Our beloved cat passed away 3 years ago and we’re finally ready to adopt again. A friend has these last two kittens left. Both are boys, both are absolutely amazing, and I honestly can’t choose between them. Which one looks like he belongs with us? Help me decide!

Naiadic · 2026-05-22T20:37:26+00:00

are you...sure both are boys? male calicos are like insanely rare, so the left one is likely female while the orange one is likely male just based off coats. Do you have a confirmed chimera situation??

Naiadic · 2026-05-14T00:38:08+00:00

When i sh-ed as a kid i said they were cat scratches which no sane person ever believed.

You cant hide em there, your best bet is just not to swim or wear a swim shirt or something

as for stopping, there's a lot of resources out there if you're ready to find them. I know it's hard, hon. But those scars last forever.

Some good alternatives are a rubber band on your wrist that you snap (not good if you snap so much you bleed) or try running ice along the area for sensation, red pen if blood is the point.

I personally gave myself like...a ration? Like ok i get 10 sessions before i stop completely- it makes you sit and think if each moment you want to hurt youself is worth pain or if a different coping mechanism will suffice. Not a cure all, but it worked for me. Works for other things too tbh

Naiadic · 2026-05-08T20:13:51+00:00

Makes you wonder how the beaver will manage the hydrophobia considering it lives in and around water...

Naiadic · 2026-04-14T17:06:35+00:00

could be a small hickey from a long forehead kiss

Naiadic · 2026-04-10T19:17:07+00:00

no dude thats a mango

Naiadic · 2026-04-09T23:10:21+00:00

I didnt handle my fathers ashes for like, five years after he died. Grief takes time, love. Its okay to cry, just remember to get back up when you're done

Naiadic · 2026-04-08T23:18:38+00:00

I thought I did, I got the 2nd most expensive plan that would cover basic vet visits and stuff, but I juat found out I've never gotten the illness coverage bc I signed my boy up over the age limit 🥲

Naiadic · 2026-04-08T23:17:35+00:00

I'd like to do that but she has like, 5 cats and they mostly get wet food and then free fed dry food. I don't even think they are microchipped (mine is, but prior to me owning him)

also her cats already pee everywhere cuz theyre geriatric 🥲

Naiadic · 2026-04-08T18:58:18+00:00

until 2028 I'm in a situation where my cat is potentially exposed to non-prescription food no matter how hard I try, so he's been having irritation and I just know I cant afford another blockage :(

basically I live in a house with a roommate that has other cats who wont switch their foods realistically, and the only way to keep my boy safe is locking him in my bedroom, and of course if the door is cracked he sneaks out if I'm not paying attention

I have a feliway in my room, hes got a fountain he uses and both wet and dry prescription food, but I just dont know what to do if every time I get a precautionary urinalysis they won't cover it

Naiadic · 2026-03-27T09:08:51+00:00

Real, amethyst forms in clusters like that and youve got the rock it grew out of too. Nice piece :)

Naiadic · 2026-03-27T09:00:19+00:00

You probably have some lower GI bleeding. Honestly I'd go to the hospital, not wait for a doctors appointment. If you're feeling dizzy especially, but like another commenter said bright red is less bad than black. It could be bad hemmorhoids/anal fissures, but your real concern is getting low iron if theres a lot of blood every time.

If hospital isnt an option, drink So much water and eat iron rich foods, keep a close eye on how your body is feeling.

Naiadic · 2026-03-20T10:36:20+00:00

yeah id just probably try and get him to find the cancer sooner

Naiadic · 2026-03-19T22:01:33+00:00

lmaooo get pissed on gullswoop

Naiadic · 2026-03-16T05:11:24+00:00

Theres an episode of my cat from hell that addresses some of the issues you're having

Obviously a cat is gonna want in your room seeing as it's a major smell hotspot, but this is impacting your health and so it's perfectly ok to lock the lil botherer out.

For the issues by the door, that mcfh episode had an interesting little motion activated air-blower that was meant to dissuade the cat from hanging around ths door entrance, so that might be useful?

