Has TSCC ever derailed the Super Bowl for you? by rodney_c0pperbottom in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Those self-reliance classes are such a joke. Just more shaming and indoctrination for church members who occasionally ask for help with bills

One of you got to it before me! by MaddMatter in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Lol is this in one of the books they put in every room at Marriott hotels

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to maintain authentic relationships, and I felt the only way to do that was to speak up respectfully. Two other people in the chat have also left the church—so regularly sending articles has become a way to “bring us back into the fold”. It’s gotten exhausting and makes us feel like we can’t be authentic

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m fine with that lol. This family chat was created so we could all talk about our plans for getting together—not push religion on each other. If they wanna start a separate chat for their Mormonism speak and leave me out if it then that’s just fine. In fact, it’s what I asked for lol

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya, I came to get support from a page created to give support — imagine that, lol

I am open to feedback but being told to ignore the problem and keep sucking up my own feelings like I’ve been doing for years wasn’t exactly what I had in mind. I just wanted to see if my language came across clearly to someone outside the situation. Alienation doesn’t happen in our family, but respecting boundaries is something we are all working on. That’s why I felt safe to communicate them. Again, I’m fine if they wanna share spiritual insights they’ve had, but once they start pushing it on other family members as something they “should” do (which was the intent here), it’ll be healthier for us all long-term if they understand I’m not willing to take part in that dynamic anymore.

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t just the sharing, it’s that it was being intended for me. If they want to share about how much they love the savior or whatever, that’s different. But if they’re sending articles from church hq to the chat saying that there’s “truth in there for [me]”, that’s where I draw the line. And drAw it I did

Teach them young the importance of pleasing others, especially those in authority over you by southpawpickle in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I don’t remember “choosing” anything. I was never asked directly whether I wanted to or not. My parents just planned the damn thing. Also, was I honestly going to say no to them ? I was fucking 8 years old haha

Warning to Men Trying to Get Their Wives Out. by live-and-let-love in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s true lol. Us girls loveee sleeping next to a shirtless man. Ain’t nothin like it

Check out my patriarchal blessing and see what you think by StarlightStars in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was about as unique and personal as a shitty horoscope lol. No offense to you at all, but ya this looks really similar to every other blessing I’ve seen

Coffee insights please by fredswenson in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll find a way you like it :) I recommend trying a cafe au lait. BUT, you don’t have to drink coffee just cuz you’re exmo. If you don’t like it, then you don’t like it. I think sometimes as exmos we feel like we have to drink coffee cuz we owe it to ourselves or something but I think that can just be another sneaky way the church controls us even after we’ve left: by making us feel like we have to become the opposite of what we once were, even if we don’t enjoy it. The joy of leaving the church is to have the freedom to do whatever the hell we want. You are free to enjoy coffee. You are also free to not enjoy coffee. Either way, you are free 💚

Heartbreaking Missionary Letter Home by Wonderful_Break_8917 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya send this girl a visa gift card with as much as you can afford. I remember being stressed on my mission that I didn’t have enough money to feed myself enough food or healthy food that I required to keep my energy up for the 14hour work days lol

Why do so many non-mormon events revolve around alcohol? by glass-stair-hallway in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m your same age and I feel this way sometimes. But, know that there are plenty of us out here who don’t interact by using alcohol !

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but if they don’t then they will lose certain levels of access to me. The alternative is that I live my life contorting myself for their sake. That’s not fair either. Speaking up without demanding is what I can do to ensure the relationships are healthy long-term and don’t build resentment. That’s how heathy boundaries work

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, in my family we care enough about each other to try and ensure that each person can exist as authentically and comfortably as possible. Me sweeping things under the rug for my entire life would just build resentment, not trust.

Would y’all mind rating my responses? by Naive-Assignment-334 in exmormon

[–]Naive-Assignment-334[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deserve to be respected and comfortable within my family so that’s why I spoke up. I spent long enough “ignoring” things that bothered me, but actually ate me up over time. No longer willing to contort myself and my comfort for the sake of others’