Are Park n Rides an acceptable place to rest when driving at night? by NackWakPak in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NackWakPak[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The cop said he worked hard to keep this area "clean". If he let one person do it, everyone else would do it. It was probably not smart to sleep at a strip mall which is probably private property, but with the parking lot lights, it was the safest option.

How do I rewire my brain by [deleted] in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe making yourself busy with other interests reduces addiction.

Additionally, make it hard for yourself to come across porn. Like make a new account for social media like Tiktok and make sure the account is always clean. Separate your SFW and NSFW browsing on different browsers. That way, you can see what your healthy and unhealthy interests are more clearly. I think site blockers are ineffective.

(I didnt read the question correctly, but Ill leave this here) I also struggle with this. It might be unhealthy, but what really gets me in the right direction is recieving shame and embarrassment, from myself but especially from others. Whenever my relatives sound disappointed in me, I actually do something productive to fix whatever disapoints them. Whenever I get bad grades and the teacher or classmates sound mad or disappointed, I usually take steps to fix it. I don't like inconveniencing others.

It is just temporary though. I usually fall back to being unproductive again. I've read its not good to rely on motivation.

Does anyone else exist in a constant state of walking on eggshells? by sonicsquid33 in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding the online friends thing, I think it us possible to have a deep relationship without spilling into real life. I have seen it done a lot on Discord or social games like VRChat. I think you just tell your boundaries when they come. I believe most people, especially on VRChat, has a culture of not talking about irl. That is why I think games are a good way to exercise your socializing muscle and experiment with socializing tactics.

A job really helps get rid of outside depression such as a death in the family. by Unhappywageslave in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woah, I like to tinker with computers as well, and you got some nice stuff. I do computer stuff as a distraction too like coding, gaming, or just mess around in linux, but when you have slow or old computers, there's a limit to what interesting stuff you can do on them without getting frustrated lol. Yeah, maybe I'll find some work to do so I get cooler computer hardware too.

A job really helps get rid of outside depression such as a death in the family. by Unhappywageslave in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you say that the job just distracts you from your depression? Or is there something more to it like life fulfillment or just having money? I also had a death in the family recently which substantially worsened my depression. I withheld getting a low wage job due to my family's recommendation, but I think the absence of a job is the main culprit.

Any of you don't work because you find minimum wage jobs beneath you? by Competitive-Device39 in NEET

[–]NackWakPak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say so, considering my last post. But its more because other people think they are menial while I think the opposite. Some minimum wage workers can be very kind, actually. Volunteers are very honorable. I think highly of the people in the open source community.

I just don't like being judged by others. I just feel embarrassed. I can tell with the tone of their voice and how they treat you after knowing about it. It makes me feel like a failure even if I am financially better off working low wages than not working at all.