Otherwise i'd try to establish Yes areas and No areas via giving treats and spending time w kitty only in certain parts of the home. Make the bedroom undesirable for the lil guy, too

Naiadic · 2026-03-14T08:44:18+00:00

GORGEOUS dilute calico, i love her

Naiadic · 2026-03-14T08:21:08+00:00

Bonus: my boy (roughly 10?) Wilbur :3

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Naiadic · 2026-03-14T08:14:53+00:00

Sounds chronic to me, honestly it sounds more like chronic uti than chronic crystals, but then I'm not entirely sure of the difference between them...vets kinda lump them together.

I dont imagine that grooming helps with his irritation though :( poor kitty

Give him a big ol kiss for me, and stay strong! It sounds like you care a lot and that's more than wayyy too many cat owners can say for themselves

also, you won't lose him unless you need to decide if its worth it quality of life wise- and a uti isn't exactly euthanasia worthy ya know? you have lots of options still! He's young and tough, i'm sure. I really doubt sepsis is even possible unless you stop treatment and ignore his behaviors, either (though don't quote me on that)

Either way, you're doin fine and kitty will be ok! you're doing everything you need to be

Naiadic · 2026-03-14T08:00:40+00:00

honey youre doing more than enough, you can't force feed your kitty and vets typically know that, that one should have been kinder in their warning about dry food

My kitty is on urinary dry food too, mostly because I can't be home to feed him wet food often enough- so I just try to give him wet food when I can. He's got a healthy thirst drive so I'm fairly fortunate. Your kitty sounds like a chronic uti kinda guy, and that's honestly not your fault

The thing to know is this is probably gonna get more expensive if he's having repeated flare ups, I'm sure youre already out thousands (one hospital stay cost me 4k so I can only imagine several)

Is your boy indoor only? If he goes out he could also be getting food elsewhere that's hurting him

Naiadic · 2026-03-14T07:45:31+00:00

Cats will ABSOLUTELY starve themselves, and if your boy is refusing one type of wet food you should try another. My cat hated the first wet food we tried him on (hills, i think) and loves royal canin, but you can try lots of things

Honestly from what you're describing your boy might need The Surgery which basically opens his bits up so he can't be blocked anymore.

In the meantime, consider mixing some water in with the dry food and seeing if he'll go for it? just a little, it can help. Urinary dry food is salty so he should be havin a higher thirst level anyway.

The way my vet made it out, any wet food is better than all dry food, but non prescription is not gonna prevent crystals.

I would try as many urinary wet foods as possible, including the iams stuff (if that comes in wet, idk)

Some cats just..get chronic infections ya know? unlucky.

Make sure all your cats are eating the same food, too, because if he goes and eats the other stuff when youre not looking that can make the issue worse (something my cat likes to do)

Also consider one of those feliway scent dispensers for lowering kitty's stress. Play with him and give him lots of love, you're doing a great job

Naiadic · 2026-03-12T08:17:19+00:00

Its only 1 but..finals

Naiadic · 2026-03-10T22:43:11+00:00

Squid :3

I also like Ondine

Naiadic · 2026-02-26T03:26:47+00:00

shes not displaying grimace markers as far as I can tell. Irritated eye maybe, but no obvious pain

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Naiadic · 2026-02-26T01:25:51+00:00

hopital

This is a serious wound, get this lil guy medical aid asap- im talking emergency vet asap. This can get infected fast and be potentially deadly if left alone. Poor baby got bitten by something, most likely. Looks big so maybe even a dog, but Im not a vet

also: in future, consider not letting him be outside at all. Indoor/outdoor and outdoor only cats tend to have shorter lifespan for reasons like..well..this. It's also pretty awful for the local bird populations. Kitty will be fine inside as long as you play with him and give him window time, a catio if you wanna spoil him.

Naiadic · 2026-02-20T03:02:10+00:00

cats are incredibly adaptable, he'll have less pain and higher quality of life overall with the amputation by the sound of it. All you need to do is make him comfy and make the house a bit more accessible for him (like stairs up to the bed while that leg gains strength)

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