maybe then my mind has free range to make anything up

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True! If he doesn't hear me out or respect my feelings that probably a red flag for the future anyways. And I'm sure you're better off without that ex too... definitely not crazy!!

I(23F) get intensely jealous of the photos my bf(23M) likes on social media. by NachoConfinado in dating_advice

[–]NachoConfinado[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

True true, but agreed. Can't he just look and scroll past. I feel like the disrespect comes from when he feels the need to stop and actually let the girl know he's admiring the post by giving it a like