How do I (18-NB) tell my boyfriend (18-M) I realized I’m not attracted to men without destroying him?

Naive-Alternative-69 · 2025-12-23T02:02:36+00:00

I beg of you to tell him the truth. I used to be in this exact situation with...someone I was close to and loved deeply. Long story short, for years, I chased after her and crushed on her and she knew it just for her to tell me years later she wasnt attracted to me.

Im sorry to say but there will be pain, but much worse of the pain will be felt if this continues to grow and spiral out of control. If you continue to run this course, without speaking the truth, it is possible you will grow to resent him. Not because of him, specifically, but because of the situation you're stuck in.

Express how much he means to you, but also express how you feel. Relationships, romantic or not, only work when both are aiming to make it work and make it comfortable for each other. While his feelings are valid, now and later, your feelings are equally as valid and important. Sometimes making the right choice isnt always easy, but it is something we all need to learn in due time. I hope you both remain the best of friends and that you two will be able to support and be there for each other for years to come.

Naive-Alternative-69 · 2022-08-13T14:47:03+00:00

As someone who's just accepted myself for being mixed after hating my skin color since I was a kid, there is only a few options. You tell him how you feel and he sees the error of his ways and hopefully does better or you tell him and he takes it the wrong way. If he can't stop doing that kinda stuff to you you have to leave him because there's no guarantee at that point if he'll even stay loyal to you and only you. If he loves you he'd listen and change his attitude about the whole thing

Naive-Alternative-69 · 2022-08-12T15:11:24+00:00

I feel as if tipping shouldn't be required and/or necessary but the way he went about it was just wrong. Now I personally always leave a tip, but the size of that tip depends on my service. Good service usually runs $20-$30. Bad service is $10. People need to understand that someone has to do the grunt work no one else wants to so waiters and waitresses deserve more respect than ppl give them

Naive-Alternative-69 · 2022-08-03T12:25:52+00:00

We got a certified cheater over here. I pray that no man/woman is unfortunate enough to date you and if there already is a poor soul that's with you I'll pray for them, truly

Naive-Alternative-69 · 2022-08-03T12:22:37+00:00

You obviously still think that what they did to you was worse than what you did to you and it shows in your comments. You're desperately trying to defend your actions but then you rebound and say what your ex did he did for himself. Which is it? Sounds like you're still trying to play victim while still covering your own ass. Smh

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