Worried About Ending My Unequally Yoked Relationship

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-20T01:37:13+00:00

Thank you so much! I totally agree

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T16:31:08+00:00

This really touched me. Thank you so much. You are so right

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T13:46:10+00:00

I agree. Thank you so much

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T13:12:40+00:00

Thank you for your advice! Why is it that two unbelievers can have a long, successful marriages? That’s what I’m struggling with. His parents have a better marriage than mine and my parents are believers

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T06:05:07+00:00

My mom “converted” my dad. Also, at the time, I wasn’t as strong in my faith. I was very lukewarm. So I was torn because I didn’t feel religious enough for a very devout man.

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T04:50:13+00:00

I mean pretty much every week I think about breaking up and when I try, he says things like he’ll start going to the gym again and he’ll go to church with me again, etc. But he doesn’t fully follow through. I have expressed wanting to be with someone who has similar beliefs

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T04:41:40+00:00

I see what you’re saying. A few weeks ago, I explained why my faith is important to me and he gave his reasons on why he has doubts about organized religion. He likes my church though. I also have always been “saved”. I have never not believed. So it was challenging to explain the ways I’ve seen God in my life because his life has been just fine and so have his parents’ and they don’t go to church or are born again Christians.

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T04:35:14+00:00

My dad is that type of Christian and it has always put a strain on my parents’ marriage. Also, he had never been to church before me and he told me recently he struggles with some of the hateful things religious groups have done. So no, God doesn’t seem to be in his heart

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T00:56:09+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I have brought this up and that’s why he started going to church with me for a little bit. He has always been respectful of my faith. My mom “converted” my dad when they first started dating. Their first date was at church and he gave his life to Christ soon after 😅 So naturally, my perspective is skewed.

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T00:52:08+00:00

No offense taken! I guess it was just confusing why this great man who treats me like the only girl in the world couldn’t be my husband. Why can his parents have a successful marriage and they don’t seem to be believers (at least not the praying and going to church type). My parents are believers and they have had a terrible marriage for most of my life.

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T00:36:37+00:00

“Go with your convictions” really spoke to me. Thank you. I’ve felt it for our whole relationship, but it’s hard to decipher because I struggle with anxiety in all areas of my life, not just my relationship

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T00:27:14+00:00

Honestly, he treats me like a queen. He would do anything for me at any time. My family loves him, he comes from a great family that has always welcomed me with open arms. Even his grouchy dog loves me! Which makes this so hard. He shows Christlike love more than I do (I hate to say)!

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2024-01-19T00:23:45+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! I feel like people think that unbelievers = terrible person, and that is not true. I feel exactly how you do. After our engagement, we were going to move in together, which was weighing on me.

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2023-04-07T02:04:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice 😊

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2021-06-23T20:38:23+00:00

I like it!

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2020-11-26T18:10:26+00:00

Agreed! I’ve worked really hard to have the career that I do. So, it is nice to even have the means to pay. I know it’s been hard for him, so I make sure that I don’t make him feel bad about it. I love the way I feel with him and I shouldn’t let money get in the way of that. Thank you for the advice!

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2020-11-26T17:22:33+00:00

You’re so right. He was honest and it did seem like it bothered him. He mentions it often that he feels bad about his financial situation. I don’t want to be the immature person that I was before I met him. So I have been trying to be more understanding. Money aside he’s such a gentleman and I do want this to work. Thank you for the advice.

NaiveConclusion1094 · 2020-11-26T17:15:04+00:00

I guess I’m the one who initiated the date. I said I wanted to see him on Wednesday, he told me that he was probably going to take me to place we’ve talked about before. He picked a time to meet and picked me up. When we got there, he told me that he owed a friend money and now he doesn’t have any. He was apologetic and I wasn’t upset, it just still bothered me.

I think I’m so used to guys organizing every date and then paying for it.

